By cutting him off, will he realize what he is walking away from?
Q. My husband walked out on me and our 2 children 3 months ago for another woman at work who is 17 years younger than him. We have been married for 9 years and together for 13. I have tried everything I can to try and win him back and I know he is ...
A. 19 October 2009: I am glad that you gained the courage to even think about moving on. That is a really hard step for anyone, especially when you have kids and so many years together between the two of you. I very much doubt that he will actually come around and ... (read in full...)
I want to sleep with my girl friend...how can I convince my husband to share?
Q. I have been married for 14 years to a wonderful man that I am very much in love with. However after I got married I realized that I was bisexual. About ten years ago I had a girlfriend that he knew about and I loved her very much. At that time he ...
A. 19 October 2009: It seems that men think that bisexuality is just something to get off on when it's found in women. I think before, your husband only saw this arrangement as something that he could enjoy as well. But now I think he realizes that you actually have ... (read in full...)
Did he marry me for love? Or was it out of lonliness?
Q. Hey all, i have been married for just over a year now and my husband married me a few monthes after his mum died and his dad also died about two years before his mum. I have been a bit unsure about whether or not he married me for love or because ...
A. 19 October 2009: Do you see him while he is in Iraq? Or do you only see him every few months as well. I'm sure he married you for more reasons than just loneliness, so I wouldn't be overly concerned about that. The one thing I would be concerned however is that he ... (read in full...)
Could Clarice be threatening our relationship?
Q. I found something on my boyfriend's phone that has really been bothering me yesterday. I need some advice as to how I can get over this, or if I should trust him, or if I should just move on. I hung out with my boyfriend over sweetest day wee...
A. 19 October 2009: Thanks everyone for the advice, it really helps. Just really shocking to see something like that on your significant other's phone. It's so easy to jump to conclusions.
Anyway, updates already. He has deleted her off his accounts and assures ... (read in full...)
Should I be concerned about her six months of promiscuity?
Q. Lets assume I'm an idiot and a hypocrite. But... Should i be concerned about a gal who had six months of promiscuity. That is hooking up her senior year of college with guys she knew in six months. It's uncharecteristic of me but its getting ...
A. 15 October 2009: In my honest experience with friends, her sexual behavior is quite typical. Once she breaks out of a relationship with her first, she then sleeps with multiple partners with no strings attached. I think the mentality here is that she has already ... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to change his thought that I'm controlling him?
Q. I found out from a friend my boyfriend created a facebook today. I dislike social networkings like that because myspace caused so many problems between us before. I stopped going on it but I let him continue to go on it. One day, during summer, we ...
A. 15 October 2009: What kind of problems has myspace created between the two of you before? Has he exchanged pictures with other girls or something that has shown that you cannot trust him? It'd be helpful if you clarified that a little bit.
But either way, you... (read in full...)
What's the biggest age difference that won't make society feel awkward?
Q. i'm almost 18. there's a guy i like right now who's 23. we have decent banter and tend to stare at each other, but that isn't going to work out because he just got engaged. there's another guy who's 30 and we have terrific banter and i alway...
A. 15 October 2009: Well my first bit of advice is to stay far away from the guy who is getting engaged. You really don't want to get tangled up in something as big as an affair, especially as young as you are and with as many options as you have. I mean you are going ... (read in full...)
How do I prove to her I'll never cheat again?
Q. I cheated on my girl friend that I have been with for a year and 8 months. I was more drunk then any man ever should be when I cheated on her and barely remember doing it. I wouldnt ever cheat on her normally because I love her with all my heart. I ...
A. 15 October 2009: Listen. The first step is not blaming your actions on being drunk. I have known a ton of people that have been all different degrees of drunk (including myself) and have never cheated on anyone. So basically, it's still a choice to cheat, and it's ... (read in full...)
My insecurities are driving me nuts. I just need to hear some good advice really.
