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writes:I have been in a relationship with the same guy for five years. We have had some amazing times and some terrible times. He has cheated on me over 20 times (4 of them having sex with other girls) I cheated on him twice (having sex with two other guys)! We forgave each other and he still gets mad about my past but when I bring his past up he gets furious with me. I am a freshman in college and I am still dating him. We are really happy but he does not want me in a sorority, to talk to friends from high school, or to ever go out and party. He stays in too during the weekend. I am sick of hearing my friends having so much fun in college. I love my boyfriend and I really want to be with him, but I just want to live my college life and have fun now. I don't want him to leave me but I want to have fun and be faithful to him along the way. We go to different colleges now, but next year we are going to the same school if all works out. What do i say to him and what do i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2008): you're way too young to have a serious relationship especially at your age and situation. college is for fun, growth, exploration. it is not for staying in, being depressed. that's what marriage is for. dump him and start having sex with multiple partners like it sounds like you like to do anyways.
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (11 September 2008):
 i agree with lazy guy you both dont seem ready for a relationship because if you were the cheating wouldnt of went past one and not 20. i think you both need to go on a break and see were life takes you..because you are clearly not working out.. and as for him not wanting you to do things he is trying to control you!!! yet he can do what he wants ? no you are both free people you both broke the trust and you will never get that back unless you change how it is going..im sorry to say i think this relationship had run its course when you both started cheating if you love someone you dont do that because it would kill you and at this rate you both be dead a hundred times over..if you really want to be with him you have to be honest and communicate and say what you want or you will be in misery and you will resent him for it..my opinion walk away and start a fresh and if in a few months you feel diferent then get back together but i think its over you both just dont want to realise it.. sorry hugs aphexy xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2008): Why do you stay? Think... Does that or does that not make you just as bad as him
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (11 September 2008):
 o_O
Come on, you two just ain't ready for a relationship. Neither of you seems willing to commit to the other. You want to go out and have fun, presumably sleeping around. He wants to sleep around and keep you locked up for later.
You two just don't seem compatible at all. Sure you two have fun, then again you each had fun with a total of six different people so it is not that special apparently. You forgave each other. Fine, but the point is that if you forgive someone that sort of caries the expectation, the person won't do it again.
What do you say and do?
"Goodbye" and walk away.
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