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Archived questions from: July, 2009 (see latest in Trust issues category)

Trust issues: Help and advice

Please help me cope with this shame..

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - i have a great girlfriend, i love her to the point of dying, though i have done something stupid, as i sit here i wonder what all of you will think of this but i really use feed back as a way to cope with everything. so me, my girlfriend who i...

Should I stay with my bf in this circle of revenge?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Hi everyone. So I've been going out with my boyfriend for just a little over 10 months now. We have had two major problems throughout our relationship, otherwise everything has been great. In about the third month of our relationship he started to ...

I love him amd know he can be a better man, but his past demons creep into our lives

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31 July 2009 (M) - I have been in a relationship for just over two years. The man I am dating has had financial problems from the very beginning. Of course I have helped him out but this has put a strain on our relationship. IN addition to this he has also lied to me ...

Did my husband text her acknowledging a lunchtime blowjob?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Hi again everyone. Just an update about the 'situation' and more need for help. I am the wife trying to come to terms with the texting husband and discovered more texts on his old phone, one calling her a 'dirty little minx' but none of ...

She's up late at night doing who knows what? Is this a sign she is cheating?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - My gf says am not payin her any attention and that one day i would regret it...now ever since we met i have been there for her emotinally and all the rest of it and lately i've realised that she 's up late at nights doing god knows what. dear read...

I'm so frustrated I think I want out of my marriage!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5596 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - Ok so me and my husband have been married for 3 years going on 4 next month. We have our ups n downs but lately we have been fussin just bout anything and I got to the point where I want out of the marriage.he keeps trying to control me (at least ...

So confused, sick and tired of my relationship!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5597 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - I'm really starting to get sick and tired of my relationship. I have been involved with this guy for three yrs. I love him dearly , but I have a trust issue with him and I am trying hard to get over the fact that he has lied to me in the past. When ...

I feel hopeless... Is he ever going to stand up for me? Should I leave and try to find a new life without him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5597 days ago

31 July 2009 (F) - I feel hopeless, violated and disrespected I have been with the same man for over 7 years, also we love each other very much, of late it seems like nothing is happening. We have some problems, but three of the most prominent are the constant int...

Living through a nightmare with her family! I'm scared for her and for my family!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5596 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - Until October last year I was living with my fiancé and our 2 little boys aged 3 and 1 but the oldest child has special needs and also he isn't my biological son but I treat him no different, love him as if he was my own and there isn't a day that ...

I'm just not comfortable with her going out and drinking with a bunch of single guys!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

31 July 2009 (M) - Me and my girl friend have been together for almost 3 years. Everything was great til about 2 months ago when she said she wanted to go out and party and get drunk and go downtown with her friend. We have never been the couple to do all that. So it ...

How do I confront my partner about his cheating?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5597 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I've been with my partner for over 7 yrs. He has cheated on me once, early in the relationship when it was not 'exclusive' but it hurt me a lot. About 6 months after that I went through his phone and found lots of intimate messages between him and ...

Does he still have something for me or is it because he saw I'm a model?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5511 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I used to like this guy a year ago. I could tell he liked me too cuz his body language said a lot. Then I went to a party and hooked up with some guy he never talked to me I guess he was heartbroken.. Then online for months I would write him ...

Is she lying? She didn't bleed when we first did it!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5588 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - Hello, my question is my gf said that she was a virigin before me, but wouldn't that mean that when we first had sex that she would bleed? Or is she lying about me being the only one? I do trust her but Im not sure because she didnt bleed when...

How do I show my girlfriend I love her?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5564 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - I have been with my girlfriend 3 yrs and she recently asked if i loved her. i was quite angered by this as she knows i do. what things should i be doing to let her know how much i love her other than the occasional flowers, chocolates etc?...

Ways to deal with my aggressive mother...

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - I'm bisexual and have been in a relationship with a guy for eight months now. I spend weekends at his, and make up excuses to my parents who are conservative and petrified/repulsed by homosexuals. To the point that any defence of homosexuality is ...

How do I avoid this feeling of anger?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5597 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - hi i'm afraid that my boyfriend doesn't appereciate me enough,he doesn't communicate enough and i'm afraid that i also get angry too fast...how do i avoid this feeling of anger?...

What is love really - I just don't want to be hurt again

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5597 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - I just wonder if most of what we call attraction is just our animal instincts to mate, and we call it love? Does anyone know what love is? I've heard it labelled so many things, anyways, I think I've found a girl im in love with but I am so afraid ...

