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writes:Agony readers, I need the best advice here.I found a girl I truly and honestly love, we dated for roughly a year and a half... I lost my virginity to her... I felt I couldn't trust her so I broke up with her. My parents absolutely hate her, even my church isn't fond of her, but thats because of the virginity thing and my mom trying to get it published that this girl is the devil. I feel I made a mistake though, I realize she is really all that makes me happy, I have met others but nah, they don't have what she has. Even who I thought was my best friend is trying to get with her but she won't date because she misses me, he is in for an a** whooping. I need to know, should I respect the parents, or stay a single looser? Mind you I am a soon to be 18 year old male that is out of high school headed to college. I hate these decisions, what do I do!
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reader, Advice_man +, writes (22 December 2009):
 I've been in a very similar situation a few years back. I tell you with no regret pursue what you want, go back and tell her that you made a mistake, you are sorry and you want to give it another shot. Do it!! Just hope she is still available. Parents want what's best for us but sometimes they base their advices on standards and perceptions of their generation which is diffent than ours. Best of luck!
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reader, bojolay +, writes (22 December 2009):
 You may be "pussy-whipped", but fear not! You'll get over that when the next furry muff comes along. Your message implies that your social network is not in favor of the relaitonship you have/had. Based on the fact that you mention the social network, I infer that you place value on those opinions. Although you may be proned to discount the opinions because you are currently not getting cock-service, the intelligent part of your brain is sending you a message. I disagree with "Angzw" that our parent rarely like the people we chose. She is only speaking for herself. Consider this: our parents and social group like the people we chose if they like the person. Or consider this: if our parents and our social group like the person we chose to be with then it's much easier for us to be part of a larger group. And if we are part of a larger group then we may have greater opportunity for example, jobs, education, support, social events, etc. However, if we cannot be part of a larger group because the group does not like the person that we've chosen, then we may be shut out to some extent.
So, I strongly encourage you to talk with each and every person in your family and social group about your dilemma. Consider their opinions without being defensive. Meanwhile, keep you eyes open for the next woman who will provide free cock-service. PS. Try an older woman - one from your church. They LOVE young cock.
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reader, Angzw  +, writes (22 December 2009):
Our parents rarely like the people we choose. Always follow your heart.. It is you who has to live the decisions they make for you. It is not like you had announced you were getting married and quitting school! If your parents' opinion really matters to you then negotiate with them eg. If my math grades are good then I get to date her. Or she will join you at youth church etc.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2009): Man listen you are only 18 years old you will have plenty of experience once you hit college. It is true you will never forget your first but i think it is better to enter college without a girlfriend so that you can mature yourself and find the person you really are. most of the time if your parents aren't to found of the person its for a reason other times parents want to be parents. maybe they see something in her that can't see b/c of the infatouation. one thing i can say for sure is take you time and take care of you first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2009): follow your instincts. that is the best i can offer. if she is truly a good person, and good for you then you should give it a go. but i would really stop and consider what it is that your parents see and ask yourself if there is any truth in what they say. be honest and look at this from all angles. good luck sweetheart. mal
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