Q. my gf and i broke up and got back together but during our 30 day breakup she had sex 4-5 times with another coworker of mine. i have to see him 5 days a week. even though we WERE broken up and im the one that broke up with her to begin with, she ...
A. 13 October 2009: I think you're having issues because you compare to what she did with that guy to what she is doing with you right now. You're got to realize that you broke up with her, and instead of sitting around devastated about the fact, she used the time to ... (read in full...)
Is it psychologically normal to have feelings for an older man?
Q. Hi, was just wondering.. I'm 20 years old, and am currently seeing a man 11 years older then me, is there anything wrong with dating older men? I know each person is different and so but from a psychological point of view is it normal to have ...
A. 13 October 2009: I guess we could all go back to the biological aspects of the early days of man and try to figure out this question from there. Men naturally want young women. They are programmed to pick out the best suited for becoming pregnant and being fertile. ... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for wanting her to stop being friends with people she made out with in the past?
Q. My fiancee had a very wild, promiscuous past, with guys and girls. I have dealt with that and moved on, enjoying the present. However, it recently came up that she had been with one of the girls who is still her friend today. I told her it made me ...
A. 13 October 2009: This is a bit of a tough one. I am assuming she didn't make out with these people while she was with you, but before. The argument that I would hold against you is that you knew how promiscuous she was before you made the choice to become engaged. ... (read in full...)
I feel like he is using my lies as a way out of our relationship
Q. So i met this guy online. and he and I have talked for over a year now. we got to the point where I loved him and he loved me, and we never hid that. we'd say "i love you" quite often. Im from the states and he from Canada. Im 20 and he's 33. the ...
A. 13 October 2009: The answer to your question is no. Just because you forgive him for cheating doesn't mean he should forgive you for your lies. Love isn't tit for tat, and love doesn't allow one person to seek 'revenge' on the other. I think him cheating was a way ... (read in full...)
He has become much less affectionate with me, do I stay with him or leave?
Q. Hi I really don't know what too do, I met my present partner back in March 09, we had a great sex life and he was very physically affectionate and loving then but over that time he had a male flatmate who was a control freak, that flat mate has left...
A. 13 October 2009: As sensitive as this subject is, you have to make a decision as to whether you want to stick around or not. Stress and all the issues from his past have a lot to do with how he associates with other people which includes his partners. Of course, I ... (read in full...)
Do guys get turned off by pubic hair?
Q. Do guys get turned off by pubic hair? Im 16 and im scared guys wil think im dirty. plz help ...
A. 8 October 2009: I personally shave down there. Everything. It just feels more tolerable and...well...clean to me. It's basically the same reason as to why I shave my legs or other areas of the body.
My boyfriend stated that he doesn't care if I'm shaved or not, ... (read in full...)
He broke up with me says he cannot accept me in public
Q. Hello all - my boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me 3 weeks ago and this has devastated me. I have been reading all the stuff posted here just to help me going. but no luck, it just drives me nuts. I mean it was almost like marriage and we used to ...
A. 8 October 2009: Well I'm glad that you have the strength to not contact him anymore. It doesn't sound like this guy has his head on straight, and he really doesn't deserve your attention at this point. You said that he has broken off the relationship before. That ... (read in full...)
I just keep asking myself if I'm gay
Q. hi 26 and ive been attracted to females all my life,im in a serious relationship but latley ive been asking myself am i gay,i cant get it out of my head.when im around other males i get an uneasy feeling and my thoughtss run wild,not in a sexual way ...
A. 8 October 2009: I think you're just trying to knock yourself down over something that is totally unrelated to what's really bothering you. Maybe you're starting to feel insecure about the relationship you have right now? Or maybe there is something else in your ... (read in full...)
She told me to get porn then changed her mind, what gives?
Q. My wife and I were talking recently about porn, just in general. We don't watch it or anything. During the conversation I brought the fact that one of our favourite TV shows was used as a basis for a pornographic film. She said that it sounded ...
