I am not thrilled about the wild boy's night out before out wedding!
Q. Heyy guys I have a big problem on my hands that i really need some advice on. Me and my other half who have been together for quite a while have decided to get married, the wedding isnt until 2012 but its already being planned however all of h...
A. 31 October 2010: Regards to male anonymous, strippers are NOT essential we live in the 21st centuary if a woman isn't okay with that it doesn't happen end of. Just talk to him about it it's no big deal, if he loves and respects you it will also be no big deal for ... (read in full...)
I am not thrilled about the wild boy's night out before out wedding!
Q. Heyy guys I have a big problem on my hands that i really need some advice on. Me and my other half who have been together for quite a while have decided to get married, the wedding isnt until 2012 but its already being planned however all of h...
A. 29 October 2010: It is within your rights to tell him you're not happy with him behaving like that before his wedding. Stag do's and what not are okay for some, some are really into the idea and enjoy it, if both people in the relationship want this then that's ... (read in full...)
My hair stylist hurt my feelings. Should I go back to her?
Q. i'm quite upset. i went to the hairdressers today, and i didnt like some comments that my hairdresser made. she said my colour had faded( i had my hair dyed blonde, but the person who dyed it didnt put much blonde in ) and i didnt even think it ...
A. 29 October 2010: I think the bigger picture is being missed here, I don't mean to offend or upset you by saying this, but I think you really need to get help for your anxiety issues. If your hairdresser telling you that you have fine hair upsets you that much that ... (read in full...)
Worried about this persistent discharge
Q. Alright. It's been about, what? 3 months? going onto 4? And I feel horrible and disgusting. It started after my period in august. There was A LOT of discharge. I thought it was normal at first, because my period just ended. But for the rest of ...
A. 27 October 2010: Everyone is bad at handling certain things don't worry, but you have to snap out of that and you have to nip this in the bud now, you may feel okay now but if you leave it much longer you will be in a lot of pain, speaking from experience. Get a ... (read in full...)
My daughter told me she is bisexual and I don't know how to handle this?
Q. My 17 year old daughter has been trying to tell me she is bisexual for the last six months.I have responded with kids today are bicurious and that is what she is doing. Each time she mentioned it I would cut off the conversation, and say I can't ...
A. 27 October 2010: You probably realise that this is your problem not your daughter's. Everyone's entitled to an opinion, but Homophobic behaviour is very silly and an ugly trate. You need to ask Yourself what's wrong with you to make you feel this way, why do you ... (read in full...)
Worried about this persistent discharge
Q. Alright. It's been about, what? 3 months? going onto 4? And I feel horrible and disgusting. It started after my period in august. There was A LOT of discharge. I thought it was normal at first, because my period just ended. But for the rest of ...
A. 26 October 2010: Okay firstly get yourself to a doctor asap, I don't know how the health system works in the U.S, but it's shocking you have to wait that long. You need a course of antibiotics for the urine infection before it spreads to the kidneys. The bad ... (read in full...)
My husband always watches sex videos how can I make him stop?
Q. hi everyone I have a problem.....I am married. Its been two years. Every thing is cool. Even my sex life too. Here comes the problem my husband always sees sex videos.It makes me feel very bad when he watches sex videos. I want to make him stop se...
A. 22 October 2010: Very well said person12345... (read in full...)
Am I throwing away 13 years of marriage for no good reason/
Q. this is probably a strange thing to be dealing with but i dont know what to do it all started about 2 years ago me and my husband was in bed going to sleep when he recieved a text message from his friends girlfriend (whom he doesnt know and has ...
A. 22 October 2010: To Male anonymous reader, no they do not, not the good ones, I would consider this a form of cheating as would many other women. She has every right to look at his phone in this situation, talking about f**king your mates girlfriend is NOT a joke. ... (read in full...)
