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writes:Does it feel different having another person touch you than when you're touching yourself?I guess I'm a little weird because I can only get off when I just get direct to the point. I've read that you should stroke yourself everywhere like your thighs and breasts to get turned before you carry on. That doesn't work for me. I only get pleasure when I get straight down to it. I wonder if foreplay would be better when I'm actually intimate with a guy for the first time.I'm nearly 17 btw and since I'm probably getting closer to losing my virginity I'm kind of scared that the guy won't be able to please me or whatever..
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (23 May 2016):
 Yes it does feel different when someone else is doing it, if you wait for the right person then it should feel better. If you are turned on by a partner then your body will become responsive to them.
Sweetie you are not weird at all, everyone is different and likes different things, getting directly to the point is common enough so don't think you are any different. Maybe when you are with a partner you will discover that you like other things as well. It is all about exploring and enjoying it. If you don't want to stroke yourself anywhere then don't, do what works for you. I am sure foreplay will be very different once you try it.
Just because you are close to 17 does not mean you need to rush in to losing your virginity. It is more important to meet the right guy first and get to know him before being sexual with him, as that can lead to a bad experience. You need to make sure that you are ready. I can totally understand why you would be scared that a guy won't please you. But when you find the right man and you are ready to have sex with him, you will also be able to talk openly to him about what you like, and also you can direct him so that he knows what you like. As I said all women are different and have different trigger points, so am sure a man would be more than happy to know what you like, so don't be afraid to tell him.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan +, writes (22 May 2016):
It’s likely that it will be different and perhaps better, especially because you will be turned on by your partner. You’re talking about what you like to do to make yourself aroused but you’ll probably already be in that aroused state when you get intimate with a partner. There is no substitute for learning as you go along what you like and sharing that with your partner. If he genuinely wants to please you, he will appreciate that feedback. That’s what Myau is saying in his very good answer.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, Myau  +, writes (22 May 2016):
 Your not weird at all.
I'm pretty much the same. I just like insertion. Even head doesn't do much for me.
Dont worry about it too much, just have fun. That's the whole point.
And btw my first gf knew how to get off and showed me how to do it so she orgasmed every time. I respect her for that alot more than my second gf who just lay there and complained that it wasn't good.
Remember guys don't have vaginas, we are taking your word for what feels good. You can say during "A little to the left or harder/slower.
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