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writes:I have a women and I love her but I like having sex with other women. I want to get help for my promblem. What can i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (31 August 2009):
 How about growing up?If you cheat on your GF, you don't love her.THAT IS IMPOSSIBLE!Or you are a serial cheater, or a sex addict. But I tend to think that people who claim to suffer from sex addiction are really looking for a justification as to why they are selfish.The whole sex addiction route is a racket for most. I suggest you just learn to grow up and think about people whom you claim to love before you make nay more stupid decisions.Tell me to Google sex addiction all you want, but come on people...just because it's on the internet does not make it so...get a grip!
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (30 August 2009):
See a therapist? Learn self control? I don't cheat, so I don't know how to tell you to stop, but I've had opportunities. I think of things, like how my boyfriend would have felt if I told him I cheated on him, how he would react, the look on his face, and how I felt hiding that guilt. So that's why I never do it, I don't want to cause pain to someone I love just so I can screw someone else. It's all a matter of self control, we all have it.
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reader, bitterblue  +, writes (30 August 2009):
 You like having sex with other women than your partner. Google "sex addiction". If the urge to cheat is very intense and difficult to control, you need to address a therapist. If it is an addiction, these usually spring in exchange for other needs that are not met: the need for sex in exchange for the need to have a meaningful, loving relationship, that you lack, for instance. Not many women will gladly turn a blind eye to infidelity, if you care to have a stable family you will give this matter all your attention. The first thought that comes to mind is a morally weak character that you have but it should help to check the medical reasons behind this. Until you get this sorted out by talking to a therapist, think of the following: put on paper very convincingly why you should "bravely" resist temptations (the terrible feeling of guilt that follows, the risky exposure to STDs, etc) and either read it or recite to yourself what you wrote, whenever you are tempted; stay away from temptations as much as you can (meetings one-on-one with female friends, etc). I suggest that you seek and go to counselling with your partner. She must be hurt by your behaviour and will also profit from the benefits of it.
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