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writes:Hello everyone, this is my first time on a site like this and I think it's just so great to find something that allows us to help each other through our own unique experiences. To get to my situation: I am an openly gay male and I recently came in contact with a close friend of mine again, we have become a little close again. We hadn't spoken in years. I consider myself respectful and non presumptuous. He has never had a gf or bf and not only that but the fact he knows I am does not deter him from actively finding ways of spending time with me. We will do dinner together and to celebrate my birthday he even surprised me with a gift. He had me walk to see his car and surprised me. He also was curious as to people's reactions when I told them about my sexuality. He gets shy when we both make eye contact. Am I looking too much into signs? Could he possibly be looking at me as more than a friend? I believe I am having a shift in my own feelings and I don't want that desire for him to like me to be a bias in all this. Has anyone experienced anything like this? Any and all answers are truly appreciated...this is weighing on me a lot.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2016): OP again.Thank you for your advice aunt honesty. He's such a shy man, so this is what makes it so challenging. I love the approach of celebrities, he'd find attractive. However, he always expresses he doesn't know much about celebrities and Hollywood.The other night he told me, he doesn't know much about relationships. We were just talking about a mutual friend that opened up about his relationship troubles with a female, and he's like I am the last person that knows anything about a relationship and could offer help or advice with that. So do you think it would be weird for me to probe a little by asking him about his dating history? I thought somewhere along the lines I could express to him, "I don't know if you are searching or not, but if you ever find that person who is right. You shouldn't be too shy with what you feel you have to offer. I know for a fact he is not confident. He always tells me the things he feels insecure about "his skin complexion, his patchy beard color, and even his weight" (btw these things just enhance the charm)Anyway is it advisable that I casually let him know, I find him to be very handsome, and then gauge his reaction? I could easily tell him I tell him this because I do, and because he should believe that I am not the only one who sees that in him.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (23 May 2016):
 It is quite impossible to say if he is interested in more. If he is shy it can be hard to approach this subject with him, but it is possible. Next time you are hanging out, comment on a famous guy that you fancy and ask him what does he think? If he is gay he might make a comment or if he is not he might tell you so. If he takes offence then you can just ask him is he gay or straight?
It does sound like he likes you, but I am unsure in which way. Therefore it is up to you to do the work to find out.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2016): I am the op.Thanks, for answering. Didn't know I had any responses. My follow up to your advice what are ways I could get him to talk about it in conversation? I thought about blatantly asking if he's ever been interested in anyone before and gauge. But if he's too shy for his own good, he may get a little bit uncomfortable. As an anecdote I might add, the other night we were spending time with a friend, and when it came to decide of either parting ways or doing something more, he suggested we should go to my place. He also knows my dog means a lot to me and he told me he couldn't wait to meet him. Also when I went to go pick up my car, and then I drove home--he texted to ensure I made it home safe.so either I have a very good friend and am the worst at reading signs or he may be interested to be more than a friend and I am the worst at reading those signs.
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reader, Myau  +, writes (21 May 2016):
 Its possible that he might want a relationship with you.
Its also possible that he just wants someone to help him come out if he is gay.
He also might just be a bit too introverted for his own good.
The only way your gonna know is by talking to him about it.
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