He broke up with me says he cannot accept me in public

A female age 41-50, *harlie Zimmers writes:

Hello all - my boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me 3 weeks ago and this has devastated me. I have been reading all the stuff posted here just to help me going. but no luck, it just drives me nuts. I mean it was almost like marriage and we used to spend solid time together, text, phone, eat dinner together, weekends on. we were checking a house to move in and marry. and the next week kaput. he is younger than me by 4 years. he said he cannot accept me in public (as in some of his friends and relatives)seeing a woman older than him,he loves me but not truly in a physical sort of way, and he is not currently rready for a marriage and that i always forced him. when i was thinking abt it, it drove me crazy as there were lots of things which we did was great, there were lots of moments he wanned to get married to me in b/w these hurdles. and our physical life was suffering. so he was going to make things work ( it was all in his head). But now this..he said he needs to break to think correctly and not enter into soemthing he will regret. He was very nice to me otherwise, yes there were fights, but then he was great guy to hang out with, my parents/family/friends thought we'd be married. He has done this couple of time, but he used to come back. this is the longest he has not and he says he is serious this time and he does not want to give into emotions. I mean i am totally going crazy and all the promises made to me for 4 years. i feel i have lost a lot in bargain. i have always always supported, loved, given 100% in everything he wanted to do. Is this correct the way he dealt. if all was a problem - he should've just been a friend rather than the giving me hopes and breaking me down like this. what do you guys think? i am going mad with questions in my head. but i have made up my mind to be strong and not call/message or expect him to come back to me.

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