do I really need to pretend to be incompetent to make a guy stick around?
Q. I am a 26 year old single mother of two. I work a full time job, and am a full time mom. I live on my own with my kids, their dad lives over 1000 miles away. I pay all my own bills, etc... In other words, I'm completely independent. My kids dad and ...
A. 14 February 2012: Your not.
He just wasn't the right one... (read in full...)
My sister-in-law is a cougar and I think it's unwise
Q. My sister-in-law is a 43 year old single mom to an autistic son. He is now 15 years old. Now that he is getting older she is getting back into the dating scene. She has been divorced for more than 10 years now. Good for her, I think. The p...
A. 12 February 2012: 26 isnt that young. BUt the age gap is quite large. I know people who are more then 20 years apart who are very happy together and people who are teh same age who hate eachother.
We like who we like. Maybe she will realise that she needs somethin... (read in full...)
"how do I attract boys?"
Q. (Note: The good advice is at the bottom. Read through for a laugh) I see this so often nowadays. mostly it's girls who want their first kiss, or a boyfriend, or whatever, and they ask us what they need to do to get a boyfriend. So I'm...
A. 12 February 2012: My sister was complaining about not meeting the right guys, Im definately forwarding this to her.
Odds coments are good too.
Im one of those guys who will need a girl to hold up a sign saying "I like you ideot, ask me out already". She wi... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is much more casual about sex than I am. Can we make this work?
Q. My girlfriend and I are both in our 40's and we are not virgins. However, she is much more experienced (I was in a relationship for a very long time) and has a much more casual attitude about sex than I do. I am really wary about sleeping with a ...
A. 12 February 2012: Your very uptight.
The only way to solve this is by talking with her. Let her help you though it, and then enjoy :)... (read in full...)
My gf cancelled our date last minute. Could this mean she doesn't like me?
Q. This may be a stupid question but it's been on my mind all day. I've been dating this girl now for a little less than 2 months. Due to our busy schedules we have only gone on 4 dates so far but we communicate when we have time in between. Toda...
A. 12 February 2012: I wouldn't read too much into it, I had an oversheduled gf once aswell. It's just how it is with them.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't answer phone or want to hang out with me
Q. My boyfriend barely wants to hang out with me. It was totally fine the first week we were dating but now he barely responds to my texts and doesnt answer his phone when I call but if I call off of someone elses phone he answers. Im kinda scared that ...
A. 12 February 2012: Sorry the sign's arnt looking good, he doesnt want you in his life, but doesnt have the guts to say goodbye.
These type of relationship's are poison and will hurt you alot in the long run.
My honest advice is to dump him and let youself move... (read in full...)
I am against drinking but b/f has started to drink! How do I deal with this?
Q. I was wondering, how much action i should take or not take with my boyfriend and alcohol. hear me out. I was raised in a very religious home, i have never even SEEN alcohol outside of TV/ads/in the store. In highschool, I never was around t...
A. 12 February 2012: How about you ask him not to drink around you, but say its ok when he's out with friends. Obvously not coming back drunk to you.
That would solve the issue I think, and make it a guy night kinda thing for him.
... (read in full...)
How can teens delay teen sex?on how to avoid early sex
Q. Please provide advice for teens on how to avoid early sex There are many pressures on teens and everyone wants to feel like they are like every one else. And not be different from friends. And so many people think they are successful if they can be w...
A. 21 August 2011: Well you could try what a workmate of myne has unwittingly done.
She is too busy to have a BF, always going to family functions or hanging out with friends.
You know you can have a bf and just make out.....you dont have to go further....just ... (read in full...)
Is there anyone genuine on the internet?
Q. Has anybody met anyone genuine on the internet? I have met some really rude people and am beginning to wonder if it's me. Met one guy who sent me an email with bullet points saying why he didn't want to meet again. Another guy brought 3 con...
A. 21 August 2011: The age old question: How to only meet the good ones? Sadly I dont think the internet is going to help. Although I havent used a dating site, I do play a few online games (evony and wow, youd be amazed at how many LDRs are on evony), the peopl... (read in full...)
Boyfriend broke up with me and doesn't want to talk to me
Q. so upset me and my boyfriend has just split up he said i dont make him happy like i use to do and that he doesnt want to get together im devastated, he seems odd around me like he doesnt wanrt to talk i feel really bad that iv made him fel like that ...
A. 12 August 2011: If a relationship is over, then the best thing to do is let it go. Your now just making yourself unhappy for no real reason.
dont worry theres plenty more where he came from... (read in full...)
Does playing hard to get work and how can you do it?
Q. hi all can someone please answer this question does a woman playing hard to get with a man she really likes work and how should i go about it? thanks ...
A. 3 July 2011: It doesnt work on me, ill forget you and hit on your friend instead. just saying....... (read in full...)
