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writes:So...this may sound pathetic...because I'm going to be alone this New Year's Eve. My friends are either going to spend New Year's Eve with their boyfriend or their husband. And the only one single friend prefers to stay at home. I feel so lonely.... Just last year, my friends and I were in Sydney celebrate New Year, but just in one year, everything's different. Everyone's got a boyfriend or married. I don't want to go out alone and look lonely. What can I do? Any suggestions? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 January 2016): I am also alone New Years eve, It is so sad that so much pressure is felt by people that they are somehow "not right" because they are on their own on New Years eve, when the truth is, it takes an "alright" person to be in a position to be able to enjoy their own company and not go out just for the sake of it, with no regrets to face in the morning and a good nights sleep, after all it really is just another day.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2015): Try a 'meet up' group. :-)
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (30 December 2015):
 Well, if it's just about not wanting to welcome the New Year all alone, why don't you go at your single friend's ? Call in pizzas or cook yourselves a special fancy dinner and then do whatever comes to mind : A Sex and the City marathon ? A card game ? A little New Agey ritual to get rid of old emotional baggage and attract your heart's desire in the coming year ? ( there are plenty to check on line and in " law of attraction " books , but if you invent your own it's more fun ).
If this scenario is too subdued and domesticated for your taste, and it's more about wanting to go out and party but not wanting to go out alone... you don't have too. Of course it depends from where you live, and if you live in a city you have more choices that if you are in a tiny village. But if you are at reasonable distance from any medium sized town, I can't believe that you can't find a Meet up group, or join a Pub Crawl group, or any of the various events that are organized for singles just like you- and advertised on local newspapers and on line.
Don't be lazy, do your search and you'll come up with something.
Best of all, since you mention going to Sidney last year, and supposing that this year you still have the money and the time to take off for a few days- all travel agencies all over the world organize single cruises or single ski trips or single weekend escapades in holiday resorts etc.
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reader, BrownWolf +, writes (30 December 2015):
You don't want to go out alone??? You do realize that is how you end up not alone right?? You go out, meet new people, get a few numbers, and maybe, just maybe, one of those numbers maybe the last number you will ever need to get. :)
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reader, Slippers  +, writes (30 December 2015):
I think I know where your coming from .. its harder for females to go out and get drunk and jump about especially if " alone" as your more vulnerable. . Now I'm not a push over but I'm not very strong upper body anyways .. ( have done kick boxing ) but guys seeing a girl alone can take advantage. . So my advice is ..Go out and see if you can spark convo with a group of girls or so . It's new year so girls will watch out for each other ..you may feel your tagging along at first .. but it's how friendships are made .. you gotta put yourself out there to make some..But be careful .. I'm dual trained nurse ( mostly specialised in mental health ) but I have covered triage and A and E at new year and the sights you see .. plus girls who have been put in situations by no fault of themselves Be careful baby .. and if you need to get in touch we are all here . X
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2015): Why dont you suggest to the other single friend who wants to stop in that you go to their house or they go to yours to see the new year in . Have a mini party so to speak
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reader, Denizen +, writes (30 December 2015):
 You are starting to do,'Poor me'. Sorry, but stop wallowing in self pity. Get out there on the street and hug policemen and strangers. Dance in the fountain. Climb a statue and yell out loud. Drop into a bar until countdown to midnight. Have a half in as many bars as you can beforehand.
The real spirit of new year is out there, on the street, with the people. If you don't like the sound of any of that then go to bed early. Lot's of people do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2015): New years eve is one great big party night and millions of people go out to make it a special event for the whole family here.Its interesting that you were in sydney last year..it looks to me as if you are used to celebrating in style.However not every one can keep up that pace forever..it can become a very expensive habit and as you have found yourself single on this particular occassion may i invite you to join the billions of people who just happen to stay in for new year.You can still pop champagne while watching indoors the millions of people braving the elements on live streaming from around the world.You can jam satelleite signals with important happy new year calls and see if any networks go down due to the sheer volume of calls.You can do anything you want from the comfort of your home knowing perfectly well that millions of other people are heading there as if its the biggest treat on earth after a very long evening on the streets.you can handle this alone or with friends..its entirely up to you..but now is the time to start saving for next new year when you may want to take another exotic trip to a famous place again.
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reader, Myau  +, writes (30 December 2015):
 Is there anyone you missed? Work friends etc?
Call them up and see what they are up to.
Failing that, if you want to go out, then do so
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