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writes:My wife and I were talking recently about porn, just in general. We don't watch it or anything. During the conversation I brought the fact that one of our favourite TV shows was used as a basis for a pornographic film. She said that it sounded hilarious and that we should get it. I thought she was joking at first but she said that she wasn't and I should get hold of it and we'd watch it. She said that shes never seen a porn film before so there's a first time for everything, so I got hold of a copy a couple of days later. I presented it to my wife who was absolutely horrified that I gone and got a copy! She said that she never said that she wanted to watch it and why would I go out and buy pornography?! Now, some of you may be thinking that she said something else and I interpreted it as GO OUT AND BUY IT, I'D LOVE TO SEE IT but it's what she said. I don't get it! What's going on with her? I can do without porn, my wife is enough to turn me on but can anyone shed any light on her sudden change in attitude?
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reader, hijacked_dignity  +, writes (8 October 2009):
 Ah the woes of the short circuit through male and female communication. Women are like that unfortunately. They say something and they definitely mean something totally different. As a woman, I can't really tell you why she said what she said, but usually it's not the best idea to share porn with a wife who usually isn't into it. I think she was acknowledging it more as a source of a joke, but when she saw how quickly you were ready to get that porn, it kind of freaked her out a bit.
It's really nothing you did wrong though. In fact I'd say you are pretty innocent in this, simply a mis-communication and her backing out. I would just shrug it off and remember this as a hint for next time. She has never really watched porn before, so she probably won't start any time near the future.
Add to the fact that most women have a negative attitude toward porn, and you got a sealed deal.
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reader, HereAreMyTwoCents +, writes (8 October 2009):
 Well, I guess she must've been joking, or if she wasn't she obviously had not idea that she would take it quite this badly when the movie actually was presented to her. Or she might not have expected that you would seriously go out and actually get this movie, even if she was serious.
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reader, sunnycomet  +, writes (8 October 2009):
 There was a misunderstanding and you need to explain that to your wife. Return the copy of porn if you haven't already. Next time ask her to be more clear on what she wants because you are confused on her behavior.
Good Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2009): My problems I have with my b/f looking at porn is just the fact that it's different from me, and it makes me wonder or think that I'm not giving enough to him to satisfy every fantasy or craving he has. Maybe she's worried you'll find something that you like and that something isn't her? Us women are very possessive and emotional to our detriment sometimes, and the possibility of introducing something that would turn you on might be really scary to her. It's nothing you did, just our irrational thinking that gets in the way sometimes.
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