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writes:My ex and I recently decided to be friends again after one year of no communication. I quit talking to him because he didn't want to commit, stringing me along and messing with my feelings. He contacted me asking if we could still be friends and we met and talked recently. He was like a little puppy with his tail between his legs and said he is really sorry for the way he acted and would like to be friends again. I agreed and we filled each other in on our lives. He said he bought a really nice car and wants to take me riding in it. We talked for like two hours and it seemed like he wanted to be close again. Its been two weeks since we saw each other and he still hasnt called. It appeared as though our friendship was important to him, he opened up to me that night so I thought he would call by now. I contacted him first the last time we met up so I think its his turn. And I know he's been to bars and clubs since, so he cant be too busy. I dont get this, why did we even have that deep conversation? Did he just come to see if he can get sex again? Reply to this Question
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reader, hijacked_dignity +, writes (6 October 2009):
 Two weeks? I'd say this guy definitely isn't serious, just like he wasn't in the past. You'll find in life that people rarely change, and I'm assuming you two aren't in a relationship or anything right now, so yes. It is definitely his turn to call. If he is busy going to clubs and all that, he still isn't serious about anything in life except for having fun. Which is fine, but it really kind of leaves you out there wondering.
I hope you didn't have sex with him while you two were catching up, because that's a for sure way for a guy to not take you as seriously. Either way though, he doesn't sound like he's worth the effort. He's hanging around for something, and it isn't for a good relationship. He probably had that deep conversation to push you into trusting him more. Now you feel like you're more safe and connected to him, so if he calls you to hook up, he'll have an in. Don't let him string you along though. :) If just sex isn't something you want, then stop talking with him and move on. He's an ex for a reason. And there are definitely other fish in the sea!
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