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writes:I'm knocking on 30 and have never been in a serious relationship. Honestly, I haven't been on many dates either. No one seems interested in me. More and more my single friends are getting married and the married ones are having children and I feel left behind. It's not that I want to be in a relationship to keep up. It's just that it would be nice to have someone interested in me. I have no one to come home to and discuss how my day went or how I'm feeling. I'm lonely and feel like something is wrong with me since no one is interested. Even more embarassing is that other people notice my constant singleness too. One of my fathers friends said "you still don't have a boyfriend...well we gotta get you something at least an affair." I was so humiliated. Isn't it hard enough being single? How do get through this embarassment?
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reader, Amanda126781 +, writes (5 January 2009):
I am so with you on this one. I am 30 and still single and like you haven't had any serious relationships and haven't really dated all that much either. I would love to come home to someone everyday, and not a pet either. I get so tired of people saying get a pet they will love you no matter what. That sucks!! I want a decent, kind, romantic, hard working man who loves me for me. I get so tired of hearing people say, especially family, ask me the question of "when are you going to get married?" or " when will you start having children because I'm not getting any younger?" that makes me want to pull my hair out. I hate coming home to nothing and at times I wonder if I will find my dream man. I feel so left out on life. It's passing me by.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (11 September 2008):
 Get a puppy, they welcome you when you come home and are very intrested what you are doing especially in the kitchen.
Some people just don't want to be in a relationship, it is hard for couples to accept this. Rememeber, misery loves company.
If you don't want to be in a relationship and have no intrest in dating then that is your choice but life is embarrising and you will get comments no matter what you do. People make comments, just ignore it.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (11 September 2008):
What to say to your father's rude friends:
Them: "are you still single? You should have a partner by now."
You: "Well you are ugly, but I could get a boyfriend if I wanted."
Go and watch sex in the city and cheer up. You'll be there for all your friends divorces when they discovered they married too young.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2008): Hi there .... let me start by telling u that im 30, im single and im proud of myself. Lemme also tell you that most of my friends are married but a few of them are also divorced or having a troubled relationship. I think its true for the entire world that life is never perfect. If you haven't found your guy yet, then may be the ones you did come across were not right for you. ( Frankly, you wouldn't want to be caught up in a wrong relationship) .As sappygirl has said, don't let comments bother you. If they do, try mixing up with people who do not make such comments. Sign up for some hobby classes, follow whatever is your passion, you will find your life light up :-) it will also give you an opportunity to meet people with similar interests and mindset. Who knows, your Mr. Right may be just around the corner :-)
Good Luck !
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reader, Ed1337 +, writes (11 September 2008):
 Try not to think about it too much is all I can say, if you put pressure on yourself all the time to find someone, you will just make it harder not to feel nervous around the opposite sex, and when you do meet someone you won't come across as being needy and desperate. You could also try and avoid the people who constantly ask about your love life, I know how it feels to be asked every week by the same person whether or not i'm getting married soon, or when i'm gonna become a dad etc. They may think its fun to tease you about your love life, but they don't realise how much it can upset you, to be reminded all the time about how your still single, or you could just tell them to mind there own business, I doubt they will ask you again.If you do start to feel down about being single, just think about all the good things you can do without having to worry about pleasing someone else. If your in a job where you are working with people who are much older than you, perhaps you should consider a job change, just to meet new guys. A lot of poeple I know met their partner at work.
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reader, sappygirl +, writes (11 September 2008):
 Guys love confident, outgoing girls.
You seem very shy.
there are ways to attact men. Smile, flirt be a little outgoing.
The truth is...comments like that shouldn't bother you.
There is no shame in being single. sometimes the grass is greener on the other side because there are many people in unhappy marraiges wishing they would be in your shoes.
You will find that special someone. The problem is it comes when you least expect it.
In the mean time, just keep working to be the best person you can be, and not be embarrassed or ashamed.
Be proud
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