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writes:the thing is is that i want to have sex ( lose my viginity to ) with my older cousin.he is only older than me by 2 years and we are very close.he shows me love and we kiss and he fingers me and once got close to having sex.i love my cousin and don't think this is weird at all.just thinking about losing my virginity to him is making me horny. i want him to eat me out and be my first. but he's my cousin. what should i do ?
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reader, snaredrum10 +, writes (2 January 2010):
i understand how you feel, though some people may not agree. i too have feelings towards my cousin and i think if he agrees you should do it. if you truely care for him there should be no problem, though you also have to think about your family. if they found out they wouldnt be to happy would they? its all up to how much you love your cousin in the end. just hope ya make the right choice, GOOD LUCK!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): If you are part blood related, this is going to cause issues within your family should people find out.Maybe not, but more than likely its going to be very upsetting for the rest of your family.You're also still young, and there are going to be lots of occasions later in life to lose it to someone that would be a little less awkward.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 December 2009): don't do it, trust me.. 5 years from now it'll just be awkward.. do not.
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reader, HonningKanin  +, writes (21 December 2009):
 Hmm, wow people seem not to realise how common first cousin marriages and couplings are.
Just to name two people off the top of my head who married their cousins was Charles Darwin and Albert Einstien. Charles Darwin had Emma Wedgwood had 10 children only 3 of whom died from diseases that were rampent in killing many Victorian children, like Scarlet Fever and tuberculosis.
Its only when you bottle your community off to massive amounts of inbreeding do you get malformations. Like the Omish community. There you can only marry your neighbours whom are already related to you several times over.
As for the original poster, I would like to say I understand you are attracted to your cousin and may feel as though you are inlove with him, but you really need to be sure that this isn't just for thrills for him. Sneaking about is half the fun I am guessing.
You will also have to think about the social implications f you possibly became pregnant. Yes sex does leed to pregnancy so it is a possibility you will have to account for. Are you yourself ready to take on that responsibility alone never mind having to tell your family who the father is?
Try and wait till you have a clear understanding of the relationship you have with your cousin before you do anything with him along those lines. If he is inlove with you and wants to have a relationship with you, I guess there is nothing, apart from the laws in your state, that could stop you. You may lose friends and family over this matter so make sure it is worth it.
HonningKanin
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): it's just wrong,may or may not be illegal where you live,but it's just wrong!just think how it would be to bring your new love to a Cristmas diner and introduce him to your family.whatta shock!your parents and his are all gonna wonder where the hell they went wrong,because it just aint right.you're young,and you're probably hot.find somebody else to give your v-card to.there's gonna be plenty of other guys you will get close/closer to,and for god sakes,keep his fingers outta you!
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reader, greg290352  +, writes (21 December 2009):
 Many people feel close to their cousins. I feel close to my younger female cousin. There is no legal reason why you ought not to have a relationship and little risk to any baby which might be born as a result. I'm sure you will feel more relaxed with your cousin and he will treat you with care.
Really it comes down to what effect your relationship might have on your family. Of course if you are both careful there is no reason why they need to know.
Good luck :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): to me its more of a question of the long term effects. Would your families be torn apart if it was ever found out. I know 3 couples of first cousins. 2 have been married for more than thirty years. One opted against children (their fathers are twins). The other has 3 beautiful intelligent children. (one is my sister in law). Also i have a casual friend who has been in a relationship with his first cousin for more than 20 years. They fought the attraction in their youth, married others, had children , divorced and gave in to their love. They live together. But it has a lot to do with whether your family can deal with the issue should it progress. I never considered my first cousins as potential relationship material..but i had a male cousin who tried to experiment with me. He was just gross. I did play around with a third cousin, and married my fourth cousin. Im not advising you to do this...in fact i think its a bad idea, because of all the fallout from society. But i dont think its incest, or gross. It will just cause you to deal with a lot of things that could return to haunt you at every family get to gether. Think it through and be careful. Think with your brain and not with your hormones. Best of luck, mal.
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reader, Sadnat  +, writes (21 December 2009):
 ileagal or not thats gross!!! you are family!
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (21 December 2009):
 She can google the laws on first cousns and deathly theres no scentific fact provng that babies born form first cousin have any more chance of birth defect then any other baby. theres several articles on it and no one is sure when t comes to first cousins in many socetes ts pretty normal and they dont seem to have any problems.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): He is your first cousin. If you play your morality card correctly he will be in your life for a very long time as your family.
I personlly think this is very wrong, this relationship may not be legal in your state for say marriage.
How would your family feel finding out that you two have a sexual relationship?
What are you going to do when this stops?
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reader, Deathly-Afraid +, writes (21 December 2009):
 Whoa, whoa, whoa, slow down Im just going to say that I think that is illeagal in most states. And I don't have all of the answers, but you're so young and your hormones are probably through the roof and beyond right now. And trust me I'm your age I know what its like to just want to rip off your clothes and make love passionatly like they do in the movies. But life is not like that, you have to think first its a mind over matter situation for you right now. Your loins say yes now but later your mind will regret it. And trust me we all have that cousin that we have funny feelings for but don't take those feelings and run with them. Not to be mean but its kind of creepy. also here is somthing to think about once you have sex you're going to keep wanting it. And maybe down the road somthing happens and you get pregnant with this cousin, there are many birth defects that can take place too. As well as legal cases that will be pitted against you. Im not saying don't do it Im just saying look at all of the angles before you jump in and make your decision.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): what i can tell you is that you need to go out there focus on good thing you want first one day you will meet someone who will love you, because what you want to do is disgusting.
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reader, RAINORFIRE +, writes (21 December 2009):
My sisters oyur age she told me what a V- Card was i thought it was for a cell phone the first time i heard some one say they lost there v card and i was like that sucks cuse cell phones arent cheap and all your contacts are on it any way Your a teenage girl of course your all hot and bothered and your probably not going to be thinking 100% rationally
Things to consider, What will your family think if they find out
are you prepared for the potential consequences of sex Ranging from A to Penicillin.
if you think you can handle it and its not illegal (because of age mostly) where you live i would say go for it
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): hes your cousin!! thats incest, and its not the right thing to do,however much u like him and want to be with him, stop it! do you really think this is the right thing to do? what would yr family and parents think? stop now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionyes. he is my first cousin.
and i live in connecticut.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2009): Is he your first cousin?
And where do you live that you think this is okay?
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