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I hooked up with the girl who used my friend and broke his heart. Do I tell him?

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Question - (4 January 2016) 6 Answers - (Newest, 5 January 2016)
A male United States age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I have know this friend for 11 years and he is a very nice guy, he is the most successful friend I have, he's a high end lawyer, and because of that people tend to use him. So when he started dating this very attractive girl I instantly knew something was up because he's a pretty odd looking/acting guy. And the fact that she is 23!! And he is 39 kinda gave it away. But even through all that, he was the kindest boyfriend ever to her. He paid her rent, helped her get her degree, and was very patient with dealing with her anxiety. After 6 months he was in love, and foolishly asked her to marry him, and she dumped him days after. Depression, and Suicide attempts summed up my friend's life for a good 5 months, thank god he got through it. Last week, I saw her while I was jogging, and really fought the urge to hit her but I don't hit women so I just approached her and wanted to know why she would do something like that to him, and that sparked a conversation that would last like 4 hours. When we got to her house(which was too nice to be her's) I told her I was leaving because I was seriously dehydrated and she invited me up for some water and that's when it happened. I'm not proud of it, and now I'm really battling whether I should tell my friend about it or not. She texts me all the time now, and me and my friend hang out all the time so I'm really stuck in between a rock and a hard place. What do I do? Any advice?

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2016):

Stay away from This girl and you must tell your friend or he will think you were never really his friend.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2016):

I be very careful, about this woman, I've seen women do this on purpose, they want to destroy your friendship, she can be a man hater, do not tell your friend, but do your best, to block everything about her, run as fast as you can, a piece of ass , isn't worth your friendship.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (5 January 2016):

To be honest it's obvious you fancy her otherwise you would have just ignored her in the first place and not bothered to give her a piece of your mind. You've already crossed the line so now it's up to you whether to cross it again or to tell your friend and stop, if you choose the first then you must cut ties with your friend otherwise you're completely devout of decency.

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland +, writes (4 January 2016):

aunt honesty agony auntIt is quite possible she could ruin your friendship here. It was a silly mistake for you to make, I suggest telling her to stop texting and delete her from your life. You need to decide who is more important to you, her or your friend.

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A male reader, Myau New Zealand +, writes (4 January 2016):

Myau agony auntShort answer: No and tell her to stop messaging you.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States +, writes (4 January 2016):

Honeypie agony auntNo, don't tell him - but stop messing around with her. If she fucked your friend over... why wouldn't she do the same to you?

Block her and move on. I mean seriously why would you even entertain any kind of interjection with someone who treated a good friend like that? Who used him and tossed him like an old rag?

Karma, my friend... think about it.

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