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36-40,
*exInTheCity
writes:Is it bad to not go home to visit parents except during holiday season? I am getting static from my family, my mother mostly, because I didn’t go visit them this summer. A friend of mine’s family has a beach house and I spent time there but I wasn’t spending money on plane tickets. I mean, if they want to see me, they can come visit, right? I will be home for Thanksgiving and Christmas time. Is it so bad? I call a lot and see what they are doing on FB and I miss them but tickets are expensive. Should I let them guilt me into visiting and take their money to buy a plane ticket?
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reader, oldbag  +, writes (21 August 2012):
 Hi
Where is your home and what size is it? Could you accommadate them while THEY visit or would they stop in a Hotel,so making it expensive? Can they afford it?
Most kids WANT to see their parents they would look forward to it, random visits are always welcomed. Its a pity you didn't go visit them, a long weekend wouldn't have put you out too much surely? You could have taken a friend too. They know you have a life, but clearly want to be part of it still,even a small part.
It's respect,visiting them,and your mum will be hurt you didn't make the effort.Suggest they come to you if you are too poor to buy a ticket, if its viable,at least it lets them know you care and want to see them.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (21 August 2012):
 Is it so bad to visit your mother, is she really such a pain in the backside you wont bother going to visit even if she pays for the ticket. Is the life you are living right now so full you can't afford to give your mother one lousy week just because! Does there have to be a reason to visit her, such as Thanksgiving or Christmas?
Maybe your mother gets nervous travelling away from home, maybe she is concerned she may not be made welcome if she comes to visit you. Sure, they could visit, but have you ever asked why they don't?
I don't know if there are other reasons not to visit besides the fact you were able to spend the summer at a beach house which was preferable to seeing your mother, but based on what you have written I don't care much for your attitude.
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