My introverted daughter is in her 30s and loves animals. She hates her work and hates being single. At 71, what advice can I give her that will help her?
Q. I'm worried about my daughter. Recently she was upset about something and she blurted out that she hated being single. She is in her 30s and a highschool teacher, and she never got married but she always seemed okay with it. Recently, sh...
A. 26 May 2016: She still has plenty to time to fix both of her problems. I would advise her to quit teaching if she hates it so much. Even if she wont make it as a vet, she could do something else and be happier. I'm an introvert too and I find dealing... (read in full...)
Will it get better? Am I going to regret leaving home as a teenager, in the long run?
Q. Dear Cupid, I'm 18 years old and about two months ago I left home. I never got on well with my dad and I was quite distant from my mother. I have serious middle child syndrome, I'm quite selfish and never satisfied. I was yearning emotion...
A. 25 May 2016: Do not cut contact with your family.
Moving out was the right move, but snubbing them isn't. You never know when you might need help and your parents are the ones who will give you that help.
Now that you don't live with them, you may find tha... (read in full...)
How do I keep a healthy balanced perspective on my finances?
Q. Sorry, this isn't really a relationship question, but it's really weighing on me. I'm fairly young (or maybe 30 isn't considered that young anymore), I have no debt and as of a couple months ago had low 6 figures of savings. With all that said, I...
A. 25 May 2016: You sound like your all set. Congratulations on your first client.
I'm afraid its just a matter of practice. The more you do it the better you will get at it. BTW Denziens =20% is a great idea and I also recommend you go with that. You can nego... (read in full...)
What's the sexiest thing about your partner?
Q. What's the sexiest thing to you about your partner whether it be past/present/future. What do you find most attractive in someone else? ...
A. 23 May 2016: How stocked her fridge is.... (read in full...)
Does it feel different having another person touch you than when you're touching yourself?
Q. Does it feel different having another person touch you than when you're touching yourself? I guess I'm a little weird because I can only get off when I just get direct to the point. I've read that you should stroke yourself everywhere like your thi...
A. 22 May 2016: Your not weird at all.
I'm pretty much the same. I just like insertion. Even head doesn't do much for me.
Dont worry about it too much, just have fun. That's the whole point.
And btw my first gf knew how to get off and showed me how to do ... (read in full...)
Has anyone here cut ties with their own parent? Can I cut ties?
Q. Has anyone here cut ties with their own parent? This is going to come off terribly rude but I don't know how else to put it. My mother is a drug addict who also has mental issues, and treats me bad. After having a big argument last night over...
A. 22 May 2016: Yes you can, but I would recommend trying something else.
Firstly don't giver her money. Its her job to give you money, not the other way around. Tell her that.
As for cutting her off. Try spending less time with her. Say if you see her once... (read in full...)
Feeling confused over a crush. What can I do, to overcome the crush, without cutting ties with this man, who has been so kind to me?
Q. I am looking for advice on this I have became friendly with a man who is 20 years older than myself. He has always helped me out with DIY and other things and been really nice. He is married with a family. I have a boyfriend who travels a lot wi...
A. 22 May 2016: Well I was in a similar situation quite a few years back.
I just accepted it. I liked the girl but couldn't be with her, so I just enjoyed being around her and had a good friendship in the end.
Don't tell him you like him btw.... (read in full...)
Uncles who lost your virginity at a later stage, how did you do it? Aunts what will really help me lose my virginity?
Q. How do you shake off being a virgin? While I have kissed a couple girls and have been sexual with some, I feel down on myself for not having had intercourse. I've read articles on this site, other sites about not feeling bad about it but it ...
A. 22 May 2016: Does 19 count as a later stage? I personally think its just right age wise.
There's this thing called a relationship. You should actually be looking for it rather than sex. Sex is what comes later.
As for being yourself...Well.... (read in full...)
Stressed, tired and fearful he'll look elsewhere
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together five years and we bought a house together three months ago. I've been working full time and studying for the last ten months. I finish my study in two months. I've been really busy and stressed. I've put on 10 ...
A. 21 May 2016: I wouldn't worry too much about it. Keep the once a week routine up until you finish your studies. They are what counts now.
Then you can re focus on getting the wight off and your libedo back.
... (read in full...)
Did he or did he not? I am 16, why did my BF lie about losing his virginity and then change his story?
Q. So I have been with my boyfriend who I met at a concert for a month. We are both sixteen. We hadn't discussed sex at all until now. I was curious to know if he had sex before, but I wasn't bold enough to ask outright. So when we were finally talking ...
A. 21 May 2016: OK as an adult I feel I have to say this first.
Your both grounded.
