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Sex w/o condoms safe?

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Question - (30 December 2009) 12 Answers - (Newest, 1 January 2010)
A male Japan age 30-35, *epticOrc writes:

Well, I'm a 15 year old male that has a very honest girlfriend. For the past year or so, we have been expiramenting with sexual touching, oral sex, ect,. When we we're on teh phone the other day, she asked me if I wanted to have sex. I told her I didn't have any condoms (which I thought she would say no sex then) but she still did not mind. We are both positive that either of us have any sort of STD. I was just wondering: If I do decide to have sex with her, could she possibly get pregnant, even if I "pull out" before I come? I need help here people!

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A female reader, bitch United States +, writes (1 January 2010):

It only takes one sperm to fertilize an egg. There are on average 7 million sperm in your fluid that you express when you "cum". You can pull out but when you are having sex you do secrete some fluid before you cum. So yes you can get her pregnant. I would NEVER even think of having sex without a condom. Too risky. You will regret it. Just get condoms or don't do it.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2009):

Don't ever think of having sex without having a condom, before I had my first time wit my boyfreind we got rested we got condoms and birth control, cause I'm not ready for a baby so just wait til your prepared enough for this cause you can fool around and get an STD or your girl pregnant so be careful

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2009):

Look dont have sex till you get an condom

if you love her then you'll wait till you get one

an yes you can get you pragnet duhhhh....

JUST WAITTTT!!!!!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2009):

Wow Yeah wear a condom if your gonna have sex. Seriously I have a male friend in his 20's who still to this day thinks he can just look at it and tell if a chick has an std. Its crazy you cannot look and tell if she has anything or not. And yea she can get pregnant. Dont risk it and dont risk a possible pregnancy. You do not want to be stuck with a kid at your age. Trust me been there done that I had a kid in my teens and it is no way fun plus you trully lose out on your life anything from hanging with your friends to actually having a career. I am in my late 20's and just now starting a career path and school. The saddest part about it all is I could have already accomplished this and already have been somewhere in life.

Its always going to be this way too. You never start at the top and by the time I reach the middle all these younger people will be my boss and at the top of the career ladder.

I mean its possible to get ahead in life with or without a kid but chances are and basically so are the facts you are going to put what YOU want behind you in order to provide for a child just dont be stupid if your going to do something protect yourself and your future

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A female reader, mai mai : D United Kingdom +, writes (31 December 2009):

yes she could get pregnant, oh and by the way if you deside to go ahead and have sex and she does get pregnant do not leave her even if your not ready for kids, i dobut that she is, and she cant just run away from it.

and look if you realy clear about her then respect her designs, but do whats write for her and dont get her in trouble, just wait till you get condoms.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2009):

You don't know the first thing about human reproduction or about all the various STD's that you can catch or give each other. She being very young is at a very high risk of getting the HPV virus which causes cervical cancer, condoms don't even protect against this virus and you may actually carry the virus under your fingernails. There are 43 strains of this virus that affect humans and it is one of the most common. Because your girlfriend is young, her young age is what puts her most at risk because she is not fully developed and because she is simply more susceptible to the virus at this young age.

Condoms break, you can be a daddy as quick as you can blink an eye. Sperm live inside the body for around three days and can get her pregnant even if she is on her period when you have sex.

Do you think that 2 minutes of orgasm is worth all of these risks?

What are your goals for your life? Do you want to go to college? Do you know that getting a girl pregnant will put an end to those goals? How will you support a child if one is born? Your girlfriend can make her own decision without you to keep the baby and you will be responsible for child support for the next 18 years. Talk about having a tough start in life. Do you really want a big chunk of your wages to go to child support?

Sex is for two adults who are emotionally and financially able to handle the consequences of having sex.

And here you are not knowing the answers to very important questions. It is sort of like making a decision whether or not to jump out of a plane without a parachute to collect a million dollars. Of course you wouldn't do that, but you might if you had the information that the plane was on the ground. You don't have all the facts.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2009):

Yes, you can get a girl pregnant from pre cum so dont have sex without a condom, seriously, dont even think about it, its not worth it.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (31 December 2009):

there have been case's were girls/women have become pregnant with out the penis being inside of the girl/women

all it takes is for the penis to touch the outside of her

so no its safe to have sex with condoms

it is not even safe without condoms but its much more safer with condoms

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A male reader, hello!! United States +, writes (31 December 2009):

well i remember in sex education that my friend asked the same thing and my teacher said sperm could go out even before you feel it come out, so yeah i think you could get her pregnant even if u pull it out

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A female reader, x-kitycatlok-x United Kingdom +, writes (31 December 2009):

x-kitycatlok-x agony auntI'm not going to lecture you, as I'm assuming that if you two are ready to make a decision like this then you are both fully aware of all risks, consequences, and have both decided on an action of what to do if something went wrong (such as pregnancy). So, if you two are both ready and both know all of the above, then yes. Even before you "pull out", your penis will leak pre-cum. Totally normal, however this pre-cum does contain sperm that can get her pregnant. Although it is not as likely as ejaculating inside of her, there is still an incredibly high risk of pregnancy if you even enter her without a condom on.

Maybe read up a bit more before you fully decide to make this decision. You seem a little unsure about this, also. Feel free to message me if you need any more advice, and I can try and help in more detail then.

Good luck xx

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A female reader, SirenaBlusera Mexico +, writes (31 December 2009):

SirenaBlusera agony auntThat is, sex without condoms. It´s practically suicide. Don´t do it! You shouldn´t even be having sex at your age!

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A female reader, SirenaBlusera Mexico +, writes (31 December 2009):

SirenaBlusera agony auntARE YOU KIDDING??!???!

That is precisely how people become pregnant and catch STDs.

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