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writes: I have always hated my breasts and I wish I didn't have them. My mom says I will change but I don't think I will because I just look in the mirror and cry and just hate everything I see I want a flat chest so badly and I just don't know what to do I feel like just. Ughhh. But the thing is, I know that I am not transgender. I don't want to be a guy. I like being a girl. But I just hate my breaats so much I don't want them I feel trapped in the wrong body . Is there any way I could breast bind without spending a lot of money or raising suspicion. Im a c cup currently so...
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (2 June 2014):
 I think this is something you can't change without surgery. Or, if you are carrying a bit more weight than you should, you will lose the breast-fat by working out. So if you're overall a bit large, I would definitely focus on working out and getting slimmer, because your breasts will decrease in size too.
However, if your weight is otherwise normal, and your breasts are just this big, then there is nothing you can do about it without surgery. Your body is what it is, you can't wish it to be different.
I disagree with your mom, that this is something you will get over or get used to. You might grow to accept it, but it sounds to me like this is a genuine problem for you, and not something your mom should just brush away like it's nothing.
I would try to talk to your mother again, and ask her to help you find some options that will work. You can also consult a doctor about surgery, however you will have to wait with any surgery until you are older and your breasts have halted their growth. They might still get bigger. How are your mothers breasts? They will be a good indicator of how your breasts will turn out.
Other than that, you should get a proper bra fitted for you at a good store. The right bra does wonder, I tell you. Miracles in fact! So get one fitted by a professional, it might work magic. You can also tell the woman in the store than you want them to look smaller, and she will help you find the right bra for you.
Don't be afraid to ask the women who work at the stores for help. Go to a nice shop and ask for help in picking out clothes that will make your chest look smaller. You will still carry the weight, but perhaps you'll feel better if you can make them appear smaller.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (2 June 2014):
 Some good advice here about the breast binding and the bras. OP, the right bras, the right clothes, and proper posture and a means of dealing with rude comments will do wonders.
I don't know what you're doing or not doing, obviously, but slouching and wearing over sized t-shirts and sweatshirts will only make your breasts look bigger and draw attention to them.
The key is to break up the visual line with colours, patterns and style. You can Google some wardrobe ideas. This doesn't mean you have to go out and spend a small fortune on clothes, maybe only a couple of pieces here and there, but it might give you some tips on how to use what you have more effectively.
I'd wager it isn't the young boys who are the biggest problem. When it comes to breasts, girls and women are, BY FAR, the biggest pigs. They assume that because they're female and have breasts too, that because they're a friend or a relative or because they 'mean well' they can say whatever they want as often as they like.
I entered puberty ahead of many of my friends and as a result I received so many unsolicited 'compliments' and 'harmless jokes' from women, young and old, that combined with the over sized shirts I was wearing I began to see my figure as something resembling an African fertility goddess instead of the slender, small boned, 5'5", B cup that I was (and am).
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reader, BrownWolf +, writes (2 June 2014):
 First of all…PLEASE DO NOT HATE !!! Not yourself or anyone else.Today you will hate your breast, next it will be your hair, or some other body part. Fact is…You do not have a spare body somewhere that you can jump into so you can feel better about yourself. If you like being a girl, then accept the fact you will have breast, and love them.Let me be blunt but honest… I am sure there are some cancer patients who had to lose their breast because of cancer would like a B Cup, or any kind of natural breast. You have a perfect body and yet you complain about it. That is being ungrateful. Would you rather have no breast but lose an arm or leg instead?? Would that be okay as long as you are flat chested?? You understand where I am coming from, and why it is useless and pointless to hate yourself??Things could always be worst, and if something worst happen to you, your breast would be the lease of your concerns.Be happy with what you have, because there are a lot of people out there who would gladly take your place.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (2 June 2014):
 I don't blame you. At your age with a C cup all boys are young to notice (or so it might feel) are your boobs.
I never had a problem with my boobs (I wasn't bigger then a B though) but the period thing really sucked. Still sucks at 45, to be honest.
Ask your MOM to take you to a GOOD lingerie store/department store and get yourself measured RIGHT. Then ASK the lady that measure you to help you find bras that can be both comfortable but also minimize your chest. THERE are many bras out there that can help you. And having the right size bra is the way to go. Long term binding your chest isn't going to make you more comfortable.
Here are a couple of links to get you started.
http://www.lindasonline.com/desire-for-smaller-breasts-in-bra.html
http://www.xojane.com/clothes/best-minimizing-bras
Talk to your mom :)
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reader, Myau  +, writes (2 June 2014):
 Your young yet, you will get used to them. Becoming a man wasn't pleasant either. But I got used to it.
If at 18 you are still unhappy, you can get reduction surgery. But don't do anything drastic right now.
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reader, RevMick  +, writes (2 June 2014):
 Hi Sslol,Thanks for the question. I know when I was younger I hated my penis. I thought it was ugly and didn't want it.Like you, I knew I wasn't transgender, a friend of mine went down that route and I couldn't understand it. http://goaskalice.columbia.edu/breast-binding-safety gives the issues of binding and their safety concerns and might be a good thing to look at. I know it's for trans but it just covers binding the breasts and so should give advice.As for inexpensive ways, my friend tried clingfilm and crepe bandages to hide her breasts.I would say, do the above in small doses when you go out say, but don't do anything drastic for a few years and see if you grow into them. Like I did with Mr. winkyHope that helps a bit and good luck with whatever you decide.
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