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writes:i just found out from my husband that she said ask your wife how she We have married friends that hang out with us. They have kids the same ages as ours. The wife is 12 years younger then me. She texted my husband a inappropriate message that my husband told me about immediatly after txt. She said how does your wife get your tower to stand. He reply all she has to do is whisper in my ear. I let it go till another occasion sex was brought up in the conversation . I said to her and her husband u guys are freaks why would u ask my husband how I get his tower to stand(she was referring to his private area of course) she was totally embarrassed when I brought it up and he seemed confused about it and looked at my husbands phone. So I asked were u guys talking about us. Why would you txt him that? neither gave a answer and almost immediately left following the question . It seems obvious that he had no clue about the txt. Do you guys think she was waiting for a sexual response from my husband? Like to see if he was attracted to her? Or something else? She turned white after I questioned her on it and husband was totally dumb founded. i just found out from my husband that she said ask your wife how she gets your tower to stand, this puts a whole diffrent spin on the question, i didnt know she said ask your wife. my husband showed me the text. what do you guys think now? why would she want to ask me that? There was no banter between us when this txt was ENT they were in there car following us and I was driving./
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2012): What a strange and inaproprite question for that woman to ask. I cant say what her intentions are but i would watch out and back away from her if i were you. Im not a jealous person but i wudnt want my husband around her.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (25 August 2012):
 Can't say what her intentions were in sending this suggestive text, but your comments certainly burst her balloon! Your husband, with his response, has let her know how much he loves you, your question to them both has let her know he doesn't keep secrets from you, and also let them know you felt her behaviour was inappropriate.
Now you just need to wait and see if they are still wanting to maintain the friendship, but with behaviour boundaries set by you.
As I said, I don't know what her intentions were but I really like the way you handled it.
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reader, katiekate +, writes (25 August 2012):
 Definitely strange and inappropriate on her part. Do you doubt or question your husband's role in this? I wouldn't necessarily be upset with him- he probably just responded in that way as to not make things awkward or disturb the friendship between the four of you. However, now that I'm sure you've made it clear to your husband that this sort of sexual talk is not acceptable, if it happens again, he should NOT respond, and if anything, he should tell her not to talk about sexual things with him again.
This woman seems to have crossed a line for sure. I would never text one of my friends' husband or boyfriend and ask anything like that. If anything like this comes up again, I would sever the friendship. Make sure you and your husband are on the same page. If you suspect that there is more here than meets the eye, then that changes everything. Do you trust that he was innocent in this scenario? If so, he should have no problem putting a stop to this before it gets out of hand.
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