Do you think she'll cheat and be with another guy?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5597 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - Me and my girlfriend have been going out for 9 months. She is on holiday at the moment in Italy with her aunt, but she has gone camping, and has her own tent. For some reason, I keep thinking she is going to cheat on me, depsite the fact that she ...

I've tried to trust but just can't. I don't want to be alone forever!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5597 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I was sexually abused when i was a child so i have very little trust in men as i've got older the guys i've dated have been abusive and cheated on me. Now i'm at the stage where i just can't trust, i've finally met a guy who treats me like a ...

My girlfriend's neighbor...

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5597 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - I have been in a long distance relation for a few years now. We are both looking into avenues that will finally put us in the same city. No luck so far. Anyway, my question is about a re-occuring issue we've had. Let me start by saying that my ...

How can I get my boyfriend to trust me again?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5596 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - I dunno what to do, i have been with my boyfriend on and off for about 2 - 2 1/2 years. We split for about 6 months in 2008 and i had no idea that in 2009 we would get back together. When we split after i while i decided to try dating again, and i ...

Her daughter told me she is cheating on me...who do I believe?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5597 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - i got a question for you all.. i have been in a long distance relationship for 12 months. 3 months ago my girl cheated on me with another ..he was an old boyfriend..she said it was the distance and booze that helped her do it.. she said that in wil...

I want happiness but I'm so afraid all the time!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5598 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - Hi, I am female just turning 41. I have been involved 2 marriages since i was 18 and have had a domestic violence marriages. I am aware of attracting those kind of man and have been working on that problem. My issue is now that I have been involved ...

What is he really thinking of when we make love, me or porn stars?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5583 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - i have been with my boyfriend nearlly 2yrs now. i am 18 and he is 21. we use to kiss and cuddle all the time but now we dnt do it very often. he never gives me sex i get it once a week. i am a pretty girl i am slim and smart dressed i like to make ...

My mum-in-law-to-be's questions make me feel like I'm in a police station!

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5597 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - right so my partner and i have been going out over 2 years but mum asks loads off questions and i duno what to answer as i can say pretty silly stuff, witch can make me very stupid and some questions makes me uncomfortable. i cant say to my bf as he ...

Is he trying to get me pregnant again?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - My partner and have an 11 month old and have had a few financial difficulties over the last year. We both want more kids (I'm thinking 2, he wants 3) later on when I'm finished with school, financially caught up, and have a ring on my finger ...

He won't let me end it but it seems he needs a break?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5596 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - my boyfriend of 10 months has been really distant lately, sometimes hes really lovey dovey and i times hes makin comments like i dont think were gonna make our relationship ship last a year.. i found a couple of girls numbers in his phone.. he wont ...

Does he want to get back with me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5597 days ago

30 July 2009 (F) - okay, so i was in this relationship for 6 months... i was in love with the guy ..when the summer started things started changing becuase he was broke and we coudnt really go out and have fun .. so it was if the relationship was fading but the love ...

Need help with steps to get her back

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5598 days ago

30 July 2009 (M) - hello, I am 21 and have been in a relationship with a girl for a little over a year. We were coming up on our anniversary with the titles as boyfriend and girlfriend. she just just broke up with me last wednesday because she fell out of love wit...

Insecurites over boyfriend watching porn!

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5584 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - my boyf looks at porn which in return makes me feel as i am not good enough for him!! i dont no what to do it affects me everyday even when were watching the tele.. and there are some naked girls on there to shopping where he can look at girls.. hes ...

Why did I act as such a fool? Have I lost him for good?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Hello there, I'd like some advice on how to stop feeling like a complete fool and move on after breaking up with my bf of 9 yrs. I'm sorry if this is a bit long, bit here goes... I met him 9 years ago at Uni, fell in love hard and fast, and 2 ...

Why did she lie to me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5598 days ago

29 July 2009 (M) - I was dating a girl for a while and when we got together she told me she was single, now I come to find out that she would go back and forth between me and her ex boyfriend. We would be pissed about it but she tells me she wants to be with me and we ...

Five years and still waiting for the date!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5594 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - I have a dilema... I have been with my fiance now for 5 years and counting. We are currently in a custody battle with his ex over his son and i have tried so hard and worked so hard through all of it for him and with him. I am just not sure that he ...

Should I forgive my husband?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - After 32 years of reasonably happy marriage, I suspected my husband was messing around with another woman. I asked him what was going on he told me his feelings for me had changed. He had strong feelings for another woman and she felt the same. It ...

