Is this something to stick with?
Q. Now just so you know my partner does not want to leave me ....however should I leave him??? I have been through a lot in life I grew up with a compulsive liar for a mother (not spoke to parents for 2yrs)..I have also lost a child when he was 11yrs ...
A. 30 April 2017: Your not really clear on what your angry about.
Your sons health is a huge issue and I hope he will be ok. Also I'm sorry about your other child. I only have one daughter and would be miserable if anything ever happened to her.
As for your p... (read in full...)
Does this man care?
Q. I recently returned back from Australia to Ireland to look after a sick relative. My WHV was almost up and I have plans to go back in the near future to some touring that I didn't get to do this time round. 3 months before returning I started a "no ...
A. 30 April 2017: Hi From the Hills in Sydney!!!
I would say that he does ant to be with you.
You need to be honest with him about what you want though.
Do you want a relationship with him is the real question.... (read in full...)
My husband and his co-worker have feelings for each other. What should I do?
Q. Let me start from the beginning if I may. About 2 weeks ago my husband said one of his supervisors at the factory where he works 3rd shift came up to him while he was loading a truck and harassed him about being too close to a girl who has a bad re...
A. 13 April 2017: I'm disgusted with your husband. The fact that you are pregnant with his second child clearly means nothing to him. Also your daughter also clearly is less important to him that where he can put his dick.
He doesn't seem to care about you at all a... (read in full...)
Large wedding or an intimate wedding that we can afford? How can this be resolved?
Q. “Dan” and I are both 27, living together, and recently engaged and married. We plan to have our wedding in 10 months time however have different approaches on costs and guest list, so we are brainstorming having two celebrations. I prefer an in...
A. 13 April 2017: I've always thought that there are certain days in your life that you should go all out for.
Your wedding day is special and thus it should be special. I think if you scale it back you will regret it in the long run.... (read in full...)
My unidentified online friend has reappeared on line. It is him. Should I reveal who I am to him?
Q. Hi I have a difficult situation. A year ago I met a guy online. All was good but then he stopped texting. Last month we matched on a different website. Neither of us have a photo up. From what he has told me I know this guy is the one who I m...
A. 13 April 2017: Whats the point of not revealing who you are?
If any kind of relationship is going to happen, you are going to have to fess up.... (read in full...)
How can we solve our relationship and jealousy issues?
Q. I've been dealing with jealousy as one of the problems in my relationship lately. I try to ignore and keep it together but nothing is working. A few weeks ago, a girl randomly chatted with my boyfriend through Facebook and I got jealous because ...
A. 13 April 2017: I would say no. As its clear you both want to be together.
But maybe its time to give each other a bit of space. By focusing on "you stuff" you will be happier in your life and thus less possessive of him.... (read in full...)
How can I stop ruining every prospective relationship with anxiety?
Q. I have been single for nearly a year now. In that time through one reason or another I have spoken to and got to know 3 different men (romantically) that I have began to like. It always starts off well in that they are attracted to me, we have a g...
A. 6 September 2016: I cant help but think that you might just need some time to get your head straight.
Maybe take a break from men for a month or two and just develop some new interests.
For anxiety and low self esteem. I usually recommend trying something creati... (read in full...)
Why? All my life people have taken an instant dislike towards me and I don't know why. What needs to change?
Q. All through my life I have struggled getting people to like me, people take an instant dislike to me and I don't know why. I'm not rude, I'm polite, I can be painfully shy at times and I think people mistake this as being rude or stuck up. Been ...
A. 6 September 2016: Well I tend to make friends easily so I will try and help.
I guess my secret is that I smile and listen. I don't tend to share opinions with people till I'm comfortable with them.
Sharing an interest is also great and will help you out with you... (read in full...)
Help with confidence in a relationship
Q. Hi, the last boyfriend i had took drugs and smoked. Also i had suspicions he cheated on me with his girl best friend. He was nice to me until i dumped him because my parents thought he was bad news. When i dumped him he started saying he wad going ...
A. 11 August 2016: Teens say stupid things all the time, he was just being an ass.
Since he was into smoking and drugs, your parents were right, he was bad news.
Maybe this time try someone nice and you'll find you have a lot more fun.
... (read in full...)
I am falling for her hard, but I have a boyfriend!
Q. So I'll get straight to the point...I met this chick on snapchat...I tell her everything and she tells me everything...well we have known each other two months but we talked everyday all day even give the kiss emoji with heart when we went to ...
A. 11 August 2016: This is what I call a "loose, loose" situation.
You can continue to make a fool of yourself or accept the reality of the situation.
Ditch the girl, she isn't interested in you and since he clearly means nothing to you, ditch your boyfriend t... (read in full...)
