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writes:Ok im trying to keep my virginity so is there anything that i could do sexually that guys like to do without having intercoarse? Reply to this Question
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (19 December 2009):
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You can go a week without sex, but you can't go a day without rationalizing...
Traditionally, the women are the keepers of tradition and the makers of families and have always been the ones who decide Yes or NO about sex, because the act lasts nine months for them, not 8 minutes. And probably, mostly, as a lot of women have found out these days, it takes a lot of funds to raise a child on your own. Marriage and chastity were because men wanted proof of their progeny and wanted to insure that they were raising their own children. I still read a lot of mail here about guys who are very happy when they find out that there not so chaste girlfriend has been with more guys than she originally said. Guys only say that they believe in "sexual freedom for women" when it's not their woman and they think that they are going to "get some" from saying it...
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2009): Oral
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reader, bharat mehta  +, writes (19 December 2009):
 Your question has very simple answer:Foreplay. and is all,nothing save to add.
But, what bother me is why virginity a sensitive issue? It is low cultured people who give moral value to virginity.Thy make sex a materialist against spiritualistic vision. They believe that virginity is the proof that female had not enjoy sex at all. Such enjoyment is thought as betrayal against the will of God, and his representative husband. In ancient past, at the dawn of civilization, there exist sexually free society. But, today our culture should not be rule by low grade mentality,but by highly civilized mentality, once it was exists. We can refer ancient Greece, Indos valley etc.
By definition, men is an intellectual entity, and able to enjoy sex even without partner, and has full right over body and over mind. Sex is nature, and there is nothing wrong in nature. Then, why such fight against nature? And, why against man's intellectual capacity?
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (19 December 2009):
Merry Christmas q!
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (18 December 2009):
You can go a week without sex, but you can't go a day without rationalizing...
Traditionally, the women are the keepers of tradition and the makers of families and have always been the ones who decide Yes or NO about sex, because the act lasts nine months for them, not 8 minutes. And probably, mostly, as a lot of women have found out these days, it takes a lot of funds to raise a child on your own. Marriage and chastity were because men wanted proof of their progeny and wanted to insure that they were raising their own children. I still read a lot of mail here about guys who are very happy when they find out that there not so chaste girlfriend has been with more guys than she originally said. Guys only say that they believe in "sexual freedom for women" when it's not their woman and they think that they are going to "get some" from saying it...
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reader, bharat mehta +, writes (18 December 2009):
Your question has very simple answer:Foreplay. and is all,nothing save to add.But, what bother me is why virginity a sensitive issue? It is low cultured people who give moral value to virginity.Thy make sex a materialist against spiritualistic vision. They believe that virginity is the proof that female had not enjoy sex at all. Such enjoyment is thought as betrayal against the will of God, and his representative husband. In ancient past, at the dawn of civilization, there exist sexually free society. But, today our culture should not be rule by low grade mentality,but by highly civilized mentality, once it was exists. We can refer ancient Greece, Indos valley etc. By definition, men is an intellectual entity, and able to enjoy sex even without partner, and has full right over body and over mind. Sex is nature, and there is nothing wrong in nature. Then, why such fight against nature? And, why against man's intellectual capacity?
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reader, neongenesisjuliet +, writes (18 December 2009):
By definition, you may still be a virgin, but anal sex is still one of the more taboo and less tried kinks these days. Say you're a virgin all you want, but after that, it's in technicality only.
There's nothing wrong with losing your virginity though; as long as you care deeply about the other person and they care deeply about you, that's what matters. Don't do it just to do it. When you take that approach, you will almost always regret it.
Also, if you plan on doing it, vaginally OR anally, use a condom. Even if you're on the pill or some other hormonal birth control method, you do not want to end up with an STD, especially so young in your life.
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reader, Alice Wonders  +, writes (18 December 2009):
 Depends on what you you're ready to do.
All guys like oral sex, for what it matters, and masturbation: combine these 2 and they'll be happy with you.
Some guys like anal sex, too.
