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writes: I have another question what do i do if my friends are giving ishh about my long distance relationship?like half of them would be like yeah you should give him a try and keep your realtionship and the other half is like you dont know what his doing like he could be cheating on you i would be laughing if he's cheating on you right now .( guy friend said that) like really? What do they think? Honestly i dont want to have a bf? find a new one here. im tired of some of my friends saying these things.Things like: get a guy here . like I know in the past realtionships it might have been lust but i swearr that this time it isnt . but my friends dont get is diffrent this time .. but cant blame them im the girl that cried love like 50 timess . What to do about them?
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reader, Aphrodite.duh  +, writes (8 September 2012):
Ok, I just want to let you know, that I am where you are. I'm youre age and in an LDR. And, i don't regret it. LDRs aren't for everyone, but does this guy, and the few hours you get to spend, make you happy? Or do your friends mean more? You aren't too young for this, because even some adults can't manage it, but maturity comes from inside. But don't let your friends influence you where they don't matter.Do you trust him? Trust is important in every relationship. So what if there's a guy physically there? Doesn't mean he can't sneak out for a quick kiss or a "rumble" with your friend. Sure, he could be cheating on you. But, do you believe he is?If by now, you've decided that he means more to you than your friends, or that it isn't their business, and you honestly trust him, I won't have to tell you what to do. If any of those things are not true and your friends words affect you so much, then let this guy go, and LDRs aren't for you.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (8 September 2012):
 Aged between 13 and 15 and already claimed to have been in love 50 times .... that's pretty quick work, just how often are you falling in and out of love, every two or three weeks?
You ask what to do about them, I say listen to them, you are too young to be shutting yourself to the joys and experiences of meeting and mixing, and yes, believing yourself in love like 50 times, face to face. Once you have mastered all the nuances of THAT, like in three or four years, then maybe you could consider a LDR.
Or you could ignore then, refuse to mix with them, not listen or mix with them, and then when this LDR turns out the the 51st time you are not really in love you will have no friends or external supports in place to help you through it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 September 2012): I don't blame them for having this attitude towards your "Love life".
Your info says you're between 13-15, you say you've cried love about 50 times, and every time the relationships (close ones) have fallen apart?
Obviously they're not going to take you seriously about a long distance relationship are they.
Deep down, the ones that give you the negative feedback on this, are only trying to prevent you from getting hurt again (probably for the 51st time lol)
They say its the friends that attempt to prevent you from doing something potentially costly, that are the real friends. And the ones that just go along with every decision you make, and sit back and watch it all unfold, but don't attempt to support or guide you, are the ones that don't really give a damn.
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reader, Pretty and proud +, writes (8 September 2012):
 They aren't very good friends...
Tell them to support you or not say anything at all. You don't need thier input, but if anything does happen and u break up (god forbid this to happen) you can't cry on them about it.
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reader, Plumb  +, writes (8 September 2012):
 I'm in an ldr and Im in this situation constantly, to be honest you could listen to some of it but other then that it's your relationship and in the end you and your other are the only ones in it and that should be it. Oh and just a tip, with the friends that are negitive about it dont talk to them about him/her ..They will soon get over it
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