I'm unnaturally anxious around boys
Q. Hi all, I am a 24 yr old girl, single. My mum is a divorcee, a single parent. I have an elder sister who is,now, married... I don't remember my father. I used to go to girls highschool. I had some of guy friends in my college life,but I used to talk ...
A. 26 July 2016: To answer this properly, I would have to ask: What are you afraid will happen with these guys?
Do you think they will hurt you or leave you alone and pregnant like your mother?
I'll be honest, some will. They will push you for sex and seem to ... (read in full...)
How should I explain this strange relationship?
Q. Dear All Just wanted a quick question answered if you have the time! My husband years ago brought up his ex's son (husbands stepson) called Oliver. Oliver was/is a good kid but full of negativity and a bad attitude, but as I said, a kind ...
A. 11 July 2016: I would just tell it like it is.
Why be dishonest about it?... (read in full...)
Can't understand why she cheated with a homosexual?
Q. Hi. What does it mean when that my wife has cheated me with a gay guy, and prefers gay friends?...
A. 11 July 2016: According to my sister (who admitted she was a hag) gay men get drunk and do try to have sex with women.
So it can happen.
She likes gay men because they are fun for her to be around.
The real issue here is: What do you want to do now?... (read in full...)
After being cheated on, I hate myself
Q. During my most recent relationship, I got cheated on by my girlfriend. She did it once fairly early in the relationship, and even though I hated the guy before it happened, she claims to be blackout drunk so I forgave her. She cheated again and ...
A. 10 July 2016: Your fine. She is just selfish.
Some people just think that they can say and do whatever they want and everyone else can just deal with it.
All you can be is yourself and yes it is more than enough. You just need to meet that right girl.
... (read in full...)
Does a guy being skinny put women off?
Q. I'm a skinny lad and I was wondering is this a turn-off? I mean I know some girls like guys to be teddy bears but is there really any market for us skinny guys? I'm 5'11"/180 cm and 143 pounds/64 kg and feel as though I'm not bulky enough for women ...
A. 10 July 2016: I was also skinny as a teen and no girl would look at me. They were actually quite rude.
When I hit 19 I gained weight and now seem to get women's attention and have had quite a few girlfriends.
Wether it was just growing up or gaining weight o... (read in full...)
How do I tell my LDR guy and get him to understand that this level of contact is not enough?
Q. Hi everyone, thanks for reading! Im not sure how to approach this - i basically need to talk to my boyfriend about being more in contact. We are doing a long distance relationship at the moment and everything was fine (we were skyping a few t...
A. 21 June 2016: Your not nagging him at all. You have a right to know whats going on. Also, he games and sleeps? He should be available all the time. Its not like he has something better to do. Even playing a game, he can still chat to you.... (read in full...)
Can you please advise what to do? My lesbian partner has been exchanging explicit messages on line with a man
Q. I found explicit emails between my lesbian partner and a man on craigslist. I found some printed copies of her replies to a mans advert on craigslist. The man wanted to meet her for fun in exchange for money. My partner always brags about being ...
A. 21 June 2016: I would be horrified if this happened and I have to agree with Honeypie, I'd leave her too. I don't think she is playing. I think she is curious.... (read in full...)
Help! What can I say? I'm a gay female being set up at work ! I'm scared and unsure what to do.
Q. Im a single GAY female over 40 and today at work as I walked in tea room I overheard her talking to another manager about setting me up with a 26 yr old asian guy who used to work with us and who likes me! And how I am " over 40" The other mana...
A. 21 June 2016: I wouldn't say you have a boyfriend as the other women in the office might want to talk about their men and start asking you questions about yours. I don't see an issue here, just say no, when your asked. "He's nice, but I'm just not interested."... (read in full...)
Feeling really depressed that I have never been asked out. How should I approach this problem?
Q. I get really depressed because I have never been asked out despite putting myself out there. I volunteer, I also work in retail. No guys like me and I see other girls who are always asked out and hit on but I am always left out. I am 5'6 and w...
A. 21 June 2016: How are you around guys? Are you shy? Or uncomfortable? As I always advise guys, you have to get used to being around the opposite sex. Make a friend or two. Now that you are talking to guys you can meet men who are interested in you. It all... (read in full...)
Newly married but feel so guilty about my cheating. What should I do?
Q. I got married to my boyfriend recently whom I was with in a long distance relationship for 3 yrs. We still live apart as I have not moved to his city yet as he could be taking a transfer to mine. I have dark secret which haunts me even now. Las...
A. 16 June 2016: You have to decide what you want.
Do you want to stay married? Will you be happy with him?
Or do you want to divorce and try and get back in touch with the other man?
It wont be easy and someone is going to get hurt either way. So make sure... (read in full...)
Is it wrong or right to send flowers to a co worker you like?
Q. I have a question I wanted to ask and ive been debating it. If there is a co worker a male likes and he's into her. Let's say the special day was valentines day. Is it wrong or right to send flowers to a co worker you like? not that I'm intendi...
