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writes:how can i get my boyfriend to help with my pregnancy? ok .. well my boyfriend n i been together for a yeae..n hes been really happy lately because of our child. and i really love him and care bout him .. the thing is ,, hes always buyin video games,, n movies,, and everytime i tell him ,, ''please can u buy me fruit'' .. he be like ''sure i will '' till this day he hasnt helped at all .. hes always busy wit his games and his new sidekick .. i just think hes too immature and that he has to grow up .. i was a game fanatic too .. but now im getting serious about this upcoming baby .. i just hope hes ready and not spent his time fooling around. i dnt know what to tell him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2008): Yeah lazyguy is right....
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (8 September 2008):
 You are pregnant, he isn't.
You got little choice but to grow up and perhaps you were ready for it but you only got to look down to see that you got no choice.
To him, the baby is just a blob in your stomach. It won't be real until it is born and might never become real.
It is the biggest difference between men and women perhaps. Men do NOT get pregnant.
Further more if he is near your age, what the bloody hell did you expect? Boys grow up slower and as any woman can tell you, most never grow up at all. You got knocked up by a kid and expect him to grow up?
Unlikely, try to see if you can get some couple counseling and help with your financial situation. If he isn't mature enough to handle the finances then he shouldn't. Make sure you have enough money somehow to pay for your own and your babies needs.
Frankly, at the moment you got enough on your plate to worry about your BF, sit him down, tell him to shape up or get out and get your affairs in order.
Getting a teen boy to mature... well if you pull it off, there is a situation in the middle east you could solve, should be easy after that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2008): Tell him he needs to step up and play the part of being daddy. Video games are fine, but your much more important. He's the one that got you pregnet now he can help you with everything needed. Your asking for food, you cant live off of a video game! Does he say anything about the baby? Are you talking about your going to do after the baby is born? Take him away from the games and talk.(-;)3 Bunnie
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reader, Bubblegum-Pink  +, writes (7 September 2008):
 Well done for being so responsible and committed to your unborn baby, especially seeing as you've had so little support. I would suggest that you make time, maybe go for a walk together or somewhere for coffee, where you can talk to him about what's bothering you. Try not to sound like you're attacking him and perhaps make suggestions about things he could do to help. If it's easier for you, make short notes beforehand.If this seems too daunting, tell a trusted friend or family member how you're feeling and ask
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