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writes:Well I'm 14 years old and I thought I found the guy I wanted to spend the rest of my life with... We quickly fell in love but we also faught way to much. These weren't just silly little fights they got serious to the point were he tried to kill himself and so did I. No matter how big the fight got we always got back together and pertended like nothing happened. Till one night I was at a friends and they were talking on the phone with eachother cuz me and him were fighting.he told my friend that he had sex with a girl while me and him had one of our weekly breakups this was a big deal to me cuz he lost his virginity and he promised when I was ready for sex so we could lose it together... After that we broke up and of corse got back together but it wasent the same we slowly were falling apart.. Then he told me the girl he slept with is prego with his kid now. After that we broke up and we haven't been to gether since. The problem is I can't let him go I still love him soooo much but he won't stop hurting me my friends and I feel like messing around with my heart is a game to him.. What do I do?? I've been crying for days and now I won't show my face at school scared that he will come up to me and me not knowing what to say...please help me.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 January 2010): well dats not good
n u shouldnt waste ur time on a guy in him
ur styl young and have a long way to go
but i too have a question
if a guy gets a girl pregnant
does he have to take care of da kid
or what?
how does dis wrk?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2009): This is NOT a healthy relationship! You are fourteen years old, you think you know your in love but you wont know, your so young and you shouldnt be trying to take your life over a guy! No guy is worth that! And as for himj getting this other girl pregnant! He obviously doesnt love you that much if hes off having unprotected sex with some girl!!
You need to keep your head held high and search for a new guy. He is not worth it and dont waste your tears over this loser. x
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 December 2009): You do not want to be with this man. I know you are in love, and it feels aweful being apart etc, but sit down and think for a while. Being with him was horrible. You felt like killing yourself, he felt like killing himself. Those are not good signs!!! Also, he brok eyour trust, and the promise, and he slept with someone else. Not only that, but he was also showing NO responsibility and got her pregnant. You should be very very happy you didn't give your virginity to this boy, he could have made you preggo as well, and at this time in your life, the last thing you want is to be oregnant with a boy who can't take responsibility, is a boy and not a man, doesn't keep his promises, sleeps around, and makes you want to kill yourself.Good riddance. And I feel sorry for this girl he made pregnant when he wasn't even serious with her.
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reader, DrPsych  +, writes (11 December 2009):
 If he behaves this badly when you are in the early years of dating...imagine what it would be like to be married to the low-life! He is just a teenage boy who made a mistake, don't plan your future around him. There are lots of people in the world who will disrespect you...the key to a happy, successful life is knowing when to run away from such behaviour. People will treat you how you let yourself be treated. I am not saying it is your fault he got someone pregnant - that was just his own stupidity and lust. It is your responsibility to yourself not to take him back or else you will end up as a doormat to be walked on. Learn a life lesson from this...if you are fighting a lot, the relationship is not working and isn't the basis for a long-term future. When you meet the right boy then you will know it is great because he won't treat you badly at all. In the meantime, concentrate on YOU and YOUR future as an independent, single young lady - that means education, building resilience not to have your heart-broken and taking care when choosing boyfriends. If you feel bad right now, imagine how the other girl feels - she will have a baby to take care of soon from that one night stand, and that is a life-long commitment thanks to one mistake with one boy!
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reader, pinktopaz +, writes (11 December 2009):
You go to school, look your best, have fun with your friends, and act like you don't give two shits about him. Don't talk to him anymore either! You'll stop crying and thinking about him with time, but it won't stop if you keep talking to him and start the sick and twisted breakup/get back together routine. It'll get better and a couple months from now, you'll realize that you were never really in love with this bafoon. If he talks to you about anything, tell him he needs to put his focus on his new girl and child on the way.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (11 December 2009):
 You ask what you should do, I hate to be harsh here, and I am not really into appearing hard hearted but what I think you should do is give thanks it wasnt you he got pregnant!
What a LUCKY BREAK!
Of course, if you prefer to be in the middle of a big dramatic scene, you could get back together with him, have a breakup every week for the heck of it, fall pregnant, have him lose the plot and decide he want to be the baby daddy for the other girl not you, and then you could leave school and raise your child as a single mother for the next ohhh 60 years or so.
I know which I would chose to do, and I would follow that up with some head down backside up hard work at school to improve my chances of getting a better job and I would aim for the stars. If you feel you need revenge, let me tell you from personal experience your success in life is the best revenge you can have.
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