A. 16 June 2016: OK I firstly have to cancel the flowers I was sending to So_very_confused. Bullet dodged there.
And you can send her something on valentines day marked as a secret admirer and then just see how she reacts. If shes horrified, then pretend you know... (read in full...)
Cute guy at the gym. How do I get his attention?
Q. I recently started weighttraining with a guy friend (older gentleman) at the gym, and there is one particular guy. I told my workout buddy (harry) that i think the guy's cute, and he's trying to help me break the ice with him. Because of Harrys he...
A. 16 June 2016: Try the ignore. Don't look at him and see if he comes over to you.
Failing that, you could go for the classic, tripping over into his arms routine that actually works. You just scammed a free hug.
And failing that, a shared interest. See wh... (read in full...)
Is she out of my league? Should I ask her out?
Q. I'm a single male and work, there's a female at work whose caught my eye and she is attractive. She always looks at me, smiles and gives me hugs and chats to me. I'd like to ask her out but the problem is, I'm not sure if im her type or not or w...
A. 16 June 2016: Well you could ask her to lunch. Or an after work drink.
You could also ask her friends if shes single. That seems the best option.... (read in full...)
How do I get over my needs for a boyfriend and for sex? I'm 16 and a virgin.
Q. Hi so I'm 16. Obviously I'm a teenager so I have'needs'... Well they're more desires than needs. My first desire is to find someone to love who will love me back. Someone I can trust and talk to who understands me. Will I find him soon? Who know...
A. 16 June 2016: I also only had my first girlfriend when I turned 19. Girls are nicer when they arn't teenagers anymore.
I do understand as my hormones also drove me up the wall when I was your age and I also wondered if any girl would have me.
The secret is... (read in full...)
Crushed by an ex bf who was a jerk. Will I find a loving guy? Who's fault is it when I guy turns out to be a jerk or a loving and amazing guy?
Q. How does it feel to have a faithful and loving boyfriend who cares for your feelings, spends on you, and makes you feel special after having a selfish liar and jerk who crushed your world for a long time by being the exact opposite of the and ...
A. 16 June 2016: Thats quite a few questions there. So ok, here goes.
1. Good
2. No, Im a guy who is into girls. My relationships have been ok I guess. Some good, but none great. That's why I'm not married.
3. No. People are who they are. Don't waste your ti... (read in full...)
I can't believe my husband would even consider moving in with female roommates! Am I overreacting?
Q. Dear Aunts and Uncles, My husband moved to the USA recently and got an unpaid intern position for about 6 months. At the moment he is staying with his cousin but is looking for a place for himself. Yesterday he's been telling me that he has been...
A. 10 June 2016: It might be his only option.
I dont know the rental situation where he is, but in Sydney where I live, apartments are hard to get. You take what you can.
Its not like he will be hitting on those women, they will just be like sisters really.... (read in full...)
He's turning my space into a slum - help!
Q. This is going to sound extremely petty rant,but just want to ask other people if they think I am being over the top? Me and my boyfriend don't live together (Im at my mum's still,he has a flat) but my mum mostly stays at her partner's house an...
A. 10 June 2016: Ahh men, arn't we great lol.
You are right to want him to clean up and need to make sure he is doing it. Its about good habit forming. Its not like your asking him to clean the whole apartment every day. He can easily put rubbish in a bin and rins... (read in full...)
Has anyone been in a lasting relationship where there was an age difference?
Q. When I was 28 I was in a 4.5 year relationship with a younger girl, she was only 18 when we started dating. We had a son together and when our son was 18 months old she said she made a mistake settling down with me and wanted to experience her yout...
A. 10 June 2016: It depends really. It seems from what you said that she just wanted to be young while she was.
Now that shes older she might actually want the relationship as she was with you before and did love you.
She might very well have regretted it. Yo... (read in full...)
Should I be concerned that my girlfriend had her phone with her in the bathroom?
Q. My girlfriend had her phone with her in the bathroom today. We were having sex and afterwards, she had to use the bathroom. I waited for her outside the bathroom because I had to go. And I saw she came out with her phone. I did not say anything and ...
A. 10 June 2016: She told you what was up.
Why would you think it was anything else?... (read in full...)
Do I let my ex's baby mama and child into my nursery?
Q. Hey I'm not sure what to write here but here it goes, I was with a guy for 6 years and got pregnant shortly after this he left me for a teenager and ignored me and his child I would text, got noting. I did every now again drop him a line to tell him ...
A. 10 June 2016: I dont see what choice you have here.
I hope you have moved on and met someone new. I would advise you to stop texting him though, its bad for your self esteem.... (read in full...)
I want my Bf back. How can I attempt to achieve that aim?