Now as for your question, he was just scared that you wouldn't like him or worse laugh at him. The teen years are insanely awkward and it hard to get comfortable with... (read in full...)
Any tips on how to handle grief? Maybe it was not my fault the baby bird died. But I feel guilt about it
Q. Hello, I am absolutely devastated. My boyfriend and I went to the mall and saw a group of people huddled together near the entrance of a shop. I overheard one of the people there going "Management knows about it." When we left the mall about a...
A. 21 May 2016: You should never feel bad about this. You tried to help and that was all you could really do.
If the bird could, I'm sure he/she would thank you.... (read in full...)
What's happening to me? Am I feeling all this emotion as a result of supressing my feelings?
Q. Hello its Military Man once again. The count down for deployment is 4 days and im starting to experience things I never really strongly felt before.....emotion. I mean Ive been hurt and understood this but I never been able to show it. Like whe...
A. 21 May 2016: I am in the same boat.
After bottling it up all my life, I've found that sometimes tears start over the stupidest things.
It is all the bad experiences you have had finally overwhelming you, like they did me.
As men we are told to be tough ... (read in full...)
Am I seeing too much into this? Or is he seeing me as more than a friend?
Q. Hello everyone, this is my first time on a site like this and I think it's just so great to find something that allows us to help each other through our own unique experiences. To get to my situation: I am an openly gay male and I recently came in ...
A. 21 May 2016: Its possible that he might want a relationship with you.
Its also possible that he just wants someone to help him come out if he is gay.
He also might just be a bit too introverted for his own good.
The only way your gonna know is by ta... (read in full...)
What causes my GF to go from hot to cold towards me? Could it be depression or a mental health issue?
Q. I'm a gay female. I have a dilemma I need some advice about. I have been sleeping with a good friend of mine for about six months now. The problem is she blows very hot and cold on me regularly, and I don't know how to deal with it. For a mon...
A. 21 May 2016: Its hard to honestly say.
You might be taking advantage of her unintentionally.
She might very well want a relationship with you and you keep throwing friend in her face.
Also she might not want sex at all but is afraid to say no as she ... (read in full...)
Does he want a committed relationship? Or production of more children? Or the chance to meet me for sex to make babies? Confused by him.
Q. I am a muslim lady 30yrs of age. Recently got talking to an older guy of around 51 yrs.actually he is a family friend, got to know him the past 5 yrs but nothing was between us til recently, he started picking interest in me. Its now 6 months sin...
A. 20 May 2016: Simple really.
Tell him to marry you.
Remind him that the sooner you marry, the sooner he will have the children he wants.
He wants to take advantage of you. Dont let him.... (read in full...)
I'm not sure if I should leave or stay?
Q. I'm unhappily married. My husband cheated a few yrs back, I've since fallen out of love with him, the thought of finding someone else excites me. I'm not going to allow myself into a position where I might cheat, but I'm unsure if I can go through ...
A. 19 May 2016: I think the trial separation is the best option for you. it will answer all the questions you have about whether you want to stay with him.... (read in full...)
My ex had a medical emergency and I allowed him to move back in. Now he needs surgery and I regret my weakness. Any ideas?
Q. I have a relationship issue. I am not one of the super young people. That is why I feel bad about asking this question. I have been dating this guy, off and on, about 5 years. In year 3, he left me for someone else. I didn't want him back, bu...
A. 19 May 2016: I have to agree. He can move in with the other woman if he wants that. You don't owe him anything. I do hope you will let him stay though as he will need time to recover from his surgery.... (read in full...)
Do I walk away? Or do I try to explain how I am feeling to my Bf?
Q. Hello everyone, I'm just going to jump right in with the story. So I've been dating my on off boyfriend for 2 years and anyway he's 10 years older than me and due to stupid things he's done in the past still lives at home with his dad. The p...
A. 19 May 2016: Are you really going to ask him too choose between his father and you?
I think this relationship has run its course.... (read in full...)
My parents forced us to breakup. Two months later what should I do?
Q. Hello all :) I am writing seeking some advice from you good people as I have been facing the pain of a breakup for the past 2.5 months now. I have become depressed and mentally unstable through all of this, but am working really hard to become m...
A. 19 May 2016: As a parent myself, I would only want you to break up with your boyfriend if I felt that he was bad for you.
This is a crucial part of your life and you need to be focused on your grades and what career your going into.
So if he is hurting th... (read in full...)
How can I deal with complex emotions and the feelings I have that my life will spiral out of control if I break up with her? Sexually she no longer appeals
Q. My question has so many angles I realy dont know how to sum it up. There are so many parts that need more explaining but I simply cant fit them all in. I will try to summarise. I am a 47 year old male. I come from a broken familly. I have bee...