A. 8 October 2009: Ah the woes of the short circuit through male and female communication. Women are like that unfortunately. They say something and they definitely mean something totally different. As a woman, I can't really tell you why she said what she said, but ... (read in full...)
My bf rips my thongs on purpose. how can I make him stop.
Q. ill make this short and simple. my boyfriend keeps literally ripping my underwear everytime we have sex! we will get into the mood and he will legit RIP my thong off! im getting rly irritated because i keep having to buy new ones! i have told him ...
A. 8 October 2009: I know I shouldn't be laughing, because thongs are kind of expensive depending on the place, but this is kinda funny. What would I do?
Maybe if you're one of those kinky people, stop wearing underwear. Or what would be even funnier is if you put ... (read in full...)
He is calling me chubby and it hurts
Q. My boyfriend who I have not been dating for very long tells me I'm a little fat around the midsection and rear section. This really hurt my feelings when he said this. We had just made love and he told me I was not fat just a little chubby an...
A. 8 October 2009: Guys have this tendency that they can pick and choose flaws in women, yet they'll go to bed with whatever will sleep with them. So don't let the fact that you two have sex dismiss his behavior. There are a few things that you have to ask consider ... (read in full...)
Why does she dress that way when I'm not around
Q. hey wats going on i tried talking with my girlfriend about why she dresses better and more revealing when im not around and she got realy defensive and didnt let me finish she always does that when i try and talk to her about something we nead to ...
A. 8 October 2009: Have you thought maybe that it's in your head a bit? I mean sure you definitely notice when your girlfriend wears revealing clothing when you're not really around her, but does she always cover up when you are? Maybe that's just how she dresses. If ... (read in full...)
How do I get my boyfriend to propose?
Q. I am 22 years old and i have been in a relationship with my 25 boyfriend for almost 5years what can i do to try and get him to propose. we always talk about the future, but i dont think that he is going to propose at least no tome in the near ...
A. 7 October 2009: How do you make him propose? You can't. That's up to him to decide whether he's ready to get married or not. Five years is an awfully long time to be dating however, so I see completely where you are coming from. You've got to consider how he feels ... (read in full...)
He has the urge to try other girls?
Q. I need advice... I asked my boyfriend (we've been on bad terms since he left for some reason) if he has the urge to try out other girls (since I'm his first, trying not to count the girl he got drunk/cheated with) He said 'eh kinda, but it's ...
A. 7 October 2009: Wait. He must act on urges because he cheated on you in the first place, right? Just saying. Anyway. All guys have the urge to sleep with other girls. And girls also have urges to sleep with other guys. It's just the natural order of things. The ... (read in full...)
Do you think she has changed her mind and wants to be with me?
Q. Hey I am 21 years old and this is a question directed towards the girls... (but if you are a guy who has had the same thing happen please feel free..) My best friend is a girl and we have been friends for years. We have always back and forth ov...
A. 6 October 2009: When you say that she might have 'changed her mind', I'm assuming that she has said she doesn't want a relationship with you in the past. That being said, I wouldn't really go off of the night she kept texting you. Girls get drunk and they text ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to sleep with a woman I hardly know?
Q. I meet a woman 2 months ago, through the Internet.We talk over the phone just about everyday. The problem is she wants to spend the night with me.The problem is that I am scared of her showing up un-announced, Is it ok to sleep with a woman I hardly...
A. 6 October 2009: You just have to assess the situation. There is some risk in allowing someone you don't really know into your house, especially when it comes to the internet. For men it's more of a threat of thievery and what not. Have you actually met this woman ... (read in full...)
I know I can't ask him to stop having contact with her. Any suggestions?
Q. I am getting married very soon and currently my fiancé and I live apart due to selling houses etc. My fiancé has a close female friend whom he has known for over 15 years. I also know her as we all used to work together. My fiancé and her have ...