Am I throwing away 13 years of marriage for no good reason/
Q. this is probably a strange thing to be dealing with but i dont know what to do it all started about 2 years ago me and my husband was in bed going to sleep when he recieved a text message from his friends girlfriend (whom he doesnt know and has ...
A. 22 October 2010: I found this a little confusing, but from what I gathered this 'joke' hurt you the first time round and he continued on with it, I don't think you're overreacting. Maybe it's just me, but I find this a very strange and dodgey 'joke' to be playing, I ... (read in full...)
How can a real girl ever be enough for a man?
Q. How can a real girl ever be enough for a man? I mean, I have talked with many guys my age, and they have all agreed when I asked them whether a porn star has a hotter or better body than a normal girl, they have all said yes! The typical porn star ...
A. 20 October 2010: Women are under much more pressure than men to perfect our body image. It's none stop everywhere we look, and some men are easily brainwashed by the media. Hollywood tells us what's hot, and we follow like sheep. This isn't something we can stop ... (read in full...)
My husband always watches sex videos how can I make him stop?
Q. hi everyone I have a problem.....I am married. Its been two years. Every thing is cool. Even my sex life too. Here comes the problem my husband always sees sex videos.It makes me feel very bad when he watches sex videos. I want to make him stop se...
A. 20 October 2010: To sum things up, whether people have the opinion that it is normal or it is not, each opinion lays differently with different people. If you don't want porn in your relationship it shouldn't be a big deal. You should be honest to your husband about ... (read in full...)
Is it ok to be a guy who doesn't like porn
Q. Ok here is the situation, I am visually turned on by females, and always have been. Thats important because the next part of what im about to say hinges off that fact. Porn as a whole has never done anything for me. I have always been more ...
A. 14 October 2010: Porn isn't natural, sex with real women is natural! And no not all men like it. Porn has just become what people consider the norm. The media brainwashes into what's hot and what's not, what's normal and what's not. It's good that there are men with ... (read in full...)
Is this the greater truth about why we lie to our partners?
Q. Is this the greater truth about why we lie to our partners? It’s interesting that when people are messing up, and failing their partner in a relationship by betraying them (i.e., cheating) few think about how they are hurting their loved one with...
A. 11 October 2010: Very well said male anonymous, absolutly spot on..... (read in full...)
I drunkenly cheated on my fiance and now she doesn't know if she'll ever trust me again!
Q. My fiancée and I have been together for two years (living together for 1.5 years); we were supposed to get married March of 2011. I love her more than my own life and would stop at nothing to make damn sure that she's happy. But last month, I to...
A. 11 October 2010: Well I've never been in a situation alike myself, so I can only as a woman give my outsider view. It's good that you realise how wrong you've done and you are regretfull. It's shocking the amount of people who don't have any consiense at all.
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My boyfriend is so obsessed with porn, he ignores my crying!
Q. i've been with my boyfriend for almost a year now and i cant seem to get past his porn viewing habit. i didn't know to what extent it was to until i found out he looks at it every single day!! he has lied to me about it several times saying that he ...
A. 10 October 2010: Please do yourself a favour and leave him. Put your own heart and self first because that's exactly what your boyfriend's doing. I say this all the time but it's true; at the end of the day, if something hurts the one you love, you simply give it ... (read in full...)
Does it mean he really doesn't love me if he can't respect me enough to tell me the truth?
Q. Does it mean he really doesn't love me if he can't respect me enough to tell me the truth? I see lying as a lack of respect. And I have doubts that true love and disrespect can co-exist. People talk about lying to someone to "not hurt them," b...
A. 8 October 2010: Personaly, I agree, I think no matter how painful the truth may be, lying is so dissrespectful, and to me is dissrespect and love can't co-exist. My ex was a compulsive liar, and that itself is what ended our relationship. I think if you truely love ... (read in full...)
He's sneaking around, how is it my fault?
Q. After being with my boyfriend for eleven months, we were on the computer together. He was going through emails and I happened to catch a glance at something. Knowing he would flip out if I brought it up that exact second, I wanted to do a little ...