Am I right to have pressed charges? And why would he do these things?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Hi I am taking my ex to court, for fraud theft and dwoc, I am due next week to appear. I was seeing this guy for 6 months, we had a lovely relationship, (so I thought) basically he stole money from my bank account by stealing my card. And taking...

Why are guys so stupid, why do they want to be players?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - I'm a 21 year old girl in college, and I love being single and independent. I was in love with a guy who dumped me after a couple months for not putting out (I'm a virgin) and I don't want to have a boyfriend for a while. I've made out with this hot ...

An innocent flirtation, two months of fighting

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

29 July 2009 (M) - My girlfriend of two years won't let me go to an old job because she found out I flirted with a customer once. She found out looking through my emails at a message I sent to another friend, in which I told them the full story and even admitted that ...

I like him alot, but I find it hard to trust men. Please Help

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5598 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - ok, so if your reading this your amazing, and if you reply your a saint. I am lily and i am 16 years old. now i've known this guy named... bob for almost 4 years now.and we were kinda distant friends the whole time. but about a few months ago i ...

Do I just let him go and forget him, or do I keep trying to make this work?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - Hi I don't know if I should break up with my boyfriend or try and make it work? I am 22 and have been with my boyfriend nearly 4 years (he is 25.) We are mostly happy but have broken up a few times, and have had periods of intense arguing and ...

My BF thinks I'm losing interest cause he never receives my texts

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - My man for seven years is all of a sudden tripping because he thinks I've been losing focus on our relationship which I'm not he's just mad because every time I send a txt he never receives it but I have proof but he thinks I'm lying what should I ...

I still love her..but does she love me?

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29 July 2009 (M) - hi i am in a separation with my wife we have 2 kids ,one she had with another guy before me but i have been there since her birth. i love them and i still love her. we have broke up before and in a matter a days she has found someone to date. one of ...

I'm 16 and pregnant..my mom doesn't deserve this big disappointment from me..should I tell her?

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 5594 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - I have a very difficult situation...2 months ago my mom finally accepted my boyfriend. I love him. and i;m so sure he's it. I'm 16 years old. My birthday is in two weeks...Anyway it was difficult to get him accepted because I'm the only girl and the ...

Is this avoiding commitment a phase or something more permanent?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 5599 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - My love life seems to be drifting right now. I'm not sure what I want and when anyone tries to get too close, I back off. I'm wondering if this is just a phase... I seem to just want some positive attention from at least a few guys at a time right ...

I was molested and nobody believes me. How do I make them see?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5598 days ago

29 July 2009 (F) - I was molested by my step dad @ the age of 4-12 when i said something to my mom she dint beleave me i was 15 when i finally said something. I was put in a foster home right away, my mom dint want to look @ me. I was to testify but befor that he died ...

Threesome question please - Advice on before, during and after

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5599 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - Hello, My Fiancee and i have been in a relationship for 12 years and still have amazing sex. First and foremost, i have always been curious about being with a woman but never tried it beyond kissing and fondling. However since i turned 40 thre...

I can't stop thinking that he stole money from me!

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 5599 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I think my boyfriend may have stolen from me, but I can't prove it. Saturday night, I came home from my waitressing job and counted my earnings and put it all away very neatly in my wallet to take to the bank. The next day, a large bill was m...

This whole year with him has been trying! What's going on?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5599 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I need help with some advice from some wise people. The relationship im in now is going sour atleast from my view it is. Its almost been a year and In the beginning my bf wasn't as bad as he is now. He cared about how I felt when he acted a way I ...

Good or bad idea to write him a letter explaining things?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 5599 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I really need some help! My boyfriend of six months and I broke up a month ago and I ahve been devastated. His mom told me a while ago that he was too. For the last month we have been in contact every day and even got back together. I pushed him ...

My blood boils with rage when a good looking young woman is present!

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 5576 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - dear cupid, my life is ruined by insane jealousy. i cannot bear any man i have been with to even look at another woman, not even on television. my blood boils with rage when a good looking woman especially if they are young and sexy are present. i ...

I feel like if I have a threesome, the other person will fall in love with my man. Have you been in this situation before?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 5599 days ago

28 July 2009 (F) - I am a bisexual woman who is dating my soulmate. He is a great guy and has all of the qualities that I have dreamed about since I was a child. I love him so much. But I am bisexual and I do have my moments where I crave other women. But I have ...