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writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for 1 month and 15 days (( Yes, I counted the days, shoot me )) and we've been talking about sex latley. We played the nervous game one time and he was suppose to go in my pants, but he went in my underwear by accident. I dont know why, but sex seems like the only thing we talk about now... but I'm not sure if I'm ready. I really love him...and it may be weird, but we have already talked about how we're going to be together forever. And how we're going to have a family together. I promised myself I would be a virgin until marrige, but I really think Matt is worth breaking that promise. So please, can someone help me with my decision??
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 September 2008): Please don't, the relationship has not been long enough. You said so yourself "all you guys talk about is sex now". Wait till you've been together 6 months, then think about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2008): Sweetie, please answer this question, would you be embarassed if anyone (including your parents) found out that you had sex?
If you answer yes, then you are most certainly not ready to have sex. Period. End of story. If you think that you have to lie or hide that fact that you would no longer be a virgin then you aren't ready for it.
Even if you answered no, then think about what your parents, friends, and even teachers would say... a lot of people look down on children of your age (yes you are still a child) being involved in sexual activity.
Also, even if you are on birth control, or use a condem, there is still like a 7% chance that you can become pregnant! Are you ready for the responsibility of being a parent? Losing all self and other's respect of you and your body? Is Matt worth the humilation of that?
Virginity is a once in a life time deal. Once it's gone, it's never coming back.
My last thing is that sex hurts the first time. You actually have to break through the skin in your vagina.
Please if you do decide to have sex, use as much protection as possible!
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reader, Bladejunkee +, writes (19 September 2008):
 I suppose if you love this guy enough, why don't you try masturbating with each other some time, it'd be a better start, and over time, you'll be sure you want to have sex with him. But if you do, when you do, buy condoms, some people don't know if they love some-one until they know if they are willing to have the same sex all their life, so don't jump to conclusions about loving this guy. Good luck.
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Bladejunkee
Post Script:If this helped,
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 September 2008): A lot of girls have sex when they're 14 or 15 years old.
But the vast, vast majority of them regret it later. Not just because they didn't stay with the guy forever, either. A ton of women just think they were nowhere near ready for sex at that age. Whether they had known the guy for a long time or not.
You can physically do it at 14, but mentally you're not there yet at all. Let me say it again, I'm not trying to pick on you. I'm just pointing out what almost every woman says herself looking back.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2008): dont have sex! wait untill marriage. you'll regret it if you dont
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reader, peace.love.happiness +, writes (18 September 2008):
peace.love.happiness is verified as being by the original poster of the questionheyyy...I just want to tell you guys that we have known eachother our WHOLE lives....so its not like we've only know eachother for 2 monthss
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (18 September 2008):
 Together forever, after 1 month and 15 days.
Right, because that is some serious commitment.
You haven't even been one season together, not shared a holiday or most likely a birthday. And you talk about forever.
Understandable at your age but geez, try to get a grip.
It is said that for the first six months in a relationship the hormones are raging just from meeting someone new. It is only afterwards that you settle down and find out wether you truly love that other person and it ain't just sexual attraction.
We all been there, we all been young, once, long ago, in times gone by, and things really haven't changed. You have been on a couple of dates, are hot to troth and think forever means next week.
If you want to remain a virgin till marriage, or at least until you are in long term relationship, here is a hint. You should be counting at least the months, not days of the relationship.
If in a year or two you are still together, then you know he ain't just after sex and neither are you. If you think two years are an eternity to wait then that is pretty much all the proof you need that you are to young. Two years after all a fraction of the rest of your life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2008): He is playing you. All he is after is sex. That is why he talks to you about marriage and children and being together forever to turn you on. Dump him quick because as soon as he gets bored with you, that's what he'll do to you.
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (18 September 2008):
 First point - one month is no time at all when it comes to relationships. One month and fifteen days is only six weeks - it's like a drop in the ocean.
Second point- you are only very young. Don't be in a hurry to lose your virginity. You only lose it once, so make sure you are completely certain. If you are uncertain AT ALL, then don't.
Third point - if you are so certain that you are going to be together forever, then why not wait until you are married anyway? You'll still get to have sex with him in the end, and you will have kept your promise. And if he loves you, he will understand, and will be happy to wait.
In conclusion - don't do it. Not yet, anyway. Think of it this way - waiting has few consequences. Losing your virginity has many, and you can't take it back. I'd advise you at least wait until you are older, more mature, and more certain.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2008): If you really think he's worth breaking a promise you made to yourself then wait 2 years. If he's still around by then then go for it but...
At your age everything is so intense. Understand that your first time should be special and in teenage years 1 month may seem like an eternity. But its really not. Don't give it up so easily!!
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reader, n00dl35 +, writes (18 September 2008):
 please don't do this. you're definetly not ready if you're unsure. 1 month is not a long time and you can say that you're going to be together forever, but you're young, and you don't know that. stay true to your promise and wait till marriage. don't mess it up and have sex then have something go wrong. you'll regret it. i know your hormones are going crazy but you gotta control yourself. when you're older you'll hopefully having a relationship that you know you love each other and then it'll be time. trust me, you'll be happy that you've waited if you do. take care.
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