A. 8 October 2010: Well the way I look at it, if you're in a serious mature and healthy relationship, you should not have anything to hide. It's not like you went looking at his emails on a random snoop, something suspicious caught your eye and you looked into it, ... (read in full...)
Heartbroken but still in love... please help me!
Q. dear cupid, ive been with my girlfriend for a year and 2 months. but the last few days have become chaotic. i found out she was cheating on me for 6 months while we've been dating. since i found out yesterday ive been throwing up and crying until...
A. 7 October 2010: Heartbreak is the worst of all pains, you have to ask yourself, does your love for her overpower the bad that she has done to you? One kiss is bad enough, to cheat on someone for six months and still claim to love them is hard to believe. In my ... (read in full...)
He said he hasn't cheated but I feel cheated!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a year and half now and I am due to have our baby day now, last year we had problems and he left me but we sorted things out and in january i found out I was pregnant, since then he has been amazing kind and caring ...
A. 7 October 2010: Well first thing's first, he has cheated on you. If he's telling the truth and he has not engaged in any physical contact with these girls, and he has just been talking to them, then he has emotionally, mentally cheated on you, in my opinion. ... (read in full...)
Hubby has his ex on facebook and I don't like it!
Q. Ive always had issues w my hubby and computers. If i am overeacting on any of this please tell me. Last month, he got a facebook and didnt tell me. The only way i found out about it was he was suggested to be one of my friends. No big deal. until ...
A. 15 September 2010: Well first off, having a facebook and hiding it from your wife is very odd behaviour. It's facebook, pretty much everyone has one, it's well talked of, why on earth would he not mention that he had one? And deleting his history says it all. There is ... (read in full...)
My wife is driving me crazy! advice please!
Q. My wife is driving me crazy. I love her so much but she is the most stubborn woman on earth. We met, fell in love, got married. Everything was perfect. Now, with the stress of my job, her starting nursing school again, oh and us getting pregnant. ...
A. 15 September 2010: Okay I haven't read all of the responses here but I have some of them. In my opinion, when your wife is pregnant you should be doing all the household chores for her , that this should be expected. I think in all honestly without sounding cruel, you ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has an oversized-women obsession!
Q. I found out that my boyfriend has cheated on me with oversized, unattractive, low class women. I thought this had been put to rest but recently discovered that he masturbates with the use of Voluptuous magazine as well as other big girl materials. ...
A. 14 September 2010: It's understandable that you're hurt and furious about this, but try not to take it out on the women it is entirely your boyfriend you should be angry at. He has done the damage to you not them.
Perhaps you're right and he secretly finds larger w... (read in full...)
Now single, and I feel awful about my body
Q. I'm recently single. I was with my boyfriend for almost 4 years, and he was my first boyfriend and the only guy I've had sex with and who has seen me completely naked. Being with him I discovered many truths of men, that I had been naive and blind ...
A. 14 September 2010: I've been there it's not nice and I know exactly how you feel. It's perfectly normal and more common than you think for women to be effected by this kind of thing trust me. My ex used to look at specific women, the same women all the time and even ... (read in full...)
I want a steady boyfriend and excitement on the side!
Q. I'm 14 and I have one of those boyfriends that everyone says is a 'great guy'. And he is. He's generous, good-looking, absolutely adores me and has never betrayed my trust and I don't think ever wants to. I lost my virginity to him at 13 and we've ...
A. 12 September 2010: Christ girl you are fourteen. I think you need to sit back a while and calm down. Your teenage hormones are everywhere at such a young age. You are far too young to be doing any of these things. You are being very very unfair to your boyfriend, but ... (read in full...)
I caught my dad on some sites and I don't want to be the cause for divorce!
Q. i realized a few months ago that on my dad's computer there were sites for affairs in the top sites, but the history was cleared. i didn't say anything about it but cried about it and one day he caught me and i mentioned what i saw. he played i...
