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writes:Ok so Ive met this one guy online a few months. We live close and I actually found that we go to the same college. Well we met one day and hit it off. He is a sweetheart and I really like him. I think he has serious boyfriend potential. He is pretty much pefect and exactly my type. Problem is: I think he is waaay to young for me. I just turned 22 a couple weeks ago. He is still 19, going to be 20 in November. I dont know what to do because I feel like the age difference is holding me back from being with him. One minute the age difference seems like a huge deal, one minute it doesnt. I dont know, what does everyone think? Reply to this Question
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reader, MissNoName  +, writes (1 September 2009):
I Think Ages Doesnt Matter at all. All My Boyfriends have been at least 5 years older than me. age is just a number if you like this guy why is a silly number holding you back ?
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (31 August 2009):
 Go out a few times see how you feel. Take it slow, take it easy. When you say you "think" he is way to young for you do you mean his maturity or the number on his drivers license?I think 22 and 20 (19) is fine. I dated a guy who was 10 years older then me ( I was 25 - he was 35) and I tell you he was WAY more immature then me it turned out lol, so you can't always tell just by the number. See if you have things in common, likes, dislikes, music, hobbies, interests, values... if you don't, well then you most likely will have a few fun dates and move on, if you do, it might be the beginning of something wonderful :)Good luck,
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reader, good listener +, writes (31 August 2009):
hi there ,firstly u cant put an age on love ,i myself have had feelings for someone younger than myself ,its always the same answer to your questions ...like what will people think ,what you have to ask yourself is how he makes you feel and if he mkes you happy ,happyness is the key ,and nobody can live your life for you ,if the age does get in the way for other reasons to do with yourself and him personaly then thats something you need to sort out between you ,but i would not worry as the age gap is not that greater diffrence ,you only get one chance at this life its not a rehersal ,so i suggest you live it how you choose to
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reader, lowrider +, writes (31 August 2009):
Advice from an old folgie. Right now it seems like a huge age gap but let me reassure you it isn't. To me it would be the MATURITY that should matter, age is a number. Maturity will determine whether you two will hit it off. That said, please be careful. Meet in neutral places until you feel secure and then keep your wits about you. I hope you two do hit it off but look at his actions and how he treats you. That should determine your relationship future.
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (31 August 2009):
 There is more age gap here than is apparent. Our original poster is right to be nervous. The maturity difference between the average 19 year old male and the average 22 year old female is about 7-10 years. The drinking age difference is also a good point. She knows her real maturity level better than we do and has more information to evaluate his. Dating him would be a good way to know better how compatible you are. I mean casual not committed dating. Many people these days think you have to have a life contract to share a dinner and movie, (BTW mini golf is a better date because you can talk more), To old folks like me dating is getting to know you before we get committed. I'd recommend getting to know him better before you decide.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2009): Forget the age difference. It's how you interact that matters. When I was 16 I dated a girl who was 21. It all seemed normal to us. It all depends on how you get along. Plus older girl with younger guy is a great sex combination.
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (31 August 2009):
I would say to try it out and see how it goes, everyone is different. I've dated a guy 3 years younger and a friend of mine has too, but as most of us know, guys mature slower and it may show. Another thing could be that since you're "of age" to drink and go out to bars/clubs, it could cause conflict if you're into that scene. However, my dad is 7 years younger than my mom (she was 30 and he was 23) and well they've been married for 26 years. So, I see no harm in giving it a try.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (31 August 2009):
 I think that you should give him a try and see what it leads to. You might be pleasantly surprised. Two years is not that much, and you might end up having some of the best times of your life.
Good luck.
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