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writes:This may be a stupid question but it's been on my mind all day. I've been dating this girl now for a little less than 2 months. Due to our busy schedules we have only gone on 4 dates so far but we communicate when we have time in between.Today was supposed to be our 5th date and we had planned it one week in advance. She had agreed go out with me today up until just 2 hours before I was going to leave and pick her up. She cancelled the date last minute saying she had a lot of school work to do for her classes. That's understandable, we're both in college and know how busy classes can be however we planned this date one week in advance so I'm wondering why couldn't she have let me known earlier that it wouldn't work out today? And if she has so much to do wouldn't she have made an effort to finish sooner so that we'll have time for our date? I've never had a date cancel on me before so this is new to me. I just want to know if it could mean that she's not interested in me and if she's most likely lying and making an excuse to avoid seeing me. Just need some outside opinions. Reply to this Question
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (13 February 2012):
 Are you guys actually boyfriend and girlfriend? I mean if you are together then of course she likes you!
It could potentially be an excuse, but that all depends on what her major is, what year of uni she's in, and how many hours she's taking a day. Also if she's not particularly a bright girl then she's obviously going to need more time to her studies. If she's pre-law, pre-med then it's not an excuse. Those students literally have no time.
Also keep in mind she's not going to be doing homework all night long without any breaks. That's just not humanly possible for a student..one needs a break in somewhere in between. She also could make time for this date if she really wanted to.
Judging from your post, this doesn't sound like a relationship or even two people that are actively dating working towards a relationship. The problem is that there is no time or effort being put towards a relationship. You two are half ass dating. If your plate is too full, then you either need to move things around and make time, or let it go.
Due to this half ass dating, she's losing interest and is trying to back out of whatever you think you two have. It isn't much.
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reader, Myau  +, writes (12 February 2012):
 I wouldn't read too much into it, I had an oversheduled gf once aswell. It's just how it is with them.
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reader, Babs1 +, writes (12 February 2012):
It's really impossible to say what her true intentions or feelings are. She told you why, just believe her. If you get the feeling for whatever intuitive reason that she was trying to avoid you, then I would say to lay back and let her make the next move. If your not sure don't let it get to you and continue as normal.
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reader, destinybound +, writes (12 February 2012):
Well, personally I tend to be a procrastinator. I will push things off to the absolute last minute, and that especially goes for something that may negatively affect someone else. I wouldn't take it too personally, unless she does it again. If she does it again, then I would raise a red flag. When she canceled did she suggest another time that you two could meet? If she did, that's a good indicator that she's still interested.
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