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writes:I'm 19 years old i turn 20 in a couple of months.I'm only attracted to older guys say 24-28...I'm sick of feeling like its something i should be ashamed of So i was basically wondering do you think i should just makeit clear to everyone? It would honestly feel like a weight lifted of my shoulder!I do think its not something i should have to bring up though I'm 19 not 14 Thing is i know my control freak of a father would totally go off on one :| Reply to this Question
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reader, Outspoken1016  +, writes (31 December 2010):
 I agree with the other post however do you live at home? Because if you do you still have to follow your fathers rules. Now if you live on your own you can do as you please. Never let anyone's view of you change your actions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2010): You're an adult, almost 20. You decide who you date. If someone has a problem with it, you just know it's none of their business. You don't need to make it clear to anyone or make a public announcement - that's immature. Be an adult, go about your business, do what you want.
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reader, myfairdiva  +, writes (31 December 2010):
 That's a bit extreme to say "I'm ONLY attracted to..." Probably it's just been a coincidence so far.
You know what they say about girls, supposedly we are more mature than boys our own age. To me, truth is, boys will be boys deep inside, no matter the age.
It is normal for you to feel more comfortable with older guys. I don't think it's a label you should make clear to anybody though, it's something personal, and beside you never know who you will meet or how old he will be.
You don't go around asking "Oh, you're 22? right, NEXT!". So chill, and wait for things to happen.
About your father being protective, it's usually like that, he only wants the best for you and will always have a hard time trusting whoever you are dating, he doesn't want to see you brokenhearted ever. This will be an issue for as long as you live under his roof, and sometimes even after you've moved out.
There is a nice rule about age difference between couples, which is "Half age plus 7 years" as being the socially accepted difference, taking the older age, dividing by 2 and adding 7 years. If your difference doesn't exceed that result, then you should be fine to the eyes of the rest, if it should matter so much.
In the end, remember that age is just a number ;)
Good luck. xoxo
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reader, Myau  +, writes (31 December 2010):
 We are attracted to who we are attracted to. Simple as that. It isnt a choice, never apologise for it.What would the point be in dating someone you didnt want? You'd just be miserable and make them miserable too.
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