A. 19 May 2016: Its time to be honest with yourself.
You have 3 options.
1. Leave her and end up back where you were.
2. Stay with her and accept that this is your lot in life.
3. Get your act together, get off the drugs or at least cut them back and get a ... (read in full...)
What do I do about this? He doesn’t return the favor!
Q. so here goes... From the ages of 15 (lost my virginity) to 21 I've always had oral sex given to me with out asking (im now 23)...(by boyfriends not randoms) My current boyfriend of two years this september has only gone down on me a hand full...
A. 30 April 2016: Stop giving him head.
And just do other stuff. You will be fine... (read in full...)
Wearing jewelry from an ex whilst out on a date with a new partner... thoughts?
Q. I want to know what everybody's thoughts are on wearing jewellery from an ex partner whilst out on a date with a new partner. Thank you!...
A. 30 April 2016: Its rude. Don't do it.... (read in full...)
Why do guys want intercourse so badly?
Q. Why do they want to have sex so badly? I was skimming the online forums about this; like those pua forums with the creepy guys who do everything they possibly can to get sex. And...I was reading all the replies and different terms, and I want to ...
A. 30 April 2016: Well its a few reasons
1. We like how it feels. It feels great and the release helps you sleep. Same with going solo btw.
2. We also like the intimacy. Guys arn't very intimate in general. Frankly your probably the only on he actually hugs. A... (read in full...)
Why do some guys lie about losing their virginity?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together six months. Last week we talked about having sex for the first time. I asked would I be his first and he didn't answer, he just retorted by asking would he be mine. I said no, I was not a virgin. He then began ...
A. 4 April 2016: Because he was scared that he wasn't good enough for you. He was worried that you would laugh at him.
Guy arn't great at showing their feelings. And sex is quite a big deal for a teen boy.
He didn't mean to lie or insult you.... (read in full...)
Long term affair has me shocked
Q. I recently found out that the affair my wife had about 30 years ago had been going on for almost 3 years... I was shocked. Back then after her affair was discovered, and came to an end, I never thought that it had lasted THAT long. My question is ...
A. 14 January 2016: God knows.
Adults do weird things.
I was told as a child that I had to behave and be better and would understand why when I grew up. Yet I myself and every other adult I have ever met have all behave like silly children.
Some times we j... (read in full...)
I hooked up with the girl who used my friend and broke his heart. Do I tell him?
Q. I have know this friend for 11 years and he is a very nice guy, he is the most successful friend I have, he's a high end lawyer, and because of that people tend to use him. So when he started dating this very attractive girl I instantly knew ...
A. 4 January 2016: Short answer: No and tell her to stop messaging you.... (read in full...)
Is this man almost twice my age trying to get close to me? Ask me to move in with him?
Q. Okay so I've just met a guy older than me.. (50 years old) and he owns his own business and we have been chatting for 3 weeks at most. He invited me out out 2 times already. The first time I was cautious and questioned him a lot (after all he is...
A. 30 December 2015: Of course he is trying to start something.
Soooooooo are you interested in him romantically?... (read in full...)
I don't want to be alone on New Year's Eve. Any suggestions?
Q. So...this may sound pathetic...because I'm going to be alone this New Year's Eve. My friends are either going to spend New Year's Eve with their boyfriend or their husband. And the only one single friend prefers to stay at home. I feel so lonely.... ...
A. 30 December 2015: Is there anyone you missed? Work friends etc?
Call them up and see what they are up to.
Failing that, if you want to go out, then do so... (read in full...)
Was listening to a man moaning on youtube cheating on my husband?
Q. I was away from my husband, who doesn,t like phone sex, and I decided to play with myself unsuccesfully, so i listened to some random moaning on you tube that helped. I feel bad and feel like I cheated on him. Am I wrong to have listened to the ...
A. 30 December 2015: Not at all.
Think of it this way: You had an itch and scratched it.... (read in full...)
OK, what about foreplay on men?
Q. This is a question mainly for the guys, and is something I've wondered about for ages. During foreplay, men have so many choices as to where to touch/kiss/lick a woman, there are so many erogenous zones.. instep of feet, thighs, waist and stomac...
A. 7 February 2015: There is one thing, but it isn't foreplay.
I like it what women hold me around my shoulders during. Makes me feel your into it. Especially if your holding tight.... (read in full...)
I've fallen for my best friend's girlfriend -- again
Q. I believe that I am in love with my best friends girlfriend. His fiancé to be exact... I've been in love with one of his ex's before while they were dating and I went down a dark road of betraying his trust in order to break them up. I used to ...