A. 6 October 2009: There isn't really anything you can do at this point. I mean the guy has known this girl for fifteen years. They were friends long before you came into the picture as far as marriage is concerned. I really do hope that they just talk on the phone ... (read in full...)
Did he think he was going to get sex again?
Q. My ex and I recently decided to be friends again after one year of no communication. I quit talking to him because he didn't want to commit, stringing me along and messing with my feelings. He contacted me asking if we could still be friends and we ...
A. 6 October 2009: Two weeks? I'd say this guy definitely isn't serious, just like he wasn't in the past. You'll find in life that people rarely change, and I'm assuming you two aren't in a relationship or anything right now, so yes. It is definitely his turn to call. ... (read in full...)
I want to plan our future but he thinks I'm thinking too far ahead!
Q. Hi my boyfriend and I go to seperate colleges and he plays baseball. We have been together for 3 years and were planning on getting married the summer after graduation. Everytime I bring something up that I'm concerned about I.e. Money or something ...
A. 6 October 2009: How long is it until the summer after graduation? I am thinking it's quite a bit of time, seeing your age and that you started college. You two have a lot to worried about without a wedding on your plate. He likes baseball, so don't pressure him to ... (read in full...)
How do I give my boyfriend a good blowjob?
Q. Hmm... Well where do i start as many of you may know i dont see my bf so much but i will see him tomorrow... ?? And i was wondering whats some goodways to give a good blow job to him i want him to leave with wanting more thanks much love :) ...
A. 6 October 2009: The best answer I have is to...read porn. Haha. I know it's really lame, but they give pretty good descriptions of how to give a decent blowjob. Reading instead of watching definitely gives you a step by step guide. Read a couple in order to compare ... (read in full...)
Why would he want me to abort his baby if he loves me?
Q. My boyfriend wants me to have an abortion because we are still young, and his mother does not approve of a girl who is not married to have a second child. I am confused whether he loves me or not, why does he want me to do abortion?...
A. 6 October 2009: You already have another kid? Who is the father of the first child? Anyway, the decision of having an abortion doesn't really fall on your boyfriend (though his input is important), it's on you. You are the one that is going to have to suffer the ... (read in full...)
I don't feel comfortable with my boyfriend spending time with his close female friend!
Q. i always feel really uncomfortable with my boyfriend spending time alone with his one close girl friend. i know some ppl will think im being paranoid, but please hear me out. i never put my bf in that situation where he feels jealous/insecure about ...
A. 6 October 2009: I actually went through the exact same thing in the relationship I'm in right now. One of his friends is a real whore, and then she would call him three times a night when I was visiting him. And then he stayed at her house until the wee hours of ... (read in full...)
How do I get over losing the girl of my dreams?
Q. Hi Everybody sorry for the long story but, I am desperately looking for your help, please answer and please don't pull any punches, I have just recently split up with my girl friend of a year and and half, we have had major trust problems in the ...
A. 6 October 2009: This reaction is totally normal no matter what type of relationship happened. Just realize that nearly everyone in the entire world has gone what you're going through, and they got over it and moved on. Which means you can too! I think that the ... (read in full...)
How can I get my netfriend to be in love with me rather than just lusting after me?
Q. Hey everyone, Im 24yrs old and met this great guy on the net.We had started off with cybersex ,but our chemistry was so bang-on.Its fireworks each time still.Moreover he's so romantic.he leaves me the most amazing messages each morning telling ...
A. 6 October 2009: The thing about online relationships is that they can be quite unpredictable. It sounds however like you are really enjoying what's going on right now. He obviously cares a little bit because he asks about how you're doing and what's going on in ... (read in full...)
I don't want to ruin her marriage but I cant help the feelings I have for her!
Q. Ok so i am completely in love with this girl that i have been best friends with since high school. We never really got the chance to date because every time i was single she was dating someone. Every time she was single i was dating someone. I went ...
A. 6 October 2009: First off, you have to stop telling yourself that you can't help having feelings for her. You can actually help that. How? By not seeing her as much anymore. Or possibly finding someone else to focus on. I don't like how the common mindset for ... (read in full...)
