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male
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:So a few months ago I lost my virginity to my gf. It went okay if not a little quick (which is expected) however now ive had alot of sex, I do not enjoy it. It comes down to my penis being a little on the small side. When im having sex with my gf (she never complains) I feel nothing, I never climax and tbh i'd rather do anything but go thru with it at the moment.What is wrong with me ?
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2009): You apparently are getting the mechanics of sex figured out, but there is also the mental aspects. Your brain is your biggest sex organ if it's not into it,, neither will be your body.
Get over the "too small" syndrome. Most males are not hung like donkeys as in porno flicks. Which part aside from that bothers you?? messy? awkward? rushed? cramped? Figure out those issues.
It's not a race. Take your time, slow down, enjoy all the sensations, concentrate on pleasing each other not just yourselves.
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female
reader, lovelife1437  +, writes (29 December 2009):
Good sex needs to be both physical and mental. The mental part is more important because it's what makes you really feel good when you're having it with someone special. If you're not enjoying it then recollect your thoughts about your relationship. When someone feels nothing with sex in a relationship, it could mean the feeling for the other person is diminishing then it becomes a task. Maybe if you're having it routinely then the excitement might be less and thus you're losing interest. There are endless reasons, however, if it's your g/f that is not making you excited, then you need to think about your relationship and not prolong this situation. Talk to your g/f about it maybe you can try something new and go from there. Good Luck! :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 December 2009): Ok, well first of all, I do not think that's normal. But im no dude. But maybe she's not doing her thang' right..or does she attract you sexually??? It happened to me with an ex-boyfriend (hence the X) i just loved him but more as a friend i wasnt really sexually attracted to him so when we where intimate i really didnt feel much I just tried to get it over with (horrible i know) Maybe thats happening. If not and you do love her and think shes super hot,well then i think a man should step up and help you out! But at least I tried!!! Blessings to you!
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