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writes:please help! i am 16, and i've not really had much relationship experience. I've liked guys a lot and almost everyone in my grade has lost their virginity. I definatly don't want to lose mine yet, but what about peer pressure? Also, the guys i like, well, just say they're popular.. one of them is the most popular guy in my entire grade! And of course, popular guys, i really like both of them, and of course they aren't virgins. But lets face it, what popular guys go for virgins? It annoys me that I havn't lost it.. But i don't want a reputation as a whore and let other guys walk all over me. I don't know what to do. These two guys barely know I like them, but I don't even want to tell them in case they go off and tell their popular friends. helppp! :((
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2009): Well like everyone eles is saying. Dont do it because of pressure. Only do it when you have been with someone for a long time and you feel 100% comfortable with him. No lesser than 100% even if its .01% under. I am 19 and i think i might made a mistake. Even though im still with her now im not sure how much longer it will last. So save it until you compleatly love someone and been with him for a very long time
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2009): Sweetie you dont have to be embarrassed about this, its actually something you should be proud about! I lost mine when I was 16, I am now 23 and regret it and who it was with. As for peer pressure dont give in is all I can say dont worry about and stay strong girl! As for the guys you like dont go up to them and seem desperate but talk to them a little bit and get to know them you never know they might like you back or start to.
And good luck sweetie!
Dont give into peer pressure and stay you and true!
Embrace your virginity and innocence!
Love,
Lilly
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reader, DrPsych +, writes (8 December 2009):
 The advice from the other aunts and uncles is very good. I would just like to add that your perception that you are the only virgin left in school is WRONG. It is just that your class-mates are eloquent liars who tell everyone they have done it when most have not. I wouldn't judge your attractiveness according to your sexual (in)experience. A decent boy would respect you and befriend you, regardless of your willingness to have sex. It is so much nicer to have sex and lose virginity when you are in a proper relationship. I am not saying wait until your wedding night, but honestly in the throw-away culture we live it...it is nice to save the first-time for someone nice, who likes you and may at least have a long-term relationship with you. Lots of people regret having sex with random people - virgins or not - try not to succumb to peer pressure as it means nothing when you are older!
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reader, Illithid  +, writes (8 December 2009):
 I'm 25, male, fairly popular with a group of friends that somehow just keeps getting bigger and bigger, I've dated and even been engaged, and yet I'm a virgin. There's NO shame in that (and in my case, it was also my decision as I turned down offers). You don't want to give up your virginity? Then DON'T! There is ZERO reason for you to give it up just because others your age have, or because popular boys have. Respect yourself, do what makes you feel good about yourself, and don't worry so much about being like everyone else. Because I tell you what, if you save it for someone you really truly love, he will love you all the more back for having the self-control and self-respect to have held onto it. Guys that want you to be easy ONLY want you because you're easy.
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reader, mine-louise +, writes (8 December 2009):
hey im your age just alittle bit older but i gave in to presurre i though everyone could see that i was a virgin. so i met this guy 3 or 4 times n i reli thought he like me an i gave it to him now i see wat a mistake it was but at the time i hated be a virgin so i know how you felt.. but now i wish i had waited coz i met the most amazing guy ever an he hasnt an he 18 so dnt worrie x x take care thou x
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (8 December 2009):
Well be proud of yourself. So what about peer pressure? All right, your friends have lost it and you haven't. In a few years, most will regret having lost it to the wrong person. Don't rush, and don't beat yourself up about it. And refrain from the popular guys too, they'll be in it to use you if anything. Take your time, meet a great guy and lose it when you're ready. You'll feel much better about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2009): When did it become embarrassing to be a virgin? You will never be more desirable to a man than when you are a virgin! They love being the first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 December 2009): If you don't want to lose your virginity, then don't do it. If you only have sex just because everyone else is, you're totally going to regret it later. Do what YOU think is right, no matter what. You're only 16, you have plenty of time!!!
If a guy doesn't like you just because you are a virgin, then he doesn't deserve you. Likewise if he pressures you for sex. If I were you, I'd try to find someone else that has more in common with you.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (8 December 2009):
 So the guy of your dreams, is two guys.
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