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writes:So I was on myyearbook and I sent this girl a message telling her she was beautiful, and shortly after that she posted a status saying "Dear guys, just becuz you call me beautiful doesn't mean I'm gonna get past how ugly you are, and cream in my panties. Js. Lmao". She's one of those supeeeerr stuck up b!tches, and superficial. What I don't get though is a lot of girls think i'm cute. So is she just really picky about guys?Is it really that I'm ugly or does she just want a perfect guy?I noticed that the guys she thought were cute had like snapbacks on and they had a lot of style. My picture is just me with a plain white T-shirt, long hair, and my moustache. lol Reply to this Question
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (9 May 2012):
 There you have it ; if you have more success in person, because of your sense of humour ,communication skills, then work it to your advantage and approach people in person. Don't worry exceedingly abut your pics, some people is just not photogenic, cameras don't love them.
But, we are on to something, anyway .
Long, MESSY hair ? ...Who likes that ?? Not every guy can afford to sport a long flowing mane, some , for some reason, look a bit ridiculous- and anyway long hair have a reason to be only if they always look perfect- perfectly clean, shiny, healthy and perfectly styled ( unless you are the lead in some satanist band ).
Ditto for the moustache, not your fault but at 17 it's likely to look more like pigeon shit than a real moustache.
So why don't you try the clean shaven look and see how it goes. And most of all , don't worry so much about looking "cute", people have different tastes and you can't please them all, not even Brad Pitt is considered good looking by EVERYBODY.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIdk though, girls only think I'm cute when I'm actually talking. Usually I look like a quiet, lonely, depressed person. When I look like that, girls don't think I'm cute, but when I'm just being myself and having fun, they love me. My hair is also long and messy. I'm 17 now, and I don't look as good in long hair as I did when I was 14, my hair changed when I went through puberty. Also my moustache is awkward looking and every one tells me to shave it.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (7 May 2012):
 depends on the mustache.
if it's fully formed (not thin and wispy) and you keep it neatly trimmed it's fine.
if it's a "teenaged boy" mustache... then shave.
hair... long or short I don't care as long as it's well kept. trimmed and clean... and if you start balding.... CUT IT SHORT... balding men need to learn to embrace their skin....
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 May 2012):
 "Hey what's up?" is a much better approach. Still I think it's WAY better to first have just a little bit of a rapport with them in "real life" as in, in person before chatting them up on a website.
To be honest, very few guys are really able to pull of a stash... Tom Selleck is one, Burt Reynolds is another, Orlando Bloom & Johnny Depp didn't do too bad either. But in general (ME personally) am not a fan of facial hair on a guy.
But should you shave for girls? I don't think so. If you LIKE your face with a stash.. Then why not keep it?
As for long hair on a guy, it can look great. But, you have to be able to carry it off :) And.. keep it healthy & clean.
Be yourself. If a girl don't like you because of how you look, she obviously isn't for you. And you already said that there are plenty of girls who think you are CUTE.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk next time I try and talk to someone on their i'll just be like "Hey what's up?" is that ok to do? oh and btw this isn't facebook it's a website called myYearBook.
But honestly from a girls perspective, should I cut my hair and shave my moustahce? I wouldn't be doing it for her I just want to know if girls generally like a guy without the moustache.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (7 May 2012):
It IS creepish, if you aren't convinced try and say that to random strangers in the street, you'll get many more " WTF??" than " thanks ".
The girl was unnecessarily rude, I said it and I confirm it, she could just have ignored you. But , perhaps, you know how it is, often the innocent pays in lieu of the real culprit, I guess she had been already approached clumsily so many times, ... than eventually she took it on maybe the one guy who only meant to be nice:).
Besides... preferences in matter of looks are so vastly ,uncannily individual. Beauty IS in the eye of the beholder, at least to a large extent. Maybe most people would consider you cute ,attractive, even handsome- and she does not, based on her personal preferences. Some women ,for instance, strongly dislike facial hair , or an excess of hair in general ( long hair, moustache... ) and yours would be a big turn off for them, - while it could be a big turn on for the next girl. Same goes for any physical trait, what 's so surprising about it ?... Unless YOU are the one who is stuck up on his looks and can't even conceive they may not appeal to everybody...
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (7 May 2012):
Thanks for the follow up, OP. I don't get how some users are defending this girl because your message could have "creeped her out". Seriously? This is facebook. She could have simply ignored you if she wanted to. Manners should have told her it's nice to say thank you when someone compliments her, but ignoring you would have been better than this message she put up. It wasn't like you arrived at her house to tell her this. That would have been creepy.
But I guess the lesson learned is that girls take it badly when a stranger compliments them on their looks. So don't do that anymore, because her mind may go crazy thinking you want something from her or that you're one of those mangy characters you see popping up on the news for sexual assault. I didn't know girls these days were supposed to be fragile, frightened and rude. If I get a compliment like that from a guy--even if he is a stranger-- it makes my day. But I'm the odd one out it seems.
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reader, Lostcause  +, writes (7 May 2012):
I don't know about her but I don't like moustaches they look creepy. Maybe she doesn't like it I don't know. Maybe if you try to shave and have a cleaner look.
