A
male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:HeyI am 21 years old and this is a question directed towards the girls... (but if you are a guy who has had the same thing happen please feel free..)My best friend is a girl and we have been friends for years. We have always back and forth over the years had crushes for one another but never did we ever act on it or really admit it at the time. After years of knowing this girl, I finally left and pursued my lifelong dream and job in the military. Me and her talk alot of the time and we have both come out of awful relationships where we both have been screwed over.Since then it's been interesting to me to see what has been happening. I haven't seen her in over 7 months now but we have been talking alot especially recently. I have been comforting her alot and been a real good best friend while she has been down and she recently been saying some interesting things where i am stumped? She went to a psychic (yeah pretty funny hey but she wanted to give it a try) and she asked about her life. She rang me up and told me she also asked about me. Said we were going to be friends for the rest of our lives and all of that. What is different is last weekend she had her 22nd birthday. When she was drunk she sent me weird messages over the phone like she never has before. She wrote and first said that she misses me heaps. She then tried to call but i missed the call and then it came late. I messaged her back saying I missed her too then went to sleep. My phone died but she messaged me again that night some time and said missing me muchly once again. She has started to really show she is getting close with me and it looks like i'll be posted back to my hometown at the end of this year.I have liked this girl since i first met her. Never acted on it because i thought it would destroy the relationship and i know what she is like and if she liked me she would be feeling the same way. Is it just me or could she have changed her mind and decide that she wants to be with me ? I don't know what she could be thinking but I really want to know.. please help..
View related questions:
best friend, crush, drunk, military Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, anonymous, writes (7 October 2009): Hey original poster here.thanks heaps with the advice. I ain't one to feel down about this if I find out there really isn't any chemistry. I also ain't one to come on too strong and dodge the hard ball at times but with no female friends to really ask while I am at this location.. it isn't much help haha. Thanks heaps for the advice already but got another escapade haha. Got some interesting messages from her just last night now and they were pretty cool.I was talking to her and was just asking how she was and all that and if she had found any guys in her life just yet as we normally did back when we both were single.. she replied with "haha no boys 4 me at the moment .. one would have to be pretty special 2 catch my eye :) and then started teasing me like we used to in the good old days and we kept teasing and then it was bed time.
A
female
reader, hijacked_dignity  +, writes (6 October 2009):
 When you say that she might have 'changed her mind', I'm assuming that she has said she doesn't want a relationship with you in the past. That being said, I wouldn't really go off of the night she kept texting you. Girls get drunk and they text things that they would otherwise think as a total 'friend' gesture. I don't know why we do that, but we do. And some of the things we say might even be border line toward flirting, but we don't really mean it like that. She might just genuinely miss you as a friend. The fact that she might have said 'no' before is more telling than any text. She might just like you as a friend, and seeing as you have been really supportive of her during her rough times, I don't really blame her.
The bottom line is, the only way you can really tell is if you straight up ask her. It seems like she already knows you have feelings for her, so it wouldn't exactly hurt the relationship you two already have now. Also it's a bit hard to carry on a potential relationship if you two aren't anywhere near each other. Maybe give it some time once you are stationed back at home? In the mean time, keep being there for her. Possibly if you're really curious, ask her about her feelings toward you. You really don't know unless you ask, but I'm telling you that sometimes girls just get really attached to their guy friends in a totally platonic way. And they don't really realize that what they say or do could be taken as flirtatious. Just don't come on too strong, you know?
...............................
|
