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writes:Hi there,I recently attended Reading festival (and had an amazing time!) and i was approached by a girl who couldn't find her friends on the first night and was lost. I lent her my phone to call her friends but she couldn't contact them so i said she should hang around with us for the night as opposed to being alone. So we had a good night watching bands etc, she then gave me her number and said that she had no credit but i should contact her to meet up later in the night or weekend (we were there for 5 days). Another friend then said that she had admitted to liking me however and because i have a girlfriend i thought it inappropriate to contact her especially as my girfriend was at home and i didn't want to lead anyone on and thought best to leave it alone. Now 5 days on i feel guilty for not at least texting to see if she found her friends ok and if she was having a good weekend. I don't like people to think badly of me as i was genuinely concerned but i'm not sure my gf would understand if i was texting and arranging to meet other girls especially if there was a chance she liked me. Was this wrong of me? It is bugging me now and i am contemplating sending a text just to see how her weekend went and if she is alright or is this an even worse idea? should i leave well alone and forget it all? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.Many thanks for your time :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2009): I think you should text her, she might be stressing over it because she liked you, and thinking she did something wrong that put you off. I think just a simple text, like "Hi, did you find your friends ok the other night? Was nice meeting you. Hope I didn't give you the wrong idea because I have a girlfriend." Easy. Please do this, it's torture wondering why a guy hasn't called you, and hoping for ages that he will!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 September 2009): You did the right thing... I don't think you owed her any explanation at the time, and certainly don't owe her any follow-up. Your GF is lucky...
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (3 September 2009):
No, you're not being rude by not checking in with her. However, I'm sure she'll probably be thinking what a lot of girls think which is, "I thought we had a good time, I liked hanging out with him, but he didn't call me! What a jerk!" She doesn't know the situation that you're in and that you have a girlfriend, so it's totally justified. Don't worry about it, because if you do call her, it will lead her on. It will lead her to believe that you're interested in her, so just erase her number.
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reader, boo22 +, writes (3 September 2009):
 Hi there, Thanks for helping that girl out at reading. I know how that feels cos i got lost at Glastonbury once, lol. You were there for her when she needed you. Please dont feel you owe her any more than that cos you dont. I'm sure she knows why you haven't been in touch anyway. She may of got off with someone else there for all you know, anything could have happened. You were her guardian angel at that time. Don't feel bad, feel good about yourself x
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reader, Heartbroken in love +, writes (3 September 2009):
yea man leave it alone. you don't know this girl your not gonna see her again. If you love your GF leave the freak alone
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reader, shygrl86 +, writes (3 September 2009):
 You are doing the right thing.
Don't contact her. She is not any of your business considering that you are in a relationship.
If you text her then she knows that you are thinking about her and that could lead her on.
Or if it is really bothering you, talk to your girlfriend and ask her what she thinks you should do and if she would help you to do it so this girl dosn't take things the wrong way.
I wish more guys were like you.
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reader, JAKE_THOMAS94 +, writes (3 September 2009):
hi you should of told the girl at reading that you was seeing someone as soon as you knew she liked you i dought she would have minded tbh just ask to be friends instead you should text her asking her hows your weekend she might not want to be your friend otherwise hope this helped peace x
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