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writes:my girlfriend moved in with me 5 months ago now she wants to move her dog in i think its a bad ideal dogs need to be kept outdoors or atleast thats how i feel about it help
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (5 May 2012):
 dogs belong on the bed not outside.
if you don't like her dog then end it if she's not willing to give him up.
I gave up my dogs for various reasons but they are with folks that i see so I see the pets and it's better for them....
you can't expect her to give up her dog nor can you mandate that a dog live outside.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (5 May 2012):
 What did you expect , when you started dating ? That she would give up her dog for you once and for all ? If so... how come she did not know that ? how come she was not told in advance of your No dogs inside policy, BEFORE she moved in ? You are not a dog person and that's fine, tastes are tastes, but then how can you think that getting involved with a dog owner had no consequences ? It's a bit like dating a single mom - then deciding that you don't like kids and if she wants to move in she must leave her child behind.
Your house , your rules , sure. Then again , don't be too surprised if, forced to a choice, she chooses to leave you nice and alone to enjoy in peace your house and your rules.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (5 May 2012):
 It would depend on the breed? And how it was raised? It's age? Where you live? Not all dogs are outdoor dogs.
Though bottom line, it's your place, your rules. But I think it's one of those things that can easily break the relationship.
If I were her. I'd pick my pet over a guy.
Where was her dog over those last 5 months?
I have 3 cats, they spend plenty of time in their out-door run, but they have the whole house to roam as their please. I keep a clean house and clean cats, most people are surprised that I have cats, let alone 3 when they come to my house.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (5 May 2012):
 Where has the dog been living since she moved in with you? Did she move in, thinking she could change your mind once she had been there for a few months?
Why wasnt the fact she owns a dog discussed at the time of her moving in, surely you were involved in a discussion fo some sort about what would happen to the dog?
Me, I have a dog and two cats. The dog spends most of daylight hours outside, but sleeps inside the house. The cats do whatever, whenever they want.
I would not arrange to move house without making sure my animals were cared for and their safe future assured.
I need to ask, did you know she had a dog when she moved in with you and what arrangments did she make then for the dog?
If you didn't know she had a dog when she moved in I would be asking some serious questions about what else she has neglected to tell you about.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2012): Your house? Your rules.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2012): What kind of dog is it? I am not one to have dogs/cats inside anymore since getting older. I could deal with a small dog inside if I had to for someone I cared about. But there would definitely be a "3 strikes" and the pooch is out the door deal.
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