Do nice guys even still exist?
Q. I am 19 and I have never been kissed. Or even been on a date. Now that I am in college I want to date but all the guys I meet are more interested in partying and meaningless sex. I do not go to parties and I obviously don't have sex so I don't know ...
A. 6 October 2009: Of course there are nice guys out there. You don't usually meet them at parties though. Unless of course they are the one in the corner getting wasted by himself. Just kidding. :)
But seriously though. Don't let those party guys make you feel lik... (read in full...)
Will this move cause more problems for us?
Q. Hi everyone. I'm struggling whether I should move in with my boyfriend or not. We've been together for two years, all of which has been far from rosy. We live two hours apart and since day 1 his much younger ex girlfriend has caused us many pro...
A. 6 October 2009: From the way the situation sounds, you seem like you are moving in so you can prove to this ex that you and him are really together. And her family. And yourself. Moving in won't change behaviors. You didn't really say what exactly made you not ... (read in full...)
Is is possible to build trust in a relationship again?
Q. My husband and I have been together for almost 20 years. Recently, I came to discover he likes porn a whole lot more than I realized. He looks at way more online porn than I am comfortable with. I also found out that he was having "chats" online ...
A. 6 October 2009: Unfortunately, trust is something that is very hard to earn back. With good reason of course. Relationships have to have a good foundation of trust. Without it, things become really unpleasant really soon. The fact that your husband looks at porn is ... (read in full...)
Should I end this affair?
Q. I find myself in a hopeless situation . I came out of a divorce six months ago lacking self confidence. My ex left me for a girl ten years ago . I then embarked on a close friendship with a male friend who was a shoulder to cry on . He is marri...
A. 3 October 2009: It's awesome that you've recognized the situation for what it is and have not acted on impulse yet. That's a lot more than what people usually do and I give you credit. That being said, you have to look at this as a question of the future. I ha... (read in full...)
After our first big fight, is she still willing to work with me?
Q. My girlfriend and I had our first big fight last Friday, now I feel as though there's no comming back. Here's the situation; we've been dating for about 18 months and living together just over a year. She's currently 30 weeks pregnant and unt...
A. 3 October 2009: Women are pretty difficult to figure out. Understand she is pregnant. She's probably really stressed out right now and has a lot on her mind. Relationships naturally lose their steam and gain it back through time, so this might be one of your two's ... (read in full...)
If he was going to feel something for me wouldn't he have by now?
Q. I am going crazy. Just had to go to Dr. yesterday and got Rx for Xanax. I have lost 13 pounds in the last two weeks. This is why: I met a guy who really felt like my soul mate. We met July 31 and have gone out every Fri and Sat since then. The ...
A. 2 October 2009: You haven't provided us with enough information to evaluate. I mean are you guys actually in a relationship? Or are you just dating? Have you guys become involved sexually?
If you two are in a relationship, I would say that he's just cooling ... (read in full...)
I need help figuring out who the father of my baby is!
Q. My last LMP was August 15 2009 and my period is regularly at 30days interval. I had an affair Aug 20 and he cummed inside me twice. After that I got back with my hubby and we have promised to work on our problem with fast ejaculaton. So we worked on ...
A. 1 October 2009: Sorry, but the only way that you will find out is by having a test done to compare blood types with both men. I think this might involve both of them finding out that you don't know who the father is, so my best suggestion is to come clean. You ... (read in full...)
I'm getting bored with my 6 month relationship, please help!
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for six months on the 13th. Things have been kind of rough for us (I cheated on her in the beginning, I told her, we worked through it; I'm experiencing impotence lately that's putting a strain on us; There's ...
A. 1 October 2009: I know a lot of people say that guys are 'afraid of commitment' and what not, but girls go through the same exact thing too. It's quite scary to think that this one person you are with is the only person you can really have feelings for. And look ... (read in full...)
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