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (7 May 2012):
Well, even if you did creep her out (I don't see how a random stranger complimenting you on your looks in a picture could be creepy, but that's just me. I mean, for f-ck's sake, she's the one parading herself around on fb) she could have just said "thanks" and left it at that.
I honestly don't get what triggered that reaction from her. I mean, unless you said "Ur pretty, wanna fuck?" that message from her was completely uncalled for and makes her come across as a vain, stuck up bitch.
Let her go man. Don't waste any time hating on her, she's not worth even that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the question"You're one of the most beautiful girls I've ever seen :)" That's exactly what I said. No I don't have a picture of me shirtless, I had NO idea it would creep her out (I was just complimenting her), The reason I come to the conclusion that she's a b!tch is because of the way she treats other people on the website, and I wasn't mad because I "expected her to throw her panties at me" or whatever. I honestly didn't try to creep her out, I thought she would just appreciate it was all.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (6 May 2012):
Let it go. But honestly if this is a girl you don't normally talk to starting out with a "you are so beautiful" is not only a tad corny but can easily be conceived as creepy.
I do think she interpreted your comment as a :"Oh, he thinks calling me beautiful will make fall head over heals in love with him, how lame/crude/rude.."
The girl obviously have no manners either. Seems like she is one of THOSE girls who DO get off on making other feel like crap. And laugh at others expense.
Chalk this one up to a learning experience. Just because a girl is pretty on the outside... doesn't mean she is on the inside.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2012): Cream in my pants? Kids talk like this now? That's just terribly vulgar for a young girl use this kind of language. May be I'm off the subject here as I see it didn't bother a bit anyone else who answered.
What I see that she has no class just a silly little ill mannered girl. I m sure u r not ugly. U complimented her, all she had to do is say thank u. There is nothing to be Creeped about. She should learn some manners and how to start being a lady.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (6 May 2012):
I completely agree with Tom Obler and Cerberus. She overreacted , maybe, but she does not need to be a stuck up bitch to be annoyed by your message.
I know that, in the now remote era when I was dabbling with Internet and dating sites, message like yours would drive me nuts. Maybe you just meant an innocuous ,sincere compliment, but most guys who take the liberty to hit on a perfect stranger with " hallo gorgeous " or "wow sexy lips " or stuff like that not only do not realize it's inappropriate, they also assume that you should melt in a puddle of gratitude for being the object of their creepy attentions, and they sulk if they don't get an immediate, enthusiastic response. Well, just like you did.
Maybe the girl was a bit too forceful ( personally I'd have skipped the " cream in my pants " bit,lol ) but , I suppose you were not the first to creep her out and she was fed up.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2012): "To be honest I didn't realize she was that way until after I had already sent her the message."
She's probably not that way then and you just think she is because she didn't immediately throw her panties at you and beg you for sex after your amazing attempt at a chat up.
Look, you creeped her out, take it as a lesson learned. Most girls I know get very pissed off when they get those kind of messages.
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reader, Tom Obler  +, writes (6 May 2012):
 Hi,
I think it's her reaction to your message. She felt sort of threatened or creeped out. Perhaps her message is a "go away, leave me alone" reply. I would delete her now and don't get in touch or reply.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2012): OP I think she's more just reacting to your overly creepy message. In the future unless a girl is a good friend and/or girlfriend don't just send her a random message telling her she's beautiful.
"So is she just really picky about guys?"
No, you creeped her out and you've just joined a long list of idiots who think that sending that kind of message to a girl is somehow cute, or "hey sexy, hit me up" "what's up beautiful?" or any of those other cheesy, creepy lines online.
They don't work, girls don't find them complimentary or cute they find it creepy and weird, yet so many guys think it's somehow cute or a good thing. You're not by any chance one of those douches whose profile picture is you topless taking a picture of yourself in the mirror and posing is it? Because that's the kind of guy who sends messages like that to random girls.
Next time you want to hit on a girl either do it in person or just say hi.
"Is it really that I'm ugly or does she just want a perfect guy?"
No, it's that you were a creep to send that message, you do know that girls get lots of those messages and find them exceptionally annoying right? They can't go on any social networking site without getting lots of messages like that from guys who for some crazy reason think they'll like it. Because you know what, it's the cheapest, lamest way of telling a girl you want to bone her.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (6 May 2012):
 ewww what an ugly, ugly girl.
Why on earth did you even tell her what you thought of her looks when you know what she is really like.
Why bother with her, she sounds really shallow, just shrug and move along, and try to be a little more discriminate who you message in future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2012): She probably is really picky about guys and their appearances. It's understandable why she's like that but don't let this bother you too much. If anything, she only has her looks, based on what you've written. She's merely beautiful on the surface and if she's capable of saying such rude and demeaning things to a person who praised her so effortlessly, she doesn't deserve your attention at all. You're not ugly just because one pretty girl says so.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 May 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTo be honest I didn't realize she was that way until after I had already sent her the message.
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reader, dmartin89 +, writes (6 May 2012):
 Why are you telling her she's beautiful if you think she's superficial and a super stuck up bitch?
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