Q. I want my ex boyfriend back , when i first met my ex there was something special there and i felt so comfortable with him as tho i had known him years . But after our first meet he kept cancelling we had a break and decided to try again but agai...
A. 9 June 2016: This isn't a relationship. He just isn't into you but seems like he doesn't want to tell you straight.
You need to let him go and move on.... (read in full...)
What's going on with my best guy friend? I'm so confused!
Q. My best friend is a male, and I'm a female. Everywhere we go, people think we're a couple and that's why I think it's hard for me to get a boyfriend or even go on a date because I find it hard to approach guys because I've been in this situation for ...
A. 9 June 2016: He might have just been confused about who he was.
But I would say he isnt gay.
As for you, I think you are a little jealous and its time you went out and met a guy of your own.
Your friend will still be your friend and now you can double d... (read in full...)
Was this a polite rejection?
Q. So I have been interested in guy who works the next building from mine.He's always friendly and was giving off subtle signs of interest. I finally gave him my number and told him to call/text sometime.He said sure.Then I ran into him today and he ...
A. 9 June 2016: I'm afraid so.
Dont worry though, he wasn't right for you anyway.... (read in full...)
Can I ever escape the guilt from what I've done?
Q. So here is my story. I'm completely lost and in a bad way. Riddled with shame and guilt. Feel totally out of control and powerless. I'm a serial cheat. I never expected to be in this position. I have strong values and rate honesty highly. I hate ...
A. 7 June 2016: I was cheated on too. But I called her a slut and dumped her and moved on.
You didn't.
You took it out on your next girlfriend. And have now killed the relationship.
You gave two options in your post and option 1 is the answer. You need tim... (read in full...)
My husband made a joke about me taking our mutual friend's virginity for his birthday. Should I?
Q. Hi everyone. Me and my husband are both in our early 30's and have been married for 10 years. We have a mutual friend who is about the same age as us both and is still a virgin. Recently my husband made a joke about me taking his virginity for hi...
A. 27 May 2016: ............................No... (read in full...)
My sister is 3 years older than me and she bullies me. How can I distance myself from her?
Q. i am from india and i almost 21 years old, i have a sister who is 3 years elder, till before 7-8 months, we were very close like super close as far as i remember we did everything together only like parties, going out and shopping n all stuff. ...
A. 26 May 2016: Theres a pro wrestling term called "no selling"
It means when a wrestler pretends to hit another, the second ignores it. Its a no no.
Anyway you have to learn to no sell your sister. She is trying to get a rise out of you and you keep falling... (read in full...)
She is wonderful, fulfills all my needs in life, but I'm not in love with her. Should I reconnect with an ex, instead, despite problems likely to result?
Q. 5 years ago me and my partner that I have children with went through a very rough patch and I ended up cheating on her. Me and her friend ended up falling for each other but in the end I couldn't deal with the guilt and told her what has been go...
A. 26 May 2016: Easy
to quote the song: Love the one your with.... (read in full...)
I feel as if I am just the girl he made pregnant. Does he really love me? I feel as if I'm second best
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 years and together have two babies. We have 2 kids each to previous partners. All up we have 6 kids whom we raise together. He was with his ex for about 5 years. They were not married but were...
A. 26 May 2016: I don't see how you can win here. She is the mother of 2 of his kids. They will want their mother and will hate you if you ask her to leave.
It might be possible to limit her a bit, but I don't see how you come out a winner here.
Sadly I think... (read in full...)
I suffer social anxiety. How can I break the news to my parents that I've met a guy?
Q. Hey everyone, just looking for some advice and I guess some moral support :-) Brief background story: I've always been shy and introverted, and have been in abusive relationships in the past. After my last long term relationship I moved...
A. 26 May 2016: Its time for you to grow up.
You've been the scared little girl for far too long. Your not a girl anymore, your a woman and women don't cower in the corner.
Its hard I know, but you need to stand up here and just tell them.
You will feel b... (read in full...)
He ignores me and treats me like I don't exist ever since we had a one night stand. How can I better handle this rejection?
Q. Hi there, I'm married with 10 childrens and had an affair with a man that has 4 Children. We go to the same church and that's where everything happened. He smiled at me all the time and then it ended up into a one night stand we met up and ha...
A. 26 May 2016: There's no real quick fix here. In time you will be over it and then you can find a man who is right for you.... (read in full...)
My introverted daughter is in her 30s and loves animals. She hates her work and hates being single. At 71, what advice can I give her that will help her?
Q. I'm worried about my daughter. Recently she was upset about something and she blurted out that she hated being single. She is in her 30s and a highschool teacher, and she never got married but she always seemed okay with it. Recently, sh...
A. 26 May 2016: She still has plenty to time to fix both of her problems. I would advise her to quit teaching if she hates it so much. Even if she wont make it as a vet, she could do something else and be happier. I'm an introvert too and I find dealing... (read in full...)
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