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anonymous
writes:Hi, im 17 and have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now... I have recently gone on the pill and it seems to have ruined our sex life! Since we no longer use a condom it takes him a matter of literally 30 seconds to come during sex. This means that I get little enjoyment out of sex, it barely feels asthough we are having sex and I am left completely unfulfilled. What can I do to help him last longer? It is causing rifts in ur relaionship as he feels guilty and I feel let down and tell him it's fine, when I do feel downabout the whole issue. Any advice would really be great x
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2008): He's not doing it right. He should bring you to orgasm by other means before he takes his pleasure. You might manage a couple of orgasms but he'll just manage it once.
Break it to him gently that you feel a little let down and suggest he concentrates on a lot more foreplay before he gets down to it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2008): give him a hand job or oral before he enters you after he cums he will propably last longer next time and let him use the time it takes him to reload to pleasure you more or simply for a sensual massage to get you excited
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (6 September 2008):
 Use a condom
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reader, Rhandy  +, writes (6 September 2008):
 just open up to him and tell the truth that you are unfulfilled, He might understand the situation.or you might ask him to masturbate before having sex with him, in this case he might get last longer to cum during sex. i told you this based upon my experience.. hope it might help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 September 2008): You need to get some enjoyment before he enters you. Possibly try some oral (him to you), or some decent foreplay. If he won't come to the party then he's just interested in his own enjoyment. Any good lover knows that pleasing a woman in bed is 75% mood, 20% foreplay and 5% penis (give or take depending on the couple), and you should both learn this. If he is around your age then he should be able to quickly perform again, hopefully with more of a delay. Trying to thrust with the base of his penis, rather than the head can help too (hard to explain, but he needs to concentrate more on what he's doing than how it feels?).It is important to not let him get hung up on coming too fast, as it could possibly mess him up sexually (the problem could get worse, or he could be that nervous that he can't get it up for example).
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