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36-40,
*eccamega
writes:Last time I saw my aunt, I was in tears from being cruelly dumped by my boyfriend at the time. She ignored this at and proceeded to have a huge go at me for not futhering my education. I wasn't in the mood and depressed. Instead she yelled at me. As always my parents said/did absolutely nothing. I really think she was out of line. If I was her favourite niece she would've done the exact opposite and supported me. I resent both my parents for doing absolutely nothing and this extremely rude aunt. What to do next time I see her?
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reader, Basschick +, writes (9 September 2012):
 How about if you don't see her again. Ever. Why should you? They can't make you entertain her company. If they insist on going to see her, just don't go. Find other things to do with your time. Why be tortured? She's rude and heartless. Don't waste your time. Send her a Christmas card once a year and attend her funeral someday.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2012): Sorry, my first reply was posted after your follow-up and you only receive follow-up notifications once a person has posted their first answer, hence why my first comment may seem out of phase with your follow-up lol.
In that case, you need to have a word with your parents (Preferably the parent to which the aunt in question is related to) and tell them how you feel and that you wish for them to tell the aunt to lay off your case otherwise there's no two ways about it - you will NOT see her and be spoken to like a child.
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reader, Aunty BimBim +, writes (8 September 2012):
 What was the occassion last time you saw her? Were you at a family gathering of some sort, how long had you been going out with your boyfriend and how long had it been since he dumped you?
Could her concerns at your lack of education be genuine concern for your future, are you working in a job where you are happy or would you like to have something better?
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reader, Pretty and proud  +, writes (8 September 2012):
 Don't go to see her. When she asks why, tell her what you think of her. Shame we can't pick our family eh!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2012): You're an adult, you don't necessarily have to see her, but when you do, if she still has a go at you, then you need to stick up for yourself and tell her to pipe down.
Obviously you don't go there to be lectured on how to run your life, so you shouldn't have to put up with it.
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reader, meccamega +, writes (8 September 2012):
meccamega is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks but it's not that simple as I have to see her at Christmas. I have other relatives I want to see. Plus if I don't go my parents will go mental.
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reader, maverick494  +, writes (8 September 2012):
You're an adult now and though it's weak that your parents don't stand up for you you're old enough to do it yourself.
The next time she picks on you, tell her: "Listen [her name], if you don't have anything nice to say to me, then don't say anything at all. I could spend all day listing negative things about you, but I don't because I have manners. For the record, I didn't ask for your opinion, nor do I value it, so there's no reason for you to offer it. Do you have anything positive to contribute at all? If not, it would be best if you stay away next time."
If you are the ones visiting her; it's simple: don't come along again.
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