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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes: This is a question mainly for the guys, and is something I've wondered about for ages. During foreplay, men have so many choices as to where to touch/kiss/lick a woman, there are so many erogenous zones.. instep of feet, thighs, waist and stomach, breasts/nipples, neck, ears, backside, labia clit vagina and so on... but what can women do to men, apart from go straight to the penis and balls? Do men like to be teased and turned on slowly too, or would that just be frustrating? What does it feel like when men have their nipples touched/licked, is there any pleasure at all in this? Sometimes you see men complaining that they "do all the work" - what can we do? Any tips and preferences would be most welcome :) thanks
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (9 February 2015):
Some men like to be teased... some do not.
I have had men love to have their nipples played with, some could care less and my current husband can't stand to have them touched at all...
every spot on a man that is on a woman is fair game for foreplay but it will depend on the guy..
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reader, Myau +, writes (7 February 2015):
There is one thing, but it isn't foreplay.
I like it what women hold me around my shoulders during. Makes me feel your into it. Especially if your holding tight.
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female
reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2015): Every guy is different and like different things. I've noticed that through experience. But in terms of foreplay, one thing all men like is visual stimulation. Guys love to look at you or watch you, especially if you are looking sexy. That really turns them on. Sometimes I'll just be walking around in my panties and my boyfriend, dirty thoughts will start racing through his head and immediately he jumps me. He bought me all this lingerie and loves when I wear it and act all sexy. We live together and sometimes if he seems quiet I'll ask if there is anything I can do for him and he always says, no, just do what you are doing looking all pretty, that makes me happy. What me and my boyfriend have works for us. Because I am satisfied and so is he. And our sex is so good. We don't really think about it too much, not too much planning goes into it. It is very natural. You are not going to have that kind of chemistry with everybody you date. I sure didn't. I feel lucky that I met my boyfriend and we are able to meet each other's needs so naturally. With what comes easy to us. Every man is different and has different preferences. If you have good communication with your boyfriend, he should feel at ease to tell you what he likes and wants. As should you. I think you'd be better off asking this question and having this discussion with your boyfriend. Who is an individual and has his own particular set of preferences, that nobody here can really answer for him.
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reader, chigirl +, writes (7 February 2015):
Do exactly the same as you mention on women. Men like the same things, for most part. They LOVE to get teased and worked up, it makes their erection harder, makes them come faster and have stronger orgasms.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (7 February 2015):
I don't care for anything other than maybe my neck or a kiss here or there to let me knows she's horny.
Nipples don't do it for me, it feels a little weird, like I have boobs or something. I think it's relatively common for guys to like it but not me.
What I do love is light touching on my penis or balls prior to any full contact. It makes me anticipate it more.
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female
reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 February 2015):
I'm not a guy, but I believe sex is a two way street - what you PUT into it, is what you get back. So if you let HIM do all the work, it becomes "work" for him and he will skip to the (for him) "good part".
Men have MANY of the same erogenous zones, but unlike women (who basically NEEDS a warm up before intercourse) men are mostly "good to go" once they are aroused - which for some guy.. don't take much.
BUT if you want to DO the work... (which you should WANT to) SPEND 10 minutes (or more) nibbling on his earlobe, kiss his chin, jawline, down his chest, antecubital (inside of the elbow), navel, the "love-handles", upper thighs, back of the knees, ankles, and if you "do" feet.. (I don't, feet grosses me out, mine AND other's lol) kissing the soles can be very nice.... If you have long hair just let it trail over him while you nibble/kiss... If you don't get a reaction, move to next spot. AVOID the penis/balls TOTALLY. It works two ways. It will TURN him on, AND you (watching a guy ENJOY teasing can be VERY pleasurable for the woman too).
Or get some massage oil and give him a nice sensual massage/rub down (again avoid his crotch).
The GOOD thing about giving PLEASURE is a WAY to non-verbally tell him WHAT you like done to you, and at the same time figuring out what really TICKS his boxes. (without asking)
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