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writes: I have been dating the same man for 2 years now. We have been friends for several years before that. I am 19, in college and still a virgin.My question is for those who have had sex and are married, do you think that it would have been more special if you had just waited until marriage, or is doing it before a good suggestion if you really care for him/her? The idea has been running through my mind whenever I am with him, my only worry is pregnancy, even though there is protection.
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reader, daletom  +, writes (24 December 2009):
I'm married, and I'm glad my wife and I waited until we were married (at age 23) to have intercourse. The first time WAS lousy sex - but also very special and significant for us.
There are other ways, short of intercourse, for you and your fiance' to pleasure each other until you're married. (And, knowing that those other ways are available and acceptable to each other will help you make your goal of waiting until marriage.)
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reader, Lee Adama  +, writes (22 December 2009):
 Under no circumstances what-so-ever could I recommend you wait for marriage. The first time you have sex will not be the wonderful, perfect fantasy that you've got rattling round in your head. It will be messy, sore, & quite likely rubbish. If that’s the abiding memory you want of you wedding night then you know what to do. If however you want to feel totally relaxed & happy, have an incredibly romantic & passionate start to your wedding night, when-ever that may be, then get in some practice before. As a minimum you have to know if you & your partner are compatible. Now, you're 19yrs old, by societies standards you have waited already. If you think you're ready, & you're not being pressurised, then you probably are.... enjoy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2009): 1000% if you have the self control, wait till marriage. I cannot tell you how much I regret not waiting. I was madly in love with the guy I lost it to at 18 and 16 years later I still regret it. Especially whenever I bump into him and see him around town. I had dated him for 2 years before doing it so I thought it was the right thing. We were so close and once when I dumped him he shed tears and begged me to come back to him because he loved me. We broke up about a month after we did it. All my friends, some of who lost theirs at 13/14 ALL regret. None of us ended up with the guys we lost it to. Well done for trying to think of your future at this age; most of us just didn't have this foresight.
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