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writes:I cheated on my girl friend that I have been with for a year and 8 months. I was more drunk then any man ever should be when I cheated on her and barely remember doing it. I wouldnt ever cheat on her normally because I love her with all my heart. I told my girlfriend about what happened and how I barely remember cheating and she was heart broken. She broke up with me despite the fact that she still loves me and that I love her. I dont know what to do. I want to get back together with her because I know that I will never cheat again but I dont know what I should do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 October 2009): how do i prove to her i'll never cheat again?
well you need to let her know that it was all a big mistake.You should tell her that shes all youve wanted and youll quit drinking.Show a different side of you the emotional side, just so she knows that you do actually mean it.She just needs time to think and then when shes ready shell be back with you in know time.Ive cheated on the boy of my life aswell, because of alcohol but i showed him how special he was to me and it took him long before he got back with me.Heres a tip which most girls love.Leave her a rose and a letter telling her how much she means to you and how it was a big mistake.Tell her shes everything youve ever wanted.
Hope this helps x
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reader, A_Faylene_Mandie_Marie +, writes (15 October 2009):
 There's really no way to prove that you will "never cheat again" because once that trust is broken, it's hard to rebuild...especially in a relationship less than a year. I suggest you just keep your nose clean and keep pouring out your heart to her and telling her how sorry you are. She may believe you and she may not.
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reader, caddy_girl10 +, writes (15 October 2009):
 Well I was once cheated on! It sucked but what the guy did was he wrote like a 3 page letter saying how I deserve better but how sorry he is and that he really wants another chance! I mean you made a mistake, might I add a pretty big one, but if this girl honestly loves you then she won't be able to not be with you! I would try the letter thing, but make sure you mean everything you Say in it and make it come from the heart, :) hope this helps
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reader, Lexie88  +, writes (15 October 2009):
 I think hijacked is right. Once the trust is broken it's almost impossible to get it back, especially when it's broken by a person we trust and care for a lot. It does not matter that you were drunk, you allowed yourself to be drunk to the point of not remembering what you did.
Her breaking up with you tells me that her trust has been broken and that she's smart enough to have let you go.
If you really do have feelings for this girl and you're not just trying to make yourself feel better for what you've done (i.e. getting her to forgive you), I think you need to give her space and time. All you can do now is be her friend and not try and get back into a relationship. You need to slowly build that trust back and show her, not tell her, that she can perhaps trust you again. Do you think you can do that? If you just want to get back to how it was before you cheated, it won't happen. If you genuinely care, you need to give her the time and the space so that if she's open to it, she might give you a second chance.
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reader, hijacked_dignity +, writes (15 October 2009):
 Listen. The first step is not blaming your actions on being drunk. I have known a ton of people that have been all different degrees of drunk (including myself) and have never cheated on anyone. So basically, it's still a choice to cheat, and it's especially a choice to drink so heavily in an otherwise risky environment in which cheating can occur. Sorry to sound like I'm lecturing, but you have to face facts and take responsibility for what you did.
In doing that, you will at least show her that you know what you did was wrong and there is really no excuse for such behavior. Period. It's good that you actually told her about it, and that might be the first step in her possibly coming back, because you were truthful. However, usually it's best for both couples to move on once one of the people cheat, because trust is very hard, if not impossible to earn back. If you really think that you can get her back, then you're going to have to start acting like you're in the doghouse. You have to be on top behavior and show her that you are remorseful for what you did. Otherwise, it's all up to her if she ever does really want you back.
I would highly suggest though that you start picking up the pieces and move on. Keep your behavior clean and hope that she'll notice.
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