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (18 December 2009):
I think a lot of them men who have written in are the same guys who would come writing to us claiming a giant foul (I feel so cheated! I can never trust her again! How can I stop thinking about those other guys?) - if THEY were to find out that 'their wife' who said she was a 'virgin' confessed after marriage that she had actually blown the entire football team...
Of course any guy writing in will opt for ANYTHING and claim it isn't sex. If it is touching and it results in coming, it's sex - maybe not penis-the-vagina sex, but sex all the same.
You aren't obligated to be a sexual outlet for anyone if you're not into it.
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reader, always_diving +, writes (18 December 2009):
By definition, so long as your cherry hasn't been popped, you're still a virgin.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2009): I think the majority of the people answering this question are being harsh, as soon as the penis enters the vagina you are no longer a virgin...you can do anything else and still be considered a virgin, but youll want to find a man who wont be a total d*** and call you a liar because youve done anal or given blow jobs. Its mostly the guy you end up wanted to give yourself to, and how he feels about the subject. I understand what youre trying to do, just find someone who can understand it to, most people here can be harsh, keep your chin up, youre not a slut, nor will you be. :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2009): Haha, wow...I don't know about anyone else, but no way I'd consider a girl who'd had anal sex a virgin. And I'd view any girl who tried to pass herself off as a virgin after she'd had anal sex as a complete liar.As for oral sex, in some ways that's even more intimate than penetrative sex. And again, if a girl said she was a virgin when in fact she'd given oral to a plethora of guys, I'd say she was a liar.Sorry, but there really isn't anything sexual you can do while maintaining your virginity. You may still be a virgin in the technical sense, but in my eyes a girl who's going down on guys and taking it in the rear is far from a virgin.*Note: I'm not saying you shouldn't be able to choose to do those things if you want, I'm just saying you wouldn't be much of a virgin - in my opinion.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2009): mutual masturbation. anything beyond that you'd be a virgin in name only.
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reader, always_diving +, writes (18 December 2009):
I agree with RainOrFire. There's nothing wrong with wanting to save youself for marriage or that special guy. And guys love, love, love BJs. A lot of guys love them even more than sex because not all woman are willing to do it, and because the guy doesn't have to do any work. I also agree that I'd rather be with a vigin that's given some BJs than a girl that's had sex with a bunch of guys. But you can also give hand jobs and try anal if you're into it. Be safe, but remember that most guys love a girl that swallows :)
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reader, Garm +, writes (18 December 2009):
Handjobs. No danger of any kind. And no guy will rationally turn one down (though it's not always the preferred method).
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (17 December 2009):
 I think you have a reasonable question it sounds like some of the people answering regret having lost their virginity, theres a big difference between a BJ and sex atleast in america you cant get pregnant for one and im pretty sure if your saving your self for that special guy he will appreciate it. from a guy perspective if i was getting married and cared i would prefer my girl to have given a few BJ rather then to have been having sex. `just make sure you use protection Herpes is a king crab you dont want to cath
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reader, birdynumnums +, writes (17 December 2009):
What exactly is the point of keeping your virginity if you are going to have oral herpes or anal warts?
I don't mean to be prudish, but if you are going to sexually fool around anyways, because anal sex and oral sex and anything that results in making him come is sexual behavior and sexual contact, then what the heck kind of virgin are you going to remain, except a slutty intact one?
I hardly think that is what a guy looking for a virgin is looking for, although I guess that you have some desire/cultural issues to want to remain "Intact".
You seem to have extremely diverse and juxtaposed morals, if you don't mind the observation.
"Intact" and "Chaste" are two totally different things. When a person wants to remain a virgin until she or he gets married, that usually means that they want to be an innocent, first time partner when they finally take the plunge, not simply hand over an intact hymen as proof that they are "unsullied". Better yet, look up the definition of unsullied.
If you are putting yourself in the position of coming across with the goods, then you also may find that the guy is questioning why you will do everything else and not the other, which is also a pretty common story in most date rape. If you aren't ready to go all the way with a guy and you aren't sure about his moral character, then you may want to think about that the next time that you let things get too hot to handle.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 December 2009): Girl answering: guys enjoy blowjobs ALOT. Alot of guys also love anal...
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