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writes:hi guys, I'm worried that i wont find the right guy. I'm nearly 22 and i feel like my dating life is nearly over. I would probably like to be settled down by 25 and marrying/kids about 30. Ive got a guy in my life, but he tends to invalidate any bad feelings i get and doesnt care that way, great everywhere else, but i dont know if i could settle down with him because of it. My past relationship all seem to last about 3 years. What if i dont find the right person. When is the usual age people fall in love and find the right person? Reply to this Question
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reader, Myau  +, writes (23 October 2010):
 Dont worry too much about it.
If you really want to meet someone and settle down, then you need to get out more and meet new people. Dont settle, thats the secret.
Im 32. 10 years older than you and Im still single. But Im not worried as Im sure Ill meet someone, so you shouldnt worry either.
All the best
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reader, pinktopaz  +, writes (23 October 2010):
Seriously put a sock in it and STOP feeling this way right now, this very second. You're 22!!! You're in your prime! You should be having fun, not worrying about who is going to be your hubby and father of your children! Feeling old?! I'm 26 and I feel old and I have people telling me I'm crazy :) There's isn't a "usual" age, it happens differently for everyone. There was a time when I THOUGHT that settling down and finding the one was the most important thing (I was probably your age) and I thought I had found "the one" but he wasn't. Nearly 4-years later, I still haven't found "the one" but that's okay, why do I want to settle and be with with someone I'm not crazy about?
So in the end, so what if you don't find the right person? At some point in your life you're going to have to face the fact that you might not find them ever...but that's usually not the case. Trust me, you'll go along in your life and one day you meet someone. You don't know when it's coming and then, there they are. They might not be "the one" but you won't know if they are unless you test drive some of them...and I don't mean that in a sexual way.
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (23 October 2010):
 Old?? You're 22...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2010): I found the "one" at 24 and lost her at at 26. Then I found the "real one" at 29 and still have her.
Really, most of the people you know who are so happy, so in love, and married and pregnant will be divorced in 10 years.
Keep looking, hopefully you will not end up going through the messes many of us have.
Don't marry someone who invalidates your feelings either.
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reader, sweetheart1nonly +, writes (23 October 2010):
OMG, you r just like me. I am 21 and already feel so old. Worrying when I'll get married or meet the one.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (23 October 2010):
 I was 2 months shy of 25 before I met my husband....We met a year ago on Halloween and married May 22. Little quick, I know..But I doubt anyone can put a timeline on love and tell me exactly how many months it takes till you get to know someone, and how long you should wait before saying "I love you", or how long you should date before getting engaged. I will say we got married quickly because we thought he was going to be deployed. But the army pushed it off twice, so we could have waited.
I had the same feelings you are having at 23. Truth be told, you're still young. Yeah, I know your friends are all getting engaged, married, or pregnant with your first child...You wonder what's wrong with you, why haven't you found that. Look at the guys you're dating...What do they want out of life, what are their goals? A tricky question I used to ask when out on the first date...." So I see that you're almost done with school and looking for your career, what's next for you after that?" This sets them up to say house, marriage, kids. One I had only talk about his career, like that's it for the moment. Most say marriage and kids in the future. That's it, don't ask anymore questions like how big of a wedding, and names for his children. At 22, you're usually finishing up college, so I would say the main focus of some guys right now would be to obviously look for a job or Grad school.
How long have you been with this guy? Has he discussed any future goals of his? Or does he not care for marriage? Really, there is no appropriate age when one should get married, it really varies.
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reader, philly101  +, writes (23 October 2010):
this is a common occurance but there no age that ya can find the rite person it can happen at 12 or 72 ya just got to find someone that you can share yourself fully with and enjoy it you have loads of time enjoy it while you can
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2010): Good gosh,
You are so young. You might not find the right guy for several years, even more towards your late 20's. Enjoy your youth and don't settle for anything less than you deserve. If you do settle, you'll be strapped down with lil' kids and a man you can't stand. You are perfectly normal, n' no rush in the falling in love department.
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