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writes:Hey,,Since May 16, 2008 (Friday) I've got a boyfriend W.,, I really love him,, and he loved me too.. But now there's a boy V. and he's 12 years old and he makes our relationship bad and runescape too.. W. is 15 and I'm 16 before you didn't know.. Now W. says I deserve a better boyfriend and that he maybe wants to break up.. But I can't handle that right now.. I lost my last boyfriend a couple times on horrible ways (like he used me ).. But W. was perfect,, just perfect,, nice,, sweet,, we were always together but now we see each other maybe 1 time in 2 weeks because he needs to play runescape and that little brat (V.) is always there !!Now he made me cry and I had photos of him next to my bed and I changed them in Skandar Keynes photos but it hurts every day and I cry every day..How can I make my relationship good ??Thank you.Sam Reply to this Question
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reader, Sam_Narniagirll +, writes (22 September 2008):
Sam_Narniagirll is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey, Thank you very much.
About that 12 year old boy, well he's not nice and always wants to be with my boyfriend. I never see him.
I'm not obsessed by Skandar, he's just my favourit actor.
But today there happened something bad, he said he didn't like gothic's just like me. But he didn't want to break up because he wasn't sure about this all. I cried, again.
But thank you very much! And his account is hacked.
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reader, karlgoo  +, writes (18 September 2008):
 yeah i used to play runescape a lot you could get an account and play with him but usually people play a lot and then they just quit like i did so don't think he will be playing runescape for a long time because most likely he will get bored sooner or later.
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reader, LazyGuy +, writes (18 September 2008):
 You can't, it his choice to spend his life the way wants to. Seems clear he values games more then spending time with you. That is his choice.
It really is no different then your obsession with Skandar Keynes, who ever that may be.
Maybe you can talk to him, remind him that if he wants a gf, he got to make choices. Level up your relationship as well as his character in runescape. Grind love instead of xp.
But ultimately, you can't change, and shouldn't even attempt, an other persons personality.
Him saying that you deserve a better boyfriend seems a bloody big clue that he just ain't ready for the commitment a gf requires.
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reader, Tremor  +, writes (18 September 2008):
 I don't see what V has to do with anything, aside from the fact that he plays Runescape with your boyfriend. He doesn't seem to be involved in any important way. Care to clarify?
W has already told you he's thought about breaking up - perhaps his playing Runescape and not seeing you as often is his way of trying to distance himself from you. He's already talked to you about it, and you seem to have said 'no, we can't break up' - so now he's resorted to other tactics.
Or of course, he could just be sucked into this game, in which case, you'll have to remind him that there's a real world out there. Put in some effort, go out to movies, go visit him, call him, etc.
Or of course, you could get a Runescape account yourself and play that with him.
Good luck.
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