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writes:Male, 18: I'll get strait to the point, should I save my virginity for someone I will love for the rest of my life?I'm scared that I wont find someone to love and marry in my life-time because I'll be joining The Air Force after school gets over with. I'm very shy when I have to talk to someone for the first time but I open up quickly, could I have some dating advise and a few signs that someone may like me? (I've had several females come and talk to me but I'm not exactly sure if they are being friendly or they are looking for a date.)Thank you kindly!
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2009): Be aware than staying a virgin will do little or nothing to get you a virgin girl.
Life isn't fair. You can't just save your V-card for years to cash it in later on for an equally inexperienced woman.
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reader, KoVash +, writes (28 December 2009):
KoVash is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI want to thank you all for replying back and you all gave me fantastic advise. Just to clear it up right now, it's not for religious beliefs, but a choice. I'll know when I have met the right person and the people who replied, you have increases my confidence. Thank you again!
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reader, Carrot2000 +, writes (28 December 2009):
 At 18, it's impossible for you to know who you'll love for the rest of your life, but I think you will have a more meaningful experience if your first time is with someone you are in love with.
As far a shyness and meeting women, the Air Force will take care of all of that! You're going to grow in so many ways and have so many experiences that will help you grow into a different person. Plenty of military men are married, so there is no reason you won't find love in your lifetime. In fact, you may have more chances than most simply because you will have an opportunity to meet and interact with so many people.
Good luck with your military career and thank you for deciding to serve your country.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 December 2009): I agree with Tzingers and soon567. I would also like to say that love is a risk and you never know how long it will last. It is possible that you could find the girl you dream of, lose your virginity, then split up later on. That is what happened to me. Also, you shouldn't put it on a pedestal and build up your expectations. Your first time will probably be awkward to some degree. You are mature enough now to know when the time is right. It really just depends on what you want. Obviously if religion is the reason you are waiting, you will want the person you marry to be a virgin. In that case I would suggest waiting, because once you lose it you can't really get it back. At least at this point, you have a choice.
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reader, Tzingers +, writes (28 December 2009):
If it is important for you to stay a virgin for personal, religious or health reasons than stick to it for yourself. You absolutely will meet someone (even if you are shy... unless you're a hermit) that you will no doubt want to bed and she will want you too. Having sex in high school is very lame. I was raised to wait for marriage, I waited until the week I got out of high school & hooked up with a hot man on a cruise. For me, it's a great memory. But it was right, I didn't overthink how it happened or the rest of my relationships for that matter. Besides, after you join the air force you will meet a ton of new people and your travels may bring you to the perfect moment. Don't screw high school girls just because you can, you will not look back on that proudly.
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