A. 12 September 2010: Well this is a tricky one, the sites you saw may not mean he has actually been having an affair, but perhaps he's just looked at some pictures of women and the name of the website suggests otherwise. You are very considerate and are being very ... (read in full...)
I don't want to leave her but I'm fed up of being treated like excrement!
Q. Ok, not quite sure where to start as i'm usually the one giving advice never asking. Key points: *My girlfriend is 20 (21 in a week), and i am 20. *We have been together for 4 years 10 months. *We had a very active sex life for the fir...
A. 12 September 2010: Well I think most couples go through rough patches of arguments but if it's constant then there's something wrong. Can you think of anything that may of triggered her to behave like this? With age has she became more of an abrupt person? Some people ... (read in full...)
I'm not a cheater
Q. ok first off i am not a cheater i love my wife. now that thats out of the way my problem is this, for about a month ive been talkin to a girl on email dont know where she is from but we just would talk about lots of stuff. well woke up one morning ...
A. 10 September 2010: Well some would view that as a form of cheating, emotionally cheating. I'm sure you'd be just as hurt if it were the other way around. If the girl was just some girl and that was that, why would you feel the need to hide it from her? ... (read in full...)
G/f lied to me and was used as a sex toy for 2 years
Q. When I met my girlfriend, she told me she hadn't had a boyfriend in 4 years. While "technically," this was true, it turns out she had had a "casual relationship" with a man for two years. And she continued having sex with him for a short time even ...
A. 10 September 2010: "I'm not against sex - love it - so I'll sleep with women who've boned up on their bedroom skills as an F-buddy. But long-term, I'm gonna marry a woman who's been a little more discriminating."
Well perhaps she thought the same about you, you are ... (read in full...)
I feel I have to change myself to look like these pornstars he looks at daily......
Q. hi im 25 and live with my partner of 6years,we have two children,together..we have a great sex life,we watch porn together sometimes and i know he also watches it a lot online by checking history. I dont mind him watching as I know all men do its n...
A. 10 September 2010: Reader anonymous, just how many people do you know? How many people can you speak for? The world is full of people from all different cultures, religious beliefs, upbringings, morals, and interests. You don't know every man in the world, you know a ... (read in full...)
I woke up naked in bed with my girlfriend's sister and I had not even been drinking! Should I tell my girlfriend?
Q. i woke up naked in bed with my girlfriend's sister.i got no memories on how this happened.all can remember is that i was invited to her birtday party.by her sister i had two soft drinks and thats it.should i tell my girlfriend about it or should i ...
A. 10 September 2010: Are you suggesting that you were drugged? Or are you mentaly blocking out the memory because of guilt? You should tell her, you can't keep that from her regardless of what happened that night. If you seriously think you were drugged then you have to ... (read in full...)
I feel I have to change myself to look like these pornstars he looks at daily......
Q. hi im 25 and live with my partner of 6years,we have two children,together..we have a great sex life,we watch porn together sometimes and i know he also watches it a lot online by checking history. I dont mind him watching as I know all men do its n...
A. 10 September 2010: Jilly is right the whole 'all men do it' phrase is simply that, just a phrase, not at all true. Other men like to use this line to make out all men to be the same in order to make themselves feel better men.
Well you say you watch it together... (read in full...)
G/f lied to me and was used as a sex toy for 2 years
Q. When I met my girlfriend, she told me she hadn't had a boyfriend in 4 years. While "technically," this was true, it turns out she had had a "casual relationship" with a man for two years. And she continued having sex with him for a short time even ...
A. 10 September 2010: Well firstly, I think the problem here is the fact that she lied to you about this. I think it's wrong that she continued with this man for a while after meeting you. Putting myself in your shoes, I would be very upset about her continuing having ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend seems to have the hots for his neighbour!
