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writes:So, Im in a really complicated situation right now... I have this friend who used to be my bestfriend untill the end of the last school year. We were super close but then, he let his old girlfriend get in the way of our friendship, so there was nothing I could do about that I guess.So he had a girlfriend of about two years who hated me! She always thought i was going to steal her boyfriend or whatever. I can see why she thought that because me and him were super clos, but that's no reason to be so dumb with me. Before summer started he basically chose his gf over me so I was like ok the and i decided not to talk to him anymore. Right before school started I found out that him and his gf broke up and he started talking to me again! I thought it was so weird though. The first time we started to talk (at school) there was a girl with him but he didn't introduce her or anything. He actually left her standing there to come and talk to me for the first time the whole summer. Let's just say it was very akward! Anyways, I didn't know who this girl was but i barely noticed so I didn't think much of it. On the first day of school me and him where standing there talking and all of a sudden that girl walked up and tried like pulling him away from me! I was like ummm ok what just happened?I later found out that she was his new gf! I was like whoa why didn't he just tell me instead of making me look stupid?! At lunch we would all sit together so i got used to his new gf and I'm not really friends with her, but she's an alright person so I'm okay with her I guess.Recently, I started talking to my old bestfriend's ex (the one that hated me). It is really weird though! And then, i found out that My friend is cheating on his gf with his ex! I feel really bad for his gf and feel like I should say something! At the same time though, I kind of want my bestfriend back so I don't know if I should say something or maybe confront him about it?I just really wish he would trust me with things like he used to. I really don't know what to do in this situation and I am very confused... Any advice?Also, any advice on fixing a friendship? me and my firend haven't talked about anything that caused our friendship to break and I don't know how to bring it up or even begin that discussion.Please help someone!
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reader, bride2b +, writes (1 September 2009):
i totally agree! keep quiet! u never kno... it could just be the girl who didn't like you planning to break them up so that she could get back with your friend and eliminating you in the process by trying to make you the tattle-tale. it is their business not yours.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (1 September 2009):
Personally, I choose not to have close guy friends, so no advice on repairing that relationship. However, I would suggest you stay out of their little love triangle. If you start telling one person what's going on...you will end up being the "bad guy." Act like you never heard anything, your lips are sealed. It is their business, so even though you know, don't say a word. Just listen to whatever people have to tell you, but don't repeat it to anyone. People like to have a scapegoat when they are doing something wrong, they will say you're two-faced, and can't mind your own business. Stay out of it.
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