A. 5 February 2015: To answer this question honestly I will have to ask 2.
1. Do you have trouble getting girlfriends? Are you shy or awkward?
2. Do you just use the women you date for sex?
I bet one of those is true isn't it.
So lets face some hard truths... (read in full...)
First partners and oral sex?
Q. When you dated your first boyfriend, did you give him oral sex?...
A. 4 February 2015: I tried it with my first girlfriend, but it was my 3rd relationship when I actually enjoyed doing it.
It takes time to get used to doing it.... (read in full...)
How important is the online photo?
Q. been single for 5 years and now making a big effort to find someone. I have hated the idea of online dating and had some rubbish experiences 4 years ago, but now I am trying it out with a different perspective. I am a very private person and don'...
A. 4 February 2015: Never use a fake pic.
When I show up for our first date, do you really want me to be disapointed?
If you really want a man, then you have to put yourself out there, I know its scary.
But the men on okcupid (like me) have to do the same thin... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to consider porn cheating?
Q. So my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years and the relationship is going pretty well so far. The only thing that really bothers me, and I have expressed myself, is the fact he watches porn on his days off while I'm at work. In my ...
A. 12 September 2014: Porn is nothing special.
Its just assisted masturbation.
Its in no way cheating.... (read in full...)
I wasn't the one who messed up so why am I the one hurting?
Q. My ex and I had been together almost 4 years. He moved from England to Canada with me 3 years ago in August. We definitely had our rough patches, mainly to do with him speaking inappropriately to other girls. Anyway, on Sunday morning I checke...
A. 5 June 2014: It was always going to be like this.
I know its lonely and you miss him, but you have to let yourself get over him.
Soon you will be ok and then you can be with a man who appreciates you.... (read in full...)
Husband wants a threesome, how can I fulfill this sexual experience?
Q. Hi Aunts and Uncles. I need to know how to go about having a threesome with my husband. First off I am bisexual, so theres no issue with wanting to be with woman sexually. My husband has always wanted to experience a threesome. Its just a fantasy. ...
A. 3 June 2014: OK most everyone here have covered the No side of the argument.
But I do have to tell you, there was a lady who posted here quite a long time ago now, who tried it and hated it, and her husband kept pushing for them to do it again. 3some's ... (read in full...)
I got two girl's phone numbers, but I'm not sure what to do on a date! Advice?
Q. Just the thought of asking anyone of them out gives me butterfly nerve feeling in my stomach. I met this Indian lady while back so I manage to get the courage to ask for her number about couple weeks before school semester ended. The other lady I ...
A. 2 June 2014: that is fine. A date is just a "get to know you" thing. So it doesn't matter where you go as long as you have fun together.... (read in full...)
I'm happy to be a girl, I just don't want breasts
Q. I have always hated my breasts and I wish I didn't have them. My mom says I will change but I don't think I will because I just look in the mirror and cry and just hate everything I see I want a flat chest so badly and I just don't know what to do ...
A. 2 June 2014: Your young yet, you will get used to them. Becoming a man wasn't pleasant either. But I got used to it.
If at 18 you are still unhappy, you can get reduction surgery. But don't do anything drastic right now.... (read in full...)
Do I give too much in relationships?
Q. Dear Cupid I've always been the hearts and flowers kind of girl, but life showed me that happily ever after doesn't exist. I fell inlove with this guy.. and we dated for months. Everything was perfect and I still don't know what went wrong. We b...
A. 2 June 2014: No, you will meet the right one.... (read in full...)
Engaged to be married but afraid to do so because I do not want sex
Q. I am 21 years old and engaged to be married. Let me explain some of my background to you so that this makes sense. I went to a very small Christian school all my life (16 kids in a k-12 school) that is attached to my church. I grew up reading ...
A. 29 May 2014: Lets get the sex part out of the way first.
There are 2 things you need to know.
1. You will want to have sex when you are ready for it. This happens at different ages for different people. You are what we call a late bloomer. That is not a ba... (read in full...)
I'm so sick and tired of being leeched off of.
Q. Here's the situation. I use to live alone in a two bedroom apartment. One room for me to sleep, use computer, hang out, etc. The other room was my workout room with all my weights, benchs, punching bag, etc. I enjoyed the solitary lifestyle. My own ...
A. 15 May 2014: There is an easy way out you know.
Move.
Do you own the apartment or do you rent? It doesn't matter either way. Don't renew your lease or sell up.
Tell your rellie's that you cant afford to keep paying and you have to move to a cheaper pla... (read in full...)
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