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writes:Hey everyone,Im 24yrs old and met this great guy on the net.We had started off with cybersex ,but our chemistry was so bang-on.Its fireworks each time still.Moreover he's so romantic.he leaves me the most amazing messages each morning telling me something different everytime on how he wants me,needs me,or cant eat,sleep without dreaming of me. In a way,he's the ideal lover. But its so good i can't help dought if its honest.Its been a month and hes not asked questions about me ,my life.he just asks how my day went ,moves on to how much he missed me etc. before we start to cyber. I enjoy the sense of mystery too,in a way see it as liking each unconditionally. But cant help wonder can he reallylove me knowing so little about me,and just on the basis of our chemistry? How can i bring in love into our great lust equation?Should i start talking about myself or continue to remain mysterious.He has mentioned he has fallen for me by the way:) But i cant stop worrying his passion for me will fizzleout.We live in different countries.And i only see myselfbeing able to visit him in a year or 2 once iv got a better job.. How can i make him continue to want me and wait for me till then?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2009): Well of course he hasn't asked about your life, you went straight into the cyber sex, how are you supposed to base a worthwhile relationship if you start off with that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 October 2009): It is quite clear to me that this will not go anywhere except for cybersex. You can not even figure out how you can visit him in another country. He does not ask questions about your life...
Pretty obvious to me that this is all about an orgasm. Not sure why you are struggling with it. Move on from any thoughts of it manifesting into something meaningful.
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reader, hijacked_dignity  +, writes (6 October 2009):
 The thing about online relationships is that they can be quite unpredictable. It sounds however like you are really enjoying what's going on right now. He obviously cares a little bit because he asks about how you're doing and what's going on in your life. That's a good sign. Also, he leaves you messages in the morning. Another good after thought. It isn't juts about the cyber 24/7 with him. I think he is doing all that he can do as far as the internet is concerned.
You have to realize however that it's a lot harder to keep a person when you don't really have the opportunity to see them and interact with them face to face. Which is why long distance relationships are rather difficult to upkeep. How do you keep this going? You stop worrying about it ending. Just enjoy yourself and see where it goes! If you confront him about any of these feelings of doubt that you're having, I don't think it would go over well, seeing as it seems he is putting what he can into the online 'relationship'. Just leave it be and take it for what it is! A good time. I'm sure things will work out, and if he happens to fall in love with you in the mean time, then it's a bonus.
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