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Archived questions from: December, 2009 (see latest in Virginity category)

Virginity: Help and advice

Lost my virginity I need help please

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5429 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - ok i lost my virginity yesterday early in the morning around 1 or 2am in the morning me and my boyfriend want to have sex again but will it hurt worse the second time or not?and will it be hard for it to go in even though i already had sex once?...

Can I get an abortion at 14 without my parents approval?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5264 days ago

31 December 2009 (F) - hello... 3 weeks ago i lost my virginity but we didnt use a condom and i went and got the morning after pill. but now i am sore and red and itchy in my virgina and i have white liquidy stuff coming out my virgina, it drips out when i use the b...

Sex w/o condoms safe?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5429 days ago

30 December 2009 (M) - Well, I'm a 15 year old male that has a very honest girlfriend. For the past year or so, we have been expiramenting with sexual touching, oral sex, ect,. When we we're on teh phone the other day, she asked me if I wanted to have sex. I told her I ...

My culture does not accept non-virgins, getting married soon, what do I do?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5430 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - hi all..i am an egyptain 21.5 year old girl..i lost my hymen by my ex boy friend, we were musterbating in bed but suddenly he rapped me and made me lose my hymen :( but my vagina is still tight i guess.. coz we didnt have sex... my problem is ...

Could these be early symptoms of pregnancy?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5431 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - Last Wednesday night my boyfriend and I had sex. It was the first time for both of us and it was something we were shy about but we wanted to do. We have been together for a year and we take things slow but, the night wasn't perfect of course ...

I lied about my virginity so what do I do now?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5429 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - I am sort of seeing this boy who is 20 even though i am 15 and we are thinking about having sex, the bottom line is i told him i was not a virgin and i dont know what to do. plz help xx...

I need to know all the risks of having sex!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5431 days ago

30 December 2009 (F) - I know I'm too young. Thats what everybody says. But recently I've met a boy I really love, he loves me too. Trust me you haven't heard him. He wants to have sex with me. Please answer me. With all risks and everything, thank you. :)....

Not enjoying sex, whats wrong with me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5433 days ago

29 December 2009 (M) - So a few months ago I lost my virginity to my gf. It went okay if not a little quick (which is expected) however now ive had alot of sex, I do not enjoy it. It comes down to my penis being a little on the small side. When im having sex with my gf ...

Should I save my virginity for someone I will love the rest of my life?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5431 days ago

28 December 2009 (M) - Male, 18: I'll get strait to the point, should I save my virginity for someone I will love for the rest of my life? I'm scared that I wont find someone to love and marry in my life-time because I'll be joining The Air Force after school gets over...

Will sex affect my relationship with my best friend?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5434 days ago

27 December 2009 (M) - So heres the situation: me[im male 18] and my best freind [female19] both virgins. best freinds for 4 years before we dated. been going out for nearly a year now. We are both close to ready to having sex. I want to do what i need t...

My girlfriend wants to wait until marriage to have sex!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5417 days ago

27 December 2009 (M) - So wat do i do, me and my girlfriend have been dating for about 2 years plus and have talked about having sex? She finally said she would talk to her mom about getting birth control. She has been avoiding it and so i reminded her that she should ...

I am worried about having sex with my boyfriend!

This question has 14 answers - newest was posted 5432 days ago

26 December 2009 (F) - right, im nearly 14 and i have a boyfriend. hes older than me, hes 15. hes not a virgin and we do talk about having sex alot. he has fingered me but he only fit 1 finger up and i am very scared of the pain if he does have sex with me, im also scared ...

How can my boyfriend not understand we need to go slow when it comes to losing our virginity?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5437 days ago

24 December 2009 (F) - My boyfriend of a little over a month just tried having sex with me last night. We had not done anything other than making out so at first I thought he was going to finger me but then he unbuttoned his pants. I asked him what we were doing and he ...

During kissing/cuddling/etc I suddenly orgasm without stimulation! Is this normal?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5438 days ago

23 December 2009 (M) - Me and my fiance are both virgins, we are saving our selves tell we got married, but we do have kisses and cuddling....etc The problem is some of the times when we are kissing i suddenly orgasm !!!!! It been concerning me, should i seek for medical ...

I think I made a mistake by breaking up with her, what should I do?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5439 days ago

22 December 2009 (M) - Agony readers, I need the best advice here. I found a girl I truly and honestly love, we dated for roughly a year and a half... I lost my virginity to her... I felt I couldn't trust her so I broke up with her. My parents absolutely hate her, eve...

Should I wait to have sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5438 days ago

22 December 2009 (?) - I have been dating the same man for 2 years now. We have been friends for several years before that. I am 19, in college and still a virgin.My question is for those who have had sex and are married, do you think that it would have been more special ...

