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anonymous
writes:i lost my virginity on friday and i lost quiet alot of blood straight after (about a full knicker lining) then after that the bleeding stopped and the next day i had a bit in another set of knickers as well. i havent yet started my periods so could the sex have started my periods? also the boy never had a condom on. xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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reader, k_c100 +, writes (13 December 2009):
 I hate hearing stories like this.....you are so young! You havent even started your periods yet, your body is still that of a child and it really is not ready for sex!
Ok first things first, if the boy didnt use a condom then you could have an STD, and a minute chance you could be pregnant (although very unlikely seen as you havent started your periods yet). Go on the NHS website and search for GUM clinics or sexual health clinics, there will be one in your area that you can visit where you can get an STD test fro (for free). Having sex without condoms is very dangerous - STD's are very common and have all sorts of nasty effects so you really need to get tested just in case you have caught one from this boy. While you are there, it is worth asking the nurse/doctor about the chances of getting pregnant even though you havent started your periods, they will know more than I do about that subject!
About the bleeding - it sounds like it is just some bleeding due to having sex, rather than it being your periods. Does it look like normal blood that you would have if you had cut yourself? Or does it look brownish and gooey, with a strange smell? If it is the second of the 2 options, then it could be your period. But sex doesnt start your periods, only your body decides when it is ready to start having periods. First time sex will often cause bleeding, and because you are so young your body wont be ready so the bleeding may last longer than it normally would if you were a bit older.
I think making an appointment with your GP would be a good idea - you need a qualified adult to talk to you about sexual health and pregnancies, after all I'm sure you dont want to catch a life threatening disease or get pregnant at your age so you really should see your GP to get some advice on your sexual health. GP's will give you free condoms to keep you safe and they will also talk to you about birth control. Dont worry about seeing a GP - they have to adhere to doctor/patient confidentiality so they cant tell your parents or anyone else for that matter. Whatever you discuss with GP will be kept completely private and all the GP is concerned about is protecting your health.
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, celtic_tiger +, writes (13 December 2009):
 ok. Let me get this straight, you havent yet started your periods, but you are having sex? This is no way right!
How old are you? 13-15? You should not be having sex before you are 16. This is the legal age of consent, which means you cannot agree to ANY sexual act, even if you want to, this would still be classed as RAPE.
As you have not started your periods yet, your body is still growing, and is not physically ready to be having sex of any sort! Emotionally you are also not mature enough.
You didnt use contraception? This is ESSENTIAL - condoms not only stop pregnancy, they also stop the risk of sexual infections, diseases and nasty things, which can make you very ill, kill you (AIDS etc), or leave you unable to have children. A lot of these diseases do not have obvious symptoms, so before you know you have it, the damage is done.
I suspect the bleeding was your hyman breaking - this is a flap of skin across your vagina, which is ripped when you first have sex. As you have not started your periods, it will not have been stretched as much by the use of tampons etc. This is normal, but I am still concerned, if it continues, then you need to go and see the Doctor.
Sex will not make your periods start.
Can I ask WHY you had unprotected sex with this boy? Do you fully understand the consequences of this, and what it is all about?
I really urge you NOT to have sex again until you are over 16, have started your periods (as this will affect your hormones a lot) and are fully able to understand what sex is all about. You need to understand contraception, and be in a long term, commited relationship, with a boyfriend. Sex is not something you do with random guys you just like. Having sex will not make a boy like you, or want to be your boyfriend, they will just use you and dump you.
I would hate for you to end up with a reputation for being a girl who will have sex with any guy that comes along. Grow up, mature into an independant young woman, and wait until you have a really special man in your life before you have sex again.
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