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writes:so upset me and my boyfriend has just split up he said i dont make him happy like i use to do and that he doesnt want to get together im devastated, he seems odd around me like he doesnt wanrt to talk i feel really bad that iv made him fel like that what sort of person would want me now?
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reader, Myau  +, writes (12 August 2011):
 If a relationship is over, then the best thing to do is let it go. Your now just making yourself unhappy for no real reason.
dont worry theres plenty more where he came from
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2011): What has made him like that? Sometimes it can be easier to miss out things to avoid any 'it serves you right' comments. Sympathy is no solution. You cannot make folk happy but its possible to make them unhappy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2011): He said he doesn't feel bitter towards me and hasn't been happy for weeks, but in this time continued to tell me he loved me, yes we had a few petty arguments. Before he went I told him I can't hold on forever and he said he's not asking me to! This totally crushed me I said to him give it time cos I believe we belong together, he said he had to go he's never been one to sit down and discuss his feelings he always looks unesy, iv got to spend a few hours with him but don't know how to be around him!
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reader, Aunty Susie  +, writes (12 August 2011):
 It was never your place to make him happy. He could be happy being with you, or not. One person can't make another happy. So don't hold yourself responsible for his not being happy. Look to the future, you will get through this tough time. Good luck. xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2011): HiIm sure you are a lovely person and he was just mad or annoyed.Give it time.You could try working out what he feels is different? What did you used to do that made him happy that maybe you don't do now?So sorry to hear you're feeling devastated. If he seems odd around you and like he doesnt want to talk, then don't be around him and don't try make him talk. Again try give it time. Make him miss you. Make him wonder why you've stopped trying. You feel really bad that you've made him feel like this.. does he feel bad that hes made you feel upset and devastated? He doesnt seem to be showing it to you.. since you haven't mentioned it. You poor love, I know it hurts. Please don't think no-one else would want you just because he apparently feels this way!!Im sure if you've had one boyfriend, you'll have plenty more. Ones that won't confuse you and make you upset.No man is worth your tears and the one who is won't make you cry.Hold that head high.xxx
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