He says he'll wait for me, but can I trust him?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5439 days ago

22 December 2009 (F) - Hi, I'm 17 years old and my boyfriend 20 we been dating for almost 10 months officaly but we been talkinng over a year now. he knows everything about me n i about him..im a jelous freak also n he is a lil only. He says sweet stuff once in a while. I ...

Sometimes I think I'm ready for sex, and sometimes not! So confused!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5439 days ago

22 December 2009 (F) - ive been going out with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years (he's 18 and im 16) hes had sex but im still a virgin, i love him but im not sure if im ready some times i think i am and other times not so much.im confussed and need help please. ...

Should I lose my V-card to my cousin?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 5429 days ago

21 December 2009 (F) - the thing is is that i want to have sex ( lose my viginity to ) with my older cousin. he is only older than me by 2 years and we are very close. he shows me love and we kiss and he fingers me and once got close to having sex. i love my cousin ...

Virginity as a Christmas present?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5441 days ago

20 December 2009 (F) - Well, basicaly I do not have such a crazy ideas, but last two weeks I am thinking of something like giving virginity as a Christmas present. I am in a relationship with my boyfriend about two months and I know it is too soon to even think about ...

How does sex feel?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5438 days ago

20 December 2009 (M) - How does sex feel for a guy, when i decide to have it with my girlfriend, it will be my first time. Like what does it feel like in the inside and in your mind...

I have oral herpes so can I transmit herpes through oral sex?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5442 days ago

20 December 2009 (F) - Growing up, I got a cold sore once a year or so, and never thought anything of it. My dad got them, mom, grandma, grandpa, brother, etc--I never thought anything of it. Call me stupid, sheltered, or whatever, but it wasn't until this past May wh...

Should we lose our virginity to each other?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5414 days ago

20 December 2009 (M) - ok i have a question... my friend introduced me to a girl I fell in love with almost immediately and she wants to to take it to the next leveland have sex.... We have known each other for three years now and I want to. but my parents don't un...

I think my boyfriend is hinting about having sex, but I don't think I'm ready

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5443 days ago

19 December 2009 (F) - Today I hung out with my boyfriend and we got on to the topic of sex. We weren't even talking about anything like that before, but he randomly started the topic. He said that like everyone has done it from his school. I think that he was hinting ...

I'm worried about the first time and not living up to expectations!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5438 days ago

18 December 2009 (M) - Ok, so I've been dating this girl for two and a half months, and I think we're in love. Today she asked me to come over and to finger her, but I said I couldn't because I was too nervous. I know I shouldn't be, if we really are in love then she ...

Is it weird to get turned on by the pain of first time sex?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5443 days ago

18 December 2009 (F) - Ok im a girl and i was wondering if this is normal. I talked to my friends and they all said it will hurt your first time haveing sex and even made there boyfriends stop. When i had sex for the first time it did hurt but i liked the pain alot and ...

My first time and I didnt enjoy the experience!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5441 days ago

18 December 2009 (F) - My boyfriend fingered me for the first time but I wasn't really turned on and it wasn't sore but will he think I'm strange because I wasn't "wet". Does it bother gu when a girl is "dry". We had been kissing for a while but it wasn't until I was ...

Do boys ever mature?

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5440 days ago

18 December 2009 (F) - how do i feel better? i feel guys only wanna date me to prove a point to their friends im 19 nd a virgin. my very first bf broke up with me cuz he said the relationship got boring. then he lied about sleeping with me. then i met another guy who i ...

Is fingering wrong when you plan to stay a virgin?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

17 December 2009 (F) - I have been dating my boyfriend for about 3 1/2 months now. We dated earlier in the year for about 2 months and then we broke up and didn't talk for pretty much the entire summer, and then he asked me for a second chance so I agreed. He is not...

I have a question for the guys???

This question has 18 answers - newest was posted 5442 days ago

17 December 2009 (F) - Ok im trying to keep my virginity so is there anything that i could do sexually that guys like to do without having intercoarse?...

How do I attract a guy that doesn't want me for sex

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

17 December 2009 (F) - so all my friends have boyfriends and have already lost there virginity. they dont pick on me for still being a virgin but they dont really talk about anything else beside haveing sex. i am really focused on school and haveing a job. im almost 17 ...

What is the least painful sexual position for a virgin?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 5444 days ago

16 December 2009 (F) - Im 14, and me and my bf are ready for sex for the first time, im kinda scared though, whats the easiest/ least painful position for first timers?...

I lost my virginity on Friday and I'm worried about the bleeding

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5448 days ago

13 December 2009 (F) - i lost my virginity on friday and i lost quiet alot of blood straight after (about a full knicker lining) then after that the bleeding stopped and the next day i had a bit in another set of knickers as well. i havent yet started my periods so could ...

Sex advice needed please!

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 5446 days ago

12 December 2009 (F) - Well im 15:) I have a bf of barely 2 weeks he is 15 too we have known each other for a long time.. We have liked each other since we met. We went out once it didn't work out but we still like each other we have had foreplay like fingering sucking ...

