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writes:hi all can someone please answer this question does a woman playing hard to get with a man she really likes work and how should i go about it?thanks Reply to this Question
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reader, hannah76 +, writes (3 July 2011):
 Hello,
It is a risk. Some guys just ask or hint once. If they get anything other than a "yes" or green light then they are off. I was very keen once on a guy and he emailed me about a film/coffee. I replied "ok" pretending to be all innocent and not too enthusiastic. We had coffee/film and then he texted a few times and asks for another date. I said "ok at some point" and he never got in touch again. Months later I heard he had been very keen but thought i wasn't interested. So really, what I'm saying is that people are different. Some would have kept trying, others would have walked. Sorry I can't be more specific.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2011): Playing hard to get can add spice to the chase but if pushed beyond a certain limit it can backfire and turn the chaser completely off to you. I was head over heels for a gal who pushed playing hard to get for so long and way to far pass the limit that I lost all attraction for her. Everything about her and I mean everything turned ugly and by the time she decided to cool it and give us a go my nose was wide open and in deep with another gal who's now my fiancee. That gal to this day gives me hell saying I broke her heart and because of it how hates men because I tossed in my hat and to make matters worse she stalks me. What can I say? She screwed herself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2011): Playing hard to get can add spice to the chase but if pushed beyond a certain limit it can backfire and turn the chaser completely off to you. I was head over heels for a gal who pushed playing hard to get for so long and way to far past the limit that I lost all attraction for her. Everything about her and I mean everything turned ugly and by the time she decided to cool it and give us a go my nose was wide open and in deep with another gal who's now my fiancee. That gal to this day gives me hell saying I broke her heart and because of it how hates men because I tossed in my hat and to make matters worse she stalks me. What can I say? She screwed herself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2011): Playing hard to get can add spice to the chase but if pushed beyond a certain limit it can backfire and turn the chaser completely off to you. I was head over heels for a gal who pushed playing hard to get for so long and way to far pass the limit that I lost all attraction for her. Everything about her and I mean everything turned ugly and by the time she decided to cool it and give us a go my nose was wide open.
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reader, empty-1  +, writes (3 July 2011):
Don't "play". Not hard to get, nor any other juvinile game. It will not only backfire on you (such games invariably do) but will also display a lack of character and self confidence.
If you like him, take the same advice you would give any guy who liked a girl - TELL THEM!
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (3 July 2011):
 Well it all really depends on the guy himself and what kind of personality he has. If he is showing a huge interest in you and you are trying to play hard to get it might come across to him like you are not interested and he might give up. It really is just one of those risks.
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reader, Myau  +, writes (3 July 2011):
 It doesnt work on me, ill forget you and hit on your friend instead. just saying....
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reader, hopeFUL_romantic_13  +, writes (3 July 2011):
Not always. Everyone has they're own preference. A lot of men may prefer a woman who is easy because they feel like they have a good choice, are just looking for that moment of please, or simple like a woman who's steady and don't "scream trouble." And others are get a thrill out of the challenge and loves a woman who's feisty and puts up a good fight. I'm not so sure how you can 'go about it.' It's a quality. You either have it or you don't. I for one can be very hard to get. It's probably because the right one never ask me out yet. You can give him the idea that you're interested: stare at him occasionally, dress a bit flirtatious but don't overdo it, subtle physical contact such as rub elbows, etc. Then when and if he begins to notice or show interest, shun him. Exchange little to know eye contact, put some distance between yourselves, and the like. Put up this act for a short while then begin to show some interest in him. Drives them crazy thinking whether or not you're really interested. If you're lucky they'll be like putty in your hands.
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