Why do more white women than white men date outside of their race?
Q. This is just a simple question, not one with a lot details or anything. I was just wondering what people thought...um...why is it that there are more white women to date outside their race, then there are white men? I know this can be a ...
A. 30 June 2011: In Australia where I live what is most common these days is white guys marrying asian girls.
My last 3 gfs were 2 Indian and a fillpenio girl.... (read in full...)
I need to know how important is it to guys that your Gf/wife is a virgin? And why?
Q. I was just curious... Does it really matter to guys that the girl they want to marry or want to spent the rest of their lives with is a virgin or not??? I mean I don't see the reason why this has to be a big issue with couples.... For me all I ever ...
A. 25 June 2011: Personally. Ive never wanted to be with a virgin.
I just think it would be too awkward, as Im a very sexual person, I doubt they would be able to satisfy me.
As for a wife. I personally think it would be better to be with someone a bit "t... (read in full...)
Penis size insecurities......
Q. OK, so we've seen the barrage of penis size questions. Got me so curious I decided to actually measure mine. What I encountered was that it may be impossible to get an accurate measurement because there are probably 13 ways to measure it. I know ...
A. 30 April 2011: I noticed that the only (one) gf who criticised my size was cheating on me with three other guys. Women want to be with you, sex is a bonus. Stop worrying about it.... (read in full...)
Why do so many marriage end in divorce? what can I do to ensure my marriage is as solid as my parents?
Q. Hi all, First off let me say that I'm coming at this from a teenage perspective and as such an outsiders perspective. As you may know the divorce rate in the USA is around 50per cent for first marriages. Though my own parents are not divorced (Ma...
A. 30 April 2011: My grandparents divorced. But they then remarried and stayed married for the rest of their lives. The horrible truth is that we are selfish and we focus to much on sex. Thus we go into marridge with unrealistic expectations. Divorce mostly ... (read in full...)
Should I go see a prostitute?
Q. Recently while i was overseas I had sex (twice) with a prostitute, in an adult venue. She had the looks, body and personality of a porn star. It as the best sex I ever had (and the most expensive!) As I am single and having to 'pay for sex' is...
A. 20 April 2011: The real question here is why dont you want a gf?... (read in full...)
Guys- if you're in a good relationship, do you still watch porn?
Q. So about a month ago I found out my boyfriend was watching porn. Mainly on the days when we don't have sex. We've been living together for about two years and I've always been the sexually frustrated one bc I have a super high libido. I usually have ...
A. 16 April 2011: My first gf owned a porn video, we would put it on and watch it together.
To be honest.....it depends on who I am with, I like to have sex every day. Not too many girls are willing to do that (usually once a week), so on the off days I use porn... (read in full...)
Will my strange body movements during an orgasm turn off a guy?
Q. This is kind of an embarrassing question for me. I haven't had sex in my relationships yet, but when I'm on my own (meaning masturbating) I feel that when I orgasm I squirm too much up until when I arch my back becoming stiff, and my lower body ...
A. 9 April 2011: If you now give you name and address, you will notice a line outside your front door, around the block of guys wanting to date you. Serously this is every guys dream for sex. Do you think we just want you to lay there, look up and say "about done?... (read in full...)
One ourtcome of casual sex may be incest
Q. This is an interesting point I've been thinking about for a while and am curious to see what anyone else has to say. It seems like more and more it is becoming socially acceptable to have children outside of marriage, even to have multiple childre...
A. 9 April 2011: Where is it acceptable social behavour to have children before marrige? And to have multiple children to different people? It isnt, Just because we arnt throwing tomartos at single mothers doesnt mean we approve. The lady living next door with h... (read in full...)
If a girl touches a guy, does it mean she likes him? I'm not sure if this girl likes me or not.
Q. Last year we had a uni meeting at a beach and it had been drizzling. I was cold and didn't expect the weather to be that bad, so I had only worn a t shirt and shorts. While we were walking in a group a girl who hangs around me sometimes threw her ...
A. 25 February 2011: Just seems like shes messing around really.
You could try asking her out.......
... (read in full...)
We broke up and now have a FWB relationship. I don't get much sex, and I feel used! Should I end it?
Q. So my girlfriend and I broke up a few months back, but kept a FWB relationship till one of us meet someone else. The only problem is that we actually have only had sex once or twice, yet every night she comes to my room, eats my food, watches my ...
A. 25 February 2011: Ofcourse you should, how much longer is this going to go on for?
I had a gf like this once, You have to be firm and make sure she understands that you want her to leave so you can get on with your life. Lets face it, while she is there you are ... (read in full...)
How the hell are people able to break up and not get devastated??