He got another girl pregnant during one of our breakups, and my heart is breaking

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5427 days ago

11 December 2009 (F) - Well I'm 14 years old and I thought I found the guy I wanted to spend the rest of my life with... We quickly fell in love but we also faught way to much. These weren't just silly little fights they got serious to the point were he tried to kill ...

Planning on losing my virginity tomorrow; can we have sex twice in the same day? Will it be better second time round?

This question has 12 answers - newest was posted 5422 days ago

10 December 2009 (M) - Hey all, I have a girlfriend of 16 months and 10 days. We are both virgins and we decided to do it tomorrow. I have been reading posts here and I know the first is not very good. But if we want to have sex again the same day ,is it possible? Wil...

Some advice needed for losing my virginity

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

10 December 2009 (F) - Ok, I'm looking for some advice for first-time sex. I'm 25 and engaged, and I'm a virgin, and plan to be until my wedding night. Same for my finace. Now, we both know that sex will hurt me at first, though I'm not overly worried because I trust hi...

How do I handle my traditional mother?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5452 days ago

10 December 2009 (F) - I am soon to be 24 years-old and am a student in graduate school currently. I have a traditional mother who is proud of virginity. She is proud that she was still a virgin till her marriage day and she expects the same from me, too. My mom expects ...

I feel envious at people who have slept with much younger girls...

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

9 December 2009 (M) - Ok, This is how it is. I'm 17 years old and I've seen many people around my age have sex. I'm still a virgin and I really feel envy at people who can have sex with those young girls [15 or 16 years old girls] I seem to be a really horrible person ...

Newly-wed virgin looking for tips...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5452 days ago

9 December 2009 (F) - i'm newly wed and am n virgin i need tips on sex...

How to break hymen before having sex?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5450 days ago

9 December 2009 (F) - I am 16 years old .. still a virgin I want to break my hymen before i have sex .. should I do it and if so how would I go about this ??? Thank you :)...

Why do people hate virgins so much?

This question has 16 answers - newest was posted 5449 days ago

9 December 2009 (M) - Why do people hate virgins so much? What did we ever do to be treated the way we are? It just isn't right.I never criticize my friends decision to have sex,so why cant they just respect my choices.It's not as if I'm some kind of saint constantly ...

I'm embarassed that I am still a virgin but personally I don't want to lose it yet!

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5451 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - please help! i am 16, and i've not really had much relationship experience. I've liked guys a lot and almost everyone in my grade has lost their virginity. I definatly don't want to lose mine yet, but what about peer pressure? Also, the guys i like, ...

After 24 years of marriage he now tells me he wished he'd had sex with more women! This is making me very insecure

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5453 days ago

8 December 2009 (F) - After nearly 24 years of marriage my husband, aged 51, announced to me that 'the biggest regret of his life was that he hadn't had sex with more women'. I also found out at the same time that he had lied to me about being a virgin when we met and ...

How do I cope with losing my virginity to the wrong guy? Dumb dumb dumb!

This question has 10 answers - newest was posted 5429 days ago

7 December 2009 (F) - lost my virginity last night - still feel like a virgin. It hurt and it was completely with the wrong guy - i remember crying after nad just wanting a cuddle - he feel a sleep and i was left in the darkness thinking about what i had allowed. I was ...

I don't feel like 'oh my god I did it' or anything like that... is something wrong with me?

This question has 9 answers - newest was posted 5455 days ago

7 December 2009 (F) - I’m 27 and the other week had sex for the first time. I’m not religious so I wasn’t waiting for marriage, I just didn’t find the right guy to sleep with while I was dating…and in the past guys left me because I wouldn’t give in to sex early on in ...

My wife told me she was a virgin, but she was no where near it.

This question has 28 answers - newest was posted 4355 days ago

6 December 2009 (M) - Hello, I have been reading this forum for a while now. My wife and I were High School Sweathearts. We courted for a couple of years, she became pregnant and we were married soon after our first child was born. I was in my third year of college ...

He lied, I wasn't his first. Should that matter?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5456 days ago

4 December 2009 (F) - Well me and my fiance have been together for 10 years, I was 14 when we started him 18. Well when we first started he had told me he wasn't a virgin and had sex with his girlfriend before me, but then after we had sex he said he was lying. Off an on ...

16, and I want to have sex! Who should I do it with, random guy or close friend?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5456 days ago

4 December 2009 (F) - im 16, and i feel like im ready to have sex. i dont want to do it with some random guy, but would it be better if i did it with a close friend who is also ready??? (: thanks in advance x...

Does anyone else feel down for being a virgin? I'm 23.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5432 days ago

4 December 2009 (M) - I feel down that I haven't had a girlfriend or intimacy in a while. I've made out with a few girls, but haven't gone all the way with one. I remember a few years back people teased me about this, and I just went nuts on them. I'm still a 23 yr ...