Q. please help as this is driving me insane! I'm 36 and been wth my partner for 2 1/2 years, we dont live together, he lives alone and i live with my kids (not his). he has never in the 11 years at his address socialised with the neighbours - he ...
A. 10 September 2010: TimmD is right, you should try talking to him calmly about this, without raised voices. If he's being very defensive and getting angry at you, then that to me may be because he know's you're right and maybe feels guilty. If he cares about you and ... (read in full...)
Should I shave my chest hair?
Q. Hey ladies, and gentlemen if you can provide good info, should I shave my body hair? Is that something that women like or not? I know I'm over generalizing here but I would like some insight onto this. I'm not insanely hairy, but I have the standard ...
A. 10 September 2010: Ah no don't lose the hair! Personaly, I like my men hairy, I like a hairy chest and belly everyone's different. Some women prefer clean shaven men others like them hairy, if you like your body hair then you should keep it, but I'd say keep it :)... (read in full...)
I want what we had before I found out my husband went to a strip club!
Q. I asked a question and received a few responses. Thank-you. I have been to counseling about my husband going to the strip clubs when he was working out on the road and drunk. I have had to stop going to counseling because i had surgery. I have ...
A. 10 September 2010: Okay, I HATE it when men speak for all men according to how they live their lives and what they believe in. Please don't listen to the men bellow. Universe man saying you'll have to get over it and accept there's more prettier woman in the world.. ... (read in full...)
I'm offended by my boyfriends interest in celebrity, how do people feel about celebrities?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for three years now, I'm 21 and he is 31. About a year ago I stumbled across lots of naked pictures of celebrity women on his computer, no porn videos, but tons of celebrity images. I was quite hurt and told him I saw ...
A. 10 September 2010: I'm going to dissagree with Universe man. I feel your response was a bit cocky, you say take comfort he doesn't look at your sister, I say not all men think it's their right to search for naked women when in a relationship! How selfish. How can you ... (read in full...)
I'm offended by my boyfriends interest in celebrity, how do people feel about celebrities?
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for three years now, I'm 21 and he is 31. About a year ago I stumbled across lots of naked pictures of celebrity women on his computer, no porn videos, but tons of celebrity images. I was quite hurt and told him I saw ...
A. 9 September 2010: Well I do see the sad aspect to this. People can be hypocritical when it comes to celebrity. One of my ex's used to complain about how vacuous and plastic the women were on tv, yet he'd look at nude pics of them! Not everyone thinks plastic people ... (read in full...)
He fantasises about having sex with other women as I'm the only one he's slept with...
Q. My boyfriend and I have been going out for almost 4 years now. We have had a rocky relationship. In the beginning he kissed another girl that was wayyyy younger them him. We moved on after that and then a couple years later I found pictures of her ...
A. 10 August 2010: You're not over reacting, I don't think your boyfriend is ready for a serious relationship. How young are these girls? Looking at porn is okay if you're okay with it, but looking at your friends and pictures of girls he knows, is not the norm in ... (read in full...)
He says he doesn't watch porn. How can I know if he's lying?
Q. [OP original title] At the very start of our relationship we casually discussed porn. Something along the lines of, so what about porn? Well let's make it easy and just neither of us watches. OK sounds good. As the relationship progressed I made it a...
A. 7 August 2010: If he even offered to use keylogger on his computer then I'm pretty sure he's telling the truth! Not all men watch porn, as shocking as this may seem.... (read in full...)
Why are women attracted to big penises?
Q. Granted I myself am not very well equipped, being at 4 inches long and 4 inches in girth. I don't understand what's so great about big penises and why girls seem so attracted to them. Some girls have told me that smaller penises aren't attractiv...
A. 7 August 2010: Honestly, men care more about this than women do, large penis's can hurt it all depends on the woman. I'd take a small penis over a large one anyday. The girls you know must be young and clueless. All penis's are attractive, a penis is a penis and ... (read in full...)
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