Q. OK so it has been a week since this girl I was in a relationship and I stopped speaking. I initiated it because she was lying and hurting me and we talked about it for weeks before and I know it was the best thing. BUT...it is killing me!!! It...
A. 22 February 2011: Theres no way to just get over it. It will hurt for along time.
But one day you just wont think about it as much and then you will be fine.
Im sorry to tell you after my 8th relationship, it hurts just the same as it did the first time......... (read in full...)
Facebook Ruined My Life
Q. Is it just me or is Facebook a total head-wreck? Personally, I see it as one big popularity contest. I mean it is so pointless. Why not go out and meet your friends for real, instead of giving yourself a headache trying to think of the 'coolest' ...
A. 21 February 2011: Ummmm......I use facebook to keep intouch with my family who live in Ireland, USA and New Zealand (I live in Australia).
Couldnt care less how many friends I have on there.
Ive noticed alot of friend requests from very strange people who Ive n... (read in full...)
Why don't any girls want me?
Q. Okay, I realise this is a difficult sort of question to answer so I will tell you all the basics about me: I am 17 years old and have never had a girlfriend. This isn't exactly through choice, girls just aren't interested in me. I'm a quiet ki...
A. 21 February 2011: Im very simular to you, except I have a goofy sense of humour.
Didnt have a single girl in school and was very lonely. Wondered if id ever get one.
All types of girls will like you, if your a good guy, they will go for you. Perhaps you can ... (read in full...)
She just wants to be friends and I want more. It is driving me crazy! Should I leave her?
Q. Hi Agony Aunts, i am wondering if you can pls. help me with a problem that is driving me crazy. I have a friend whom i am feeling very close to. she just wants to be friends. but the closer i get to her the more i feel i am falling in love with her...
A. 21 February 2011: I'll keep it simple, you have two options really:
1. Stay, keep being rejected. Watch her get married from the backrow and spend the rest of your life alone and unhappy. This path has the added bonus of meeting women who are great for you and reje... (read in full...)
10 Things Guys really want in a woman...
Q. I received a message from a friend on my Facebook fan page and she had an idea for a post for my blog. She inquired if I could write about what men want in a woman. I thought that this might be interesting as well, so I responded to her message and ...
A. 19 February 2011: Im late in answering, but what the heck :)
What men need in a women is pretty much the same as what women need.
The best example I can think of is the movie "fun with dick and jane". The Jim Carey one, not the crappy George segal one.
Wh... (read in full...)
I told my boyfriend I don't really enjoy sex, and he's taken it personally, as if he was bad in bed! What do I do now?
Q. Hey all. So I'm 17 and I'm sexually active (about 7 months now). And honestly, I'm not a fan. My boyfriend is the only person I've ever had sex with. (We've been together since we were 15.) To be honest, sex was never really and interest of mine...
A. 19 February 2011: The number one thing a woman can say to turn off a guy is "I don't like sex". I'll tell you, my first girlfriend wasn't a virgin and she knew what she liked in bed. I still respect her for that far more than any other girl I met. I'll be ... (read in full...)
Guy I'm seeing doesn't know who he is or what he wants., and I don't know how to deal with it.
Q. I've been in a complicated relationship with a guy. We met 3 1/2 years ago. It's been crazy and unhealthy, but I could use some help to figure this guy out. Firstly, we met and he was with someone else. I knew that. They were having a bunch of ...
A. 19 February 2011: It's easy really. Say goodbye and move on. Serously, how much BS are you going to put up with before you realise it just isnt going to happen. This is the classic mistake everyone makes, your trying to force something that doesnt exist. So ... (read in full...)
What do I say on a date?
Q. I'm going on a date. I don't know what I'm going to say. My dad says I should just say, "Tell me something about you," but I still don't know what I'm going to say. I actually never went on a date. Help! ...
A. 19 February 2011: Try this: 1. Hi 2. I like..... what do you like? 3. My friends are ..... 4. My family are...... Stop worrying about it, dates are supposed to be fun. ... (read in full...)
There's now an unspoken tension between us. How can we move forward from here?
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for nearly a year and a half. We live together. We haven't had sex in over 8 months. The sexual relationship never seemed quite right to me, her body language always made it seem like it wasn't something she wanted to ...
A. 19 February 2011: It seems you are giving up. Dont, if your relationship is going to work, your going to have to discuss this. You know there are some people who just aren't sexual. Frankly, we place far too much importance on it anyway. How is the rest of yo... (read in full...)
If your girlfriend had only a single 2 minutes' sexual encounter before you were in her life,would you let that effect you?
Q. If you were a virgin before your gf and you knew that your gf only engaged in sex for a minute or two and realized it was wrong and stopped. And that was her only sexual encounter before you,would you let that effect you? I love my girlfriend but I ...
A. 31 December 2010: Dude, its nothing, stop thinking about it.
Honestly it isnt your business, you didnt even know her then.... (read in full...)
Almost married a compulsive liar in 2 weeks
Q. I have been with a guy for 3 yrs and been engaged for a yr and a half. when we first met everything was amazing and we both decided we wanted to marry eachother and worked towards it. I knew he had broken up with his last 2 gfs and they were serious ...
A. 31 December 2010: I dated a girl who was a compulsive liar when I was alot younger.
Teh best thing I did, was wash the word "sucker" off my forehead, and deleted her number, finally I told her never to speak to me again.
Nuff said... (read in full...)
We weren't having sex so he was going to prostitutes
Q. I've been with my bf for 2years and everything was going good Until I found out he was ceasing on me with prostitutes and girls from clubs!!! To cut things short I broke up with him and Im trying to move on despite the fevt that I'm devastat...
A. 31 December 2010: Well, I could give you a long winded answer, but the truth is simple. You know what you want and whats important to you, thats all that matters really. Just put him in the lemon basket, and meet the one you are ment to be with.... (read in full...)
Should I just make it clear that I'm attracted to older guys?
Q. I'm 19 years old i turn 20 in a couple of months. I'm only attracted to older guys say 24-28... I'm sick of feeling like its something i should be ashamed of So i was basically wondering do you think i should just make it clear to everyone?...
A. 31 December 2010: We are attracted to who we are attracted to. Simple as that. It isnt a choice, never apologise for it. What would the point be in dating someone you didnt want? You'd just be miserable and make them miserable too.... (read in full...)
Fight or flight - is it even worth it
Q. So I've been dating this guy for four months, passionate, loving, attentive and productive relationship. The problem, I was the "other women" - wait, let me explain. He isnt married to her, never has been, they have a baby together, a son (now 7 ...
A. 31 December 2010: To answer your question, i have to ask one Do you want to be happy? If yes, loose him, if no then stay no 2 girl... (read in full...)
I thought I married a man, not a little boy!
Q. I am at my wits end with my husband and do not know what to do anymore. We have had issues for a while, I will address them, for two weeks he is good and then goes back to his old ways. My husband is 13 years older than I am. I have been successful ...
A. 31 December 2010: I alway wonder when I read these type of questions, What did you like about him in the first place? But life is about balance you know, work and play :). Dont ask for your time take it, and let him clean up... (read in full...)
I'm 20 and look 10!
Q. How do I make myself look older? I am 20 and I look like I am 10. I don't think I could find a guy looking like a kid. ...
A. 31 December 2010: I had a gf who looked really young, lol, she was older than I am. She tended to dress a bit formally, but still had to give id all the time (she was 27 btw). Ill tell you a secret, its your personality that gets bfs, so just be you and you will... (read in full...)
I know this girl is using me, yet she makes me look like the bad guy!
Q. Alright so I was in what you might call a reationship. I dont considering partly through it I figured out she didn't like me. I started dating her while on vacation in south Florida. We talked and found out she wanted to move up to NC about 4 hours ...
A. 8 November 2010: You just need to learn the ancient art of being a snob.
What I would do, is not answer when she calls, make it clear to your friend you dont want her around, and let yurself get over it. I mean it, dont talk to her again, just let her go.
L... (read in full...)
Admit it guys, you're fantasizing about the girls in porn, the rest is just excuses
Q. I have opinion's I’d like to express about male sexuality. Porn. I understand that not all girls have an issue with it, just as some guys don’t watch it. I often hear of guys feeling like they have to hide it from there spouse. "what they don’t know ...
A. 4 November 2010: This topic is a bit "done to death" i think.
So ill answer honestly : The moment Ive cum, Ive forgottern what she looked like.
Its just to get off, nothing more... (read in full...)
My girlfriend started dancing at a strip club!
Q. I know this is a long post but I don't have anyone I feel like I can talk too about this situation and I really hope some people here can read through this and tell me what they think. My girlfriend and I have been together for almost 9 months ...
A. 29 October 2010: I should ask you a question, because there isnt much I can say that will help.
Its upto you really: Do you love her and want to be with her? Then learn to live with this and move past it.
Howver if you feel this is just wrong, then you arnt do... (read in full...)
I'm 22 and feel I'm getting old. When do people usually find "the one"?
Q. hi guys, I'm worried that i wont find the right guy. I'm nearly 22 and i feel like my dating life is nearly over. I would probably like to be settled down by 25 and marrying/kids about 30. Ive got a guy in my life, but he tends to invalidate an...
A. 23 October 2010: Dont worry too much about it.
If you really want to meet someone and settle down, then you need to get out more and meet new people. Dont settle, thats the secret.
Im 32. 10 years older than you and Im still single. But Im